2006-07-10 20:04:04 · 5 answers · asked by monika s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i think one of the things you'll have to do is to help your mom see beyond the physical defects that he has.
prepare her to meet him (she hasn't yet, i assume) by telling her over a period of time (2-3 months, maybe) that you think you've met this great guy and that you're in love. tell her why and how you fell in love with him, stressing how he cares for you and why you find him attractive.
don't let both of them meet during this time, 'cos your mom may not be ready to take the shock yet.
towards the time when you want her to meet him personally, start dropping small hints... perhaps like telling her small accidents that his disability might get him into, without revealing all at once. gradually increase the number and openness of the hints. then one day take her out for a good dinner, sit her down, and casually tell her about his problem. ask for her blessings on your marriage with him and tell her again what you like about him.
regarding how it might affect your children with him, you might have to repeat the process again... it depends on her response on hearing about his problem.
i suggest that you take some time to do this, 'cos if yu rush it your mom may not be fully prepared or receptive to the idea. she's gotta understand what's so good about him that you'd wanna spend the rest of your life with him.
2006-07-10 20:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by curi05ity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say...
mom, the guy i love and want to marry can't see properly and his problem may be hereditary.
then you say:
but he has had a long time to learn how to deal with it, and if our children should have the same problem, he will know how to help them.
you might even add:
the fact that his vision is not perfect doesn't make me love him any less, or any child we may have, and i can't imagine giving up my happiness over something like this. i need him to be happy, mom. if you want my happiness more than you want any specific plans you might have made about how i would achieve it, please support my decision.
2006-07-11 03:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure, but what you need to know is that sometimes it skips generations and future children may be unaffected by it. from my family, three out of my four grandparents cant see well, but my parents are okay, and im their only child with vision problems.
2006-07-11 03:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by tony's girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you please type properly and not be lazy it makes it hard to read the question
it should be against the law to type/spell like that.
your asking a serious question. Maybe people who would know this answer might answer if it was spelled correctly.
2006-07-11 03:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by miscillia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering how well medicine has advanced, I can't see (no pun intended) this being a problem.
2006-07-11 03:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by taishar68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋