A person whom is well known to me is a Christian and her spouse comes from another religion.The marriage has been turbulant from the start but her beliefs are against divorce.Since leaving is not an option,what are some things a spouse can do if they are with an unequally yoked spouse with an explosive personality that is up and down all the time.DO NOT LIST SEPERATION AS AN OPTION.She feels like she is walking on egg shells on the time.Sometimes hes incredibly nice to her and then he can change and become quite angry and harsh.He also does not take her advice seriously.
2006-07-10 20:30:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since she won't leave because she values rules based on 2000 year old propaganda more than her own common sense, she should just shut up and deal with the abuse...if he starts beating her, maybe she can pray to God for a lightning bolt.
I am sorry if that is out of line, but why anyone would put up with bad behavior is beyond me.
I guess the only practical solution would be to try to seek counseling, and hoep for the best...if she won't leave, she must learn to deal with his temperment.
2006-07-10 20:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by taishar68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be friends with your ex.......... its nice when it works out that way, but its not needed to be an effective co-parenting team. Sadly, your ex is not a man as I would define a man..... he is a boy who feels that he has to build up his mistress by knocking you down. I am sure that she encourages it to make herself feel better and.......... in a few weeks or months, when she leaves him for her next victim........ she will be happy cuz the rift that she's opened between you and your ex will be a big one. Wish there were some grow up pills you could give your ex. Wish he has that part of his brain that says that there's no reason for him to bad mouth you. This is not the case, however. Time is a great healer, but there's an expression that I heard once that might be of interest to you: Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels......... Karma won't be pretty when it comes around on the mistress... or your ex..... but meanwhile you have to rise above the fray. Focus on your kid...... give her the best of you in a difficult situation and things will even out. Probably very soon. Good luck to you
2016-03-27 00:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she will not divorce him, her only other option is to just continue walking on egg shells. I wish there was something more for her but she is letting her beliefs control her life and she is just going to have to live with it. It's sad but true. The christian faith also believes that you can teach by example, maybe her husband will learn something from her and change.
We all have certain beliefs we hold on to that control things in our life; but if we could let those beliefs go, we would be much happier people.
All you can do is be supportive and hopefully she will learn to have more respect for herself somewhere down the road. Good luck.
2006-07-10 20:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very very difficult situation. First of all pray about it (I'm sure she's done this already) Secondly, in order for her to remain a beautifull person and not fall into bitterness she has to be as good to her husband as she can be. When he is harsh or angry she should repay him with kindness and mercy. It will take a lot of patience and love. It is almost impossible to stay angry with a person who is good to you so her husband will come around. Make sure to put his and her name on the Churches prayer chain so that this matter can be presented to God on a daily basis. I pray God's blessing over this marriage.
2006-07-10 20:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by SweetyPie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get this person some serious help!
He may be bi-polar, and may need some anti-depressants to keep him on an "even keel".
People with anger management, need counceling, and it sounds like he is a candidate for it.
I would advise her to get some counceling. If he doesnt go with her, then she should go alone to see what she can do to augment this situation. She needs to recognise the "buttons" so that she can avoid them, and not upset this guy.
Like the bible says, you should never be unequally yoked, and your girlfriend is a prime example of that!
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-10 20:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kindof have that situation, like if he is mad at someone at work he comes home and picks a fight with me, well he used to until I did this. Whenever he says something mean to her she can reply one of 3 ways, silence, drop to her knees and start praying out loud for god to forgive him for his anger, or start repeating out loud "I do not receive your negativity." After about a month of doing these 3 things everytime my husband got a wild hair up his butt and thought he could talk to me crazy,(he never knew which one I was going to do) he does not approach me like that any more. Now when he wants to talk he usually starts with a question to check my mood. Now if this man is physically abusive, I don't condone her staying, and he might snap if she does the afor mentioned advice, tell her to use her best judgement.
2006-07-10 20:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by simplyfabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they need to seek the advice of a professional - be that a therapist or the leader of their church.
Maybe he needs medication - sounds like he has bi-polar disorder! or something to atleast even out his moods so the swings aren't so extreme!
I'm not sure what else to suggest, other than maybe helping her talk to her husband so he can see from someone else that the situation is more serious than he knows.
Good Luck!
ALoha!
2006-07-10 20:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound weird, but I would advise her to just do as the Bible says. Honor, respect, and love him and submit to him as the leader in the home(so long as it doesn't involve converting to his religion or doing something else wrong).
He will be impressed (and hopefully won) by her quiet submission and honor and respect of him as the leader in the home, and God will honor her efforts as well.
2006-07-10 20:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian and I got divorced. I stayed way too long and it hurt everyone. God doesn't call us to be in abusive marriages.
If your friend thinks it is a sin, then she can talk to God and say she is sorry, please forgive me. Then she needs to get safe.
God loves us enough to understand that sometimes we need to end a marriage.
2006-07-10 21:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DR.J/MR.H personallities are most likely caused by alcohol/drug abuse.Get out before you are to live in a living HELL.IVE BEEN THERE,I am a recovering alcoholic,15 yrs sober(AA).YOUR CHOICE NOT GODS
2006-07-11 02:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by lickit4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋