I am a Bizman in Blore,India.This girl is practicing in a hospital in Bombay.I have a loving wife,great kids.finances are a bit tight at the moment.but in 6-8 months should be more than enough money.I meet her once in 20 days.spend the night.we have great sex life.we speak for almost one hr a day on phone.She loves me.She still wants to find someone and get married by next year.she does not want my family life to get disturbed.i hate it when she gets to meet men with marriage on her mind.Our age gap also bothers her-what will friends and relatives say is the question.She once or twice said ...she might be using me.She has strong sexual urges and needs.Wants to meet me and have sex atleast once in 15 days.In the past she dated many men-just for sex.last 18 months or so she has been exclusive.She still gets attracted to men very easily.but shares every thought with me honestly.I long for her.Its affecting my concentration on work.Q:What should i do and make of this relationship?
2006-07-10 20:32:34 · 13 answers · asked by sanjay and renu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sometimes i think... if get enough money in business,,i will give a large amount to my wife.This will take care of my family for life.I can still be a good father.I can then start a new life.In this case my girlfriend may agree.After all we have only one life.Yeah there are concerns about huge age gaps.One more thing,this girl was on verge of a mental breakdown and depressed when we met 3yrs back.Today she is almost 95% ok.She and her parents think that my love and guidance has brought her back from a hopeless state.They say i am god for them and her,Whenever i have tried to FADE away-she slid back into depression and destructive behavior.She keeps telling me that her marriage will be tough for me.She last week offered to remain unmarried for life-to keep our relationship going,to avoid hurting me...But on most occasions she has a very strong urge to get married...get beautiful status of happily married woman in the society.Q:should i quit this relationship?when and how?
2006-07-10 20:34:22 · update #1
She is a whore sent by devil to destroy yr life.
2006-07-10 20:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep this relationship going. This girl sounds weird to be having a relationship with you (no offense). It sounds as if she is manipulating you. It also sounds like she thinks of you more as a friend. I would break up with her and eventually tell my wife. However, this is your desicion, and a big one at that. Be careful of how you make it. Sorry, i have really no idea, this is just my opinion. Just never do this again man, and you need to tell your wife, just watch how you do it. Also, you should think of getting advice from a help line, personal friend, or therapist, because an internet question and answer "game" isn't the greatest place for advice
2006-07-10 20:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur question is a usual so many persons are same type contacts in the Society. But occassionally comes to light. In the instance case, ur relation is only sex. She is in the age of enjoying. If ur not to her, she can enjoy the same with another. But ur wife cannot can do. UR only with her. Hence my suggestion to leave the girl. For time being u go to another place for mental piece for the presence.
2006-07-10 20:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Somi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you were wrong to have ever been involved w/ her. you may have "helped" her, but by sacrificing the emotions and well being of your own family... do you think this will last? she will either move on, or you will regret it and may even cause her more damage in the long run! do your wife and children justice and tell your wife what has happened. see if she is so appreciative of your actions. you should never do something that your children would be ashamed of--- esp something that would hurt them tramatically!!! you very well may have just caused your OWN CHILDREN AND WIFE the very same grief and depression that you supposedly saved your little "mistress" from. way to go, great job!!
2006-07-10 20:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows where you are?? I'm not sure is your married with a long distance fling or what...
do you love your family & wife? picture your wife having the best sex in her whole life in a ritzy hotel room every few days & this could help you see the light. also, think about your kiddo walking in on your love triange...
seperate issue... how in the blue hell is someone going to pinpoint that they are going to be looking to get married next year..... awful full of herself, unless she's gonna use someone fore that too
2006-07-10 20:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lure yourself and ruin your life with that girl,I know alot of bitches here in asia that they get matured american and pretending that they love the guy but they were just fooling around and golddigger!Golddiggers are best actress and knows how to give you satisfaction in bed and let you believe that she loves you but the ***** wants your money and not you man!You said she had alot of sex experience with different men!The only thing I can advise you is go to the psychiatrist as well as get somw aids test,you might be contaminated by the *****!
2006-07-10 20:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have cheated on your wife and if you intend to give up your family for a sexy 28 year old girl, then u will be condemned!
2006-07-10 20:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by PaperCloUDs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the girl alone...you have your own family to worry about...
she needs a real man .."not you" you cheating on your wife behind her back is very wrong..you did not take your vowels to seriously...
your wife must really loves you to put up with your cheating ***..
if you want your marriage to work then keep your mouth shut and leave the other slut alone..and tell her to go on with her self...
2006-07-10 20:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by tshee70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back to your family they need you and love you very much. why do you want to betray them. try to stay far away from her and talk to her directly. she would understand you if she really love you.
2006-07-10 21:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by venus_scd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should qiut NOW!! wat kind of guy r u to cheat on ur wife! ur really messed up ! u should leave the poor gurl alone ! i hope ur wife knows 'bout this or at least finds out the true u ! ur sik !
2006-07-10 20:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by {{;*$! BIANCA_A.K.A_CARNE !$*;}} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Agree With "Manalonedubai" !!!
2006-07-10 20:46:12 · answer #11 · answered by Gabrielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋