Teen who don't Drink Alcohol say that people who do drink are loosers and people who do drink say people who Don't drink are loosers Both of these groups have a point but
What do you do if you drink you a looser and if you don't your a looser to? I am lost
I am a looser no matter what I do!
How can I fit in in highschool?
Should I start having sex and being easy so people will like me what do I do?
2006-07-10 22:30:02 · 10 answers · asked by kiwi_08 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No matter what you do, there will always be people who do the opposite, and think you are a loser. You have to not concern yourself with other people's opinions, unless they are people who care about you and are supportive.
Caring about what other people think about has caused more grief than anything. So called 'peer pressure' does not have to really affect you, simply change your peers. Associate with the people who have what you want. Hang around good, honest, positive people. If these people don't want you, than that means that you first must become a good, honest, positive person yourself.
Drinking and having sex will not make intelligent, thoughtful, decent people like or respect you. Just the opposite will happen. Only immoral, ignorant people with low self esteem (most teenagers I'm afraid to say) will accept that behavior from you. And they will grow up to live unhappy lives, work in jobs they don't like, marry the wrong person and get a divorce. Is this what you want for yourself.
Remember this: You become part of what you are around and you're what you are because of what you put into your mind. You become what you think about.
Hang around bright, positive people who will encourage you to do good, who will put positive thoughts into your mind. People who car about you rather than exploit you.
If you don't know anyone like that, then start by becoming one of these people, and then others like that will eventually gravitate to you.
SUCCESS!
2006-07-10 22:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 3⤋
All I can say, is that you cannot please everyone, you have to decide if you are going to drink to "fit in" with your peers or are not going to drink.
If you are a non drinker, there is nothing wrong with that and if your friends call you a looser because of that, then you have to ask yourself are they true friends. This is your decision my child as long as no one puts pressure on you to drink then you should be ok to make up your own mind, I have an 18 year old daughter and I have never told her she can't drink, she tried it and she takes in in moderation, that was her own decision.
2006-07-11 05:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by tracy v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything because the other kids are doing it. Find some friends who are real and don't have to drink and do drugs to be kool. Don't have sex until you meet someone really special and don't give it up early. Take it from one who made a lot of mistakes. You will never gwt popular by dong what everyone else is doing...you will only get a temporary feeling of acceptance by a crowd who are disillusioned to begin with.
2006-07-11 05:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by dharmabear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, the real losers are those whom drink. they need to start studying and get a life. all they are really doing is ruining their lives physically as well as mentally. if you see people who suffer the most are alcoholics. stay in school and never be easy. easy women are what men call sl*ts. once u r smart and with a carer men will want u and u get to make the decision. it's hard at first but hard work always pays off. be yourself in a positive way and people will look up to u and admire u. losers are those who do nothing for a living. u'll get a smart and handsome men in school who'll love u and respect all ur hard work. school is for winners and alcohol/drugs are for losers. u will fit with smart people and stay away from the people who seem to be cool but in 10 years won't. the one whom will be cool is going to be u!
2006-07-11 05:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be you, why are you worried about what other people think, don't worry about other peoples opinion, especially children, stay focus on your studies there is plenty of time for sex, sex isn't going to make people like you it's going to get worse because they are going to start calling you names, you know what names i'm talking about, so dont do that be a kid while you can. Enjoy rollerskating, talking on the phone, teen parties, and school.
2006-07-11 06:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by mznatural30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know you want very much to fit in with the crowd. But as you see if you please half the people then the other half you are not going to please.
So what is the answer, NEVER try to please someone else or be something that an other wants you to be. You will always be unhappy, as you will always be doing for others, and you will not be true to your own heart and your own personality.
You will make mistakes in life as we all have done, but it is from these mistakes and these experiences we learn, grow and get to know ourselves.
Eventually we all look for that special someone to share our life with, we can only share our life completely with another when we know ourselves well and what we want out of our life and what our expectations truly are.
Our desires and expectations will also grow and change with our life experiences as we mature and learn all our own potential and what the world around us has to offer.
I know peer pressure is very hard these days, but it is much better to have maybe one or two close friends that you know are your true friends and will stick with you when things are rough and who will be forgiving of your mistakes, than have many friends that will drop you as soon as you disappoint them.
2006-07-11 05:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by celtic-tides04@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooo don't start having sex. Don't give into the peer pressure of high school. Respect yourself and your body, and that goes for drinking alcohol and having sex. To fit into high school, as clique as it sounds, seriously just be you. You will find true friends who really relate to your personality and you will be much better off. Just think about this, wouldn't you rather have a group of true friends who understand you and like you for you than a group of 'plastic' (reference from mean girls) friends, who can't think for themselves and who arn't really your friends but rather just acquaintances?
2006-07-11 05:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself. It may at times seem really hard who to follow, but the only person you have to see every day for the rest of your life is yourself.
2006-07-11 05:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by tammictal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sure go have sex with everyone then when u get pregnant the school will love you when u look nasty from staying up all night with your newborn and then listen to how everybody and i do mean EVERYBODY (students&staff) say oh thats the whore/slut who has a kid. you go right ahead
2006-07-11 07:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wut? Just don't drink. It messes with ur head
2006-07-11 06:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Diamond Baby246 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋