I am best friends with this gay couple who wishes to have a child. They asked me if i would be the mother.They dont want me to give up the child just raise the child with them.I am all for it. Does anyone have any concerns i should be aware of.
2006-07-10 22:28:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds to me like you are treading dangerous waters. First you are thrusting a innocent child into an awkward situtation at best. You say they do want you to give the child up but raise it with them... so who are the actual parents going to be? Who has final say of the child's welfare? What happens if someone moves, who gets the child? What if you decide that you don't want to share you child? What happens if they decide the same thing?
I see only confusion and pain ahead for you and your child, if you choose to do this.
2006-07-10 22:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Motherhood can be a beautiful experience. If u feel it will not hamper ur friendship with ur gay friends, go for it gal! There's nothing better than to be of some help to those around you!!
Surely, u should be prepared for any apprehension from people around u and also understand fully what u r getting urself into... for once u're in there's no turning back.
Talk it out with ur gay friends n make issues clear, reach an understanding that's fair to both parties. only if u are convinced that such a feat will not bring u emotional n physical trauma, should u proceed with it. Above all...don't give urself a reason to regret the decisions u make!
2006-07-10 22:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your male friends where they should be. You are in control so keep your power and the child and the two husbands and be happy. The woman was given a power in womanhood. Why give it away Womanhood has so much to offer for all the years of life. Like the gal who wrote on here that she was having a baby so she would never be alone in life. Now the gals who are anorexia so they don't ovulate are suffering so badly they may not ever see womanhood.
2006-07-10 23:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a plan.
You could do it the natural way and save 20,000 for the Artificial insemination.
(That just NEVER made sense to me any way. Just do the guy and get pregnant. No love needs to be involved just bend over and he can make a deposit. Done deal.)
Just that there are a lot of wrinkles to iron out.
Which man will father the child or will there be one child each?
Who's last name?
What if it doesn't work who gets custody?
Are you to live with the two of them to raise the children as a family?
Things like that need to be though about in detail prior to the "sheet wrestling."
2006-07-11 00:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where would the child live? do u all live together? would one of them provide the sperm? u should be very careful as to not confuse the child. Honestly I think it would be a mess, you should consider adopting with them. That way you can give a child a home that doesn't already have one instead of bringing a child into the world, that you may want to save to do with a man that you may later marry.
2006-07-11 19:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by blinky472 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you feel very honored they asked you. If you decide to do this, you really need to sit down and write down the pros and cons. You may get very attached to the child in the future so you need to ALL sit down decide who will be the main disciplinarian. Are you all going to live together? If not, how will you handle the scheduling of visits. What will be the financial obligations of each parent, etc, etc etc? Good luck!
2006-07-10 22:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by plenoptic_aeon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are going to be a mother use those instincts and reconize this is your flesh and blood and that any pain that child is going to go through your heart will break i think if u choose to have the child it is your right but bear in mind who is going to be the dad they have rights too i suggest talking with a lawyer to absolutly be sure your are not breaking any law so that the state can claim you unfit hope this helps god bless you and your friends
2006-07-11 00:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by shaunnapiranha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Won't you three start having debates about the child? He/she will be your child, and you'll have all sorts of motherly feelings and may become jealous... etc. The whole situation is a bit bizarre for me. They should rather adopt a stranger's kid, not yours.
2006-07-10 22:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds bad, I don't know but it just seems strange. You should raise the child yourself
2006-07-10 22:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by trickyschum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is terrible for the child!You will face a lot of problems raising it!I recommend you don' t do it
2006-07-10 22:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by heartless girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋