Ive moved to a new town, and although its only 15 miles from my old town I feel really cut off and isolated. I dont know anyone and because I work really long and manic hours its really hard for me to meet people. I havent changed jobs and I work in a totally different town to the one I live in and the one ive left (i know this is confusing) My friends arnt really making the effort to come and see me (maybe cos they all have partners, maybe not) and it always seems to be me making the effort to call or go and see them. Its just really getting to me, Im feeling really lonely and that my job is all I have. I cant go back to my old town becasue the house prices are too high. What can I do?
2006-07-10 20:39:08 · 12 answers · asked by ladyjinx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
for the record - i love my job and I have no intention of quitting!!
2006-07-11 21:37:07 · update #1
Join a club from your new town, dance lessons... other sports... just for you to go out and meet new people... Just don't stay at home on your own or you'll go crazy, believe me!
2006-07-11 01:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by black_fairy282 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to alot of people when they move to a new location.
Its the simple matter of that your friends where happy to come and see you when you were a mile or two but when you live in a diffrent part of the country they cant be bothered to make the effort.
It shows you what your friends thought of you in the first place but this should not make you sad as you now have a fantastic new chance to start your life over from scratch.
Try to meet new people and restart your life without your old friends, as soons as they see that you are doing better without them, they will come running back to you.
Good luck
2006-07-10 20:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost (and please don’t take this as criticism) move on!
Im not suggesting for one moment that you cut all ties but im pretty sure this new town has opportunities of its own.
Make a plan, do you want to meet people, occupy yourself, renovate the new house, etc etc. Just by taking steps in any of these directions your going to interact and join new and potentially exciting circles.
No-body knows you in this new place so you have carte blanche to please yourself, meet new people and do whatever it is that you like to do.
Oh, and stop doing so many hours at work, may not be easy but for your mental and physical health you need to cut it down!
I think it’s the Japanese language where the word for problem is the same as the word for opportunity, and I think they are right!
Come on then girl, put your best foot forward and good luck
2006-07-10 21:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by willw8andc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a house warming party / dinner party- invite all your mates round, so they can see how easy and nice the new place is.
Or even better invite the neighbours so that you can get to know them,
Join an evening class , so you can meet new people
It will be difficult for you initially as its a change and yes its hard. It will require a bit of effort at first.
2006-07-10 20:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by ANGEL-T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit your job for a start. No point doing such long hours, it's not what life's about ....... I used to do 6:30am starts and 7-8pm finishes working in the City, and it just wears you down. Jobs should be the income source to live your life, job should never BE your life. And 15miles is nothing, just make the effort to go over there and see them at weekends
2006-07-10 20:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make new friends in your new town, that way you will learn more about that place and come to like it and the people around it. In short begin a new life in your new town.
2006-07-10 20:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont worry about it, i done the same thing three years ago and its only been in the last year that i started to make friends with people, its not so easy when you are older but give it some time dont be too pushy and the right friends will come along when you are least expecting it. Good luck
2006-07-10 20:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by littleredgeisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try and make conversation with your neighbours even if it's only about the weather and the more you talk to them and get to know them the less isolated you'll feel you never know by xmas yous might be the best of friends. So don't worry and keep your chin up :0)
2006-07-10 20:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by claire bk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, make friends. I moved away for 6mnths once, really missin my gf, friends, met some new people, made friends moved back 2 ma new town gld i cld help
2006-07-18 02:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by jasyboi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new job in your new town.
2006-07-11 20:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋