for 4 years ive tried playing the game, now im emotionally exhausted. should i just distance myself??
2006-07-10 20:40:32 · 22 answers · asked by tunachunks199 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes. They are adults. Let them deal with it. All you are going to do is drive yourself insane. I used to get into my family's BS and I almost went mad. Now whenever they call or come over b@#$%%^& I just give ansewers like really, yea, oh thats too bad. The longer you play thier game the worst it will get. Odds are if everybody stops being sympothetic they will end the relationship (or at least stop bothering you with it).
Just don't give in to other peoples ignorance, at the expense of your own stability.
2006-07-10 21:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by CYNDIITA 3 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Do not play the game be the game. That means be there for them but do not get directly involved. If you can be there as a family member and give good advice you will avoid headaches and pain. Just remember advice is given but not often taken so if they do not listen then you know that you at least tried to help. Sorry about your family getting screwed over and it does happen, but try not to help directly just verbally
2006-07-10 20:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Iceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be manipulated unless you allow yourself. What is the payback they are getting...for leading someone to believe they can be manipulated.
I am assuming your sister and dad are not devoid of brain cells. Is it possible they see the limitations of the other person but accept the overall package of their significant others? We all have weaknesses.
Just let them lead their life, ups and downs.
2006-07-10 22:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question needs to be further elaborated to arrive at exact conclusion,however in the given scenario just distance ur self because it is difficult to impose ur feeling on any body so what one can do rather to compromise or to distance.
2006-07-10 20:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by hm_pearl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is to tell them, but if you do they will just say you are jealous and probably love you a lot less. however they may be understanding and believe you.tell them but make sure you have some examples ready of why you think this. diustance ytuorself for an easy life but if you do you are not loyal to your family tell them then you are loyal and can move on knowing you have warned them, it is up to them if they listemn then. good luck to yuo.
2006-07-10 21:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by jame_football 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should show the parties abusing them that someone does take notice and that u would be watching and interfering always until they choose 2 change their attitude or else leave your family members,even if your dad and sister resent what u do..
2006-07-10 20:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by seaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As they say...been there done that! The best thing to do is mind your own business, I know it sounds cruel but they are both adults and responsible for their own lives. Forget about them and get on with your life.
2006-07-10 20:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for them. Don't interfere. Relationships like that usually burn out by the manipulator. So be ready with tissues and lots of hugs.;..
2006-07-10 20:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by SNAZZAMAJAZZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its their respective lives but you have tried leaving them to it and it obviously isn't working out and you have had enough. All you can do is talk to them about it and tell the truth. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind!
2006-07-10 20:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave them too it they are living there lives as they want to if they still can't see it. Don't distance yourself totally from them as they are your family just leave them be, but be there if they need you. People do see the light eventually :)
Good Luck
2006-07-10 20:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by ptdemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋