My husband hit me a few weeks back and gave me a black eye, I warned him not to do it again and just last night after drinking he gave me two black eyes. Should I leave him or just trust that he really does love me?
2006-07-10 20:27:13 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd call the cops on him, have him thrown in jail and then leave because it'll just get worse and you deserve better...It might be hard at 1st but every day will get better. Go to the police station and file the report that way they can go pick him up without endangering yourself again. Good Luck!
2006-07-10 20:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Don 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Trust in his love isn't an issure. A man can love you and kill you the next minute. You need to get away safely.
Look in your local phone book and find a local woman's group that helps women who are in domestic violence.
Don't wait around for the next beating. Even if this guy loves you more than anything, he is abusive. Chances of that changing is slim. Chances of you getting seriously hurt or killed are high.
Don't tell him that you are leaving. It is sure to make matters worse. He can promise you he will never do it and be very loving and charming. And then he will do it again, hurt you, then say he is sorry. This will repeat until you either leave him or die.
Make an escape plan. Make sure you take your important things.
If you can't find a womans support group call the cops.
If you can,]ake pictures of your injuries. Hopefully you will be gone before he has a chance to hit you again.
It is very important that you do every thing you need to do to keep yourself safe. Don't believe any of his promises.
If you don't get out of there in time you need to call 911 if he hits you again. Get out of there before that happens. Once you are gone, don't see him without a police escort.
Remember love or not, he is abusive.
Get out fast, the sooner the better. And make sure someone sees your black eyes.
2006-07-10 20:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK if I punched you in your face what do you think that meant ? Leave his sorry butt he don't love you. When a man truly loves you he will never put a hand on you. Once a hitter always a hitter. Get out of that he can even kill you. Is he worth that ? No and don't give me no BS about he won't kill me. Cause one hit can do you in. You can hit your head falling or something. what then ? He's a drunk bum who's a woman beater. Oh yeah you have a prized man there. Get some self esteem
2006-07-10 20:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not love, even if he says it is. Respect, dignity, and safety are vital in a meaningful, loving relationship, and that's not what you've described.
1. File a report with the police. If you do decide to leave him (and you should) then it will be important to document your injuries. If not the police, see a doctor. If not a doctor, make sure you've discussed this with a trusted friend and take pictures.
2. Get counseling for yourself to help you make the right decisions about handling this.
2006-07-10 21:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by profJohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man once hit u be sure he will do it regulary and again and again,...then if u dont have any problem by get hitted from ur husband continue this marriage and if no u have any respect for ur body and ur mental health its better to cut this relationship...cuz thats not in his hand .....he is the hitter type specialy after he tasted that ...
2006-07-10 20:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the heck out of that abusive relationship!!! NO man should ever treat a woman that way, let alone his own wife. He may have loved you to begin with, but now you are just an object to him. Something he can beat up, then throw away. Get out of there. You deserve SO much better. Good luck.
2006-07-10 20:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you dont have any more eyes left maybe the next step for him is to break an arm or a leg, so i think if you really love him you will stay with him and let him beat you till you are black and blue and if you have kids let them see it too. now doesnt that sound dumb, just like your question, dumb. what do yo uthink you should do? what do you think everyone is going to tell you, what do you want for your family to see you 6ft under?dont be dumb, pack your shi.t and get the f%&# out of there.now!!!!!!!!!why stick with a loser that like to hit women? why stick with a guy that isnt even a man and that doesnt love you, because if he did , he wouldnt hurt you.
2006-07-10 20:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may or not love you. Question is will you be able to cope with this kind of husband relationship. Its wounding your perception of love, its a thwarted kind of love. He should be protecting you as if his own flesh. He needs help and intervention from above...i.e if you know what i'm talking about. You cant change him...can you accept it if this continues on and on? But i admire you to press on to keeping your marriage alive....cos your vows of "for better or for worse". If there's no other kind of help, i dont know how you will not end up a nervous wreck if principles matters so much to you like it does to me.
2006-07-10 20:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming this is a serious question, and not some kid playing a prank, there is only one answer, and you already know it.
LEAVE HIM NOW! He will not change, he will only beat you worse, and then your children as well. Wife abusers do not change. I don't care how many stats you throw at me, and I don't care how much you think he loves you; he will keep on hurting you because he can.
I urge you to please get some help; no one deserves to be a victim.
2006-07-10 20:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by taishar68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, you need to find a women's shelter, someplace safe, and just leave him.
He is out of control, and unless he gets some serious counseling and makes some major changes, there is no reason at ALL to think he won't do it again.
2006-07-10 20:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋