Is monogamy overrated in today's world?

Answer 1

If you can be a PIMP..why not... Who wants the same tired old piece day in and day out?

Answer 2

Absolutely Monogamy is another portion of human society dictating moral imperatives upon the rest of the society because not to limit our options would be in their eyes a blasphemous act. Sex is natural sex is good not everybody does it and I'm very thankful for that. Sex is often in many of today's societies confused with love. You heard me confused sex is sex that rush of hormones that raises the pulse increases the sensitivity of our skin and gives us that euphoric feeling you can't get any other way! I say get up get it on get off.....ooh Yeaaaaaaaaaaaah!
reaper is gone baby!

Answer 3

With all the STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and the emotional toll of having too many partners, I think monogamy is underrated.

Answer 4

I actually think it's underrated. But it ought to be an ultimate choice, it is not right to start up and end up with the same person, ignorant of what it is like with others. So, I think people should have some time wandering about, but eventually commit and become monogamous. It's the best choice for their offspring.

Answer 5

Yes, it is certainly overrated. Choosing monogamy should be a free choice based on a person’s particular personality and interests, but society tries to pressure us all into monogamy by stigmatizing the alternatives, and making some of them illegal. Swinging, for example, is highly frowned up by many people – to the point that many swingers fear losing their jobs, losing their friends, etc., if they are found out. People who want polyamory are in the same boat, and since we cannot marry more than one person, poly people cannot have their poly relationships legally sanctioned. In some places sex outside of marriage is technically illegal, so technically many non-monogamous people must break the law in order to live their lifestyles. And of course lots of people accuse swingers and polyamorous people of being immoral, sinners, etc., or assert that they must be unfulfilled in some way (as if monogamy were the only healthy, fulfilling sort of relationship style). What people don’t seem to understand is that monogamy is NOT the only practical and fulfilling lifestyle. For many people, non-monogamy is the BEST choice they can make. In effect, society pushes a lot of people into making bad lifestyle decisions by glorifying monogamy and vilifying the alternatives. Monogamy is NOT best for everyone, but society hates to allow anyone to live happily with alternatives. It’s part of the “one size fits all” mentality of so many people.

And notice that AlphaOne… says “it’s the best choice for offspring”…. This is another stupid and vicious myth used against non-monogamous people. It is true that parents should be in established, committed relationships, but monogamous commitment is NOT the only form of commitment. Polyamorous people are committed to each other, and can be committed to raising children just as well as monogamous couples. In fact, polyamory offers the option of something closer to the traditional extended family in which there are more family members able to support and care for the child (in contrast to the modern nuclear family in which one often finds both parents working, over-stressed, and often leaving children in daycare most of the time).

Concerning the two posts below: steelthema seems to be confused. The issues of monogamy/non-monogamy have nothing to do with incest. And Garfield is concerned about STDs, etc. Generally speaking, in swinging communities there are no higher than average rates of STD’s and unwanted pregnancies. This may seem paradoxical at first, but there are some logical explanations. First, swingers tend to have a better than average understanding of the need for safe sex. Most swingers understand the risks and take steps to minimize them. Secondly, since swingers are not limited to monogamy, there is less likelihood of them feeling trapped in a sexless relationship, and there is less likelihood that they will feel a sense of desperation in seeking sex. With the sense of freedom, and the sense of having reasonably high probabilities for finding sex, there is less sense of a need to take risks. Compare the potentials of the average swinger, with those of more mainstream types of people. For the average mainstream person, good sex is a relatively rare event, so when an opportunity arises, there is a sense of “now or never” or “I might not get an opportunity like this again.” This attitude can lead a person to take risks. Swingers, on the other hand, know that there will be other opportunities, so they can be more relaxed and don’t have to take unnecessary risks. I’m not saying that all swingers are into safe sex, but I am saying that on average swingers are not significantly more likely to have STDs than other people. I should also add that polyamorous people are often “monogamous” within their poly-group, and this arrangement (called “polyfidelity”) has the same type of protective advantages as monogamy. Bottom lines: The stereotype that non-monogamous lifestyles greatly increases STDs and unwanted pregnancies is not true. Random singles having random sex can be a problem, but people who consciously chose non-monogamous lifestyles like swinging and polyamory tend not to take the kinds of risks that average mainstream singles take.

Answer 6

eroticohio speaks well for the polygamous.
what is missing is the consequence of incest and illicit child with birth defects, so society in the mainstream advocate monogamy.

Answer 7

it's under rating with the new fads and crazes like getting pregnant and having quick marriages. like its always been said mostly all marriages end in divorce

Answer 8

yes, definitely

Answer 9

i love that game.

Answer 10

yes.