we were having sex about two months after we got together and im the only one to have her was i wrong for wanting to be with her or was her parents or and no one in her family knew that we were having sex and they didnt like me anyway weve been together for eight years and she was a virgin when io met her i knew that i would marry her the second i saw her i thought she was older about 19 or so i never brought up her age untill after about a week or so and by then it was too late i already loved her more than i knew possible and she felt the same wa i am asking because people in her family still resent our relationship are they overreacting or what (in my culture it is typical to be older than your wife my family had no problem at all)
2006-07-10 19:24:42 · 13 answers · asked by jcooper0411@sbcglobal.net 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
AGE DOES NOT MATTER! As long as you truly love your wife, and she feels the same way about you, it doesn't matter how old you are. I'm four years older than my boyfriend; I thought it was weird at first, but it really doesn't matter.
2006-07-10 19:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by metalheart19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem when I was 16 years old I met and started dating a 22 year old man, My family didnt really have a problem with it (I wasnt living at home at that time) but his mother totally had a hate on for me and thought we shouldnt be having sex etc and we even decided to tell her I was a year older than I actually was at the time. but she still had an irrational hate for me because she thought I was too young to be dating her son. I was with him for 3 1/2 years and she never got used to the age difference and was always acting like we were doing something soo bad. I hated it because I wanted her to like me but after a while I came to the conclusion that you cant make people understand that love has no boundaries, and I just gave up and accepted that she had tunnel vision and would never change. I think that your wifes parents are being irrational because you have not only proven that you love thier daughter but you are still with her and she has chosen to stay with you......Thier opinion doesnt matter they are overreacting and will probably never change because they are close minded and dont look past the age difference to the love you 2 have for each other. My advice is to ignore them whenever possible because they are being irrational.
2006-07-11 00:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly + Eternal Universal Energy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are treating her properly, putting a roof over her head making sure she has enough to eat. Clothing for her and all the other amenities of life, then after eight years I would not worry about it. The only one you need to make happy is yourself and your wife and in that order, because if you are not happy then how can you make her happy. If your love your self, then you can love her and she can love you back. If your in laws have a problem then that is there problem not yours. Enjoy life, be happy and marriage is a sacred union. There will always be people that are jealous whether they be in laws, outlaws, neighbours,friends or strangers. Do not worry, the result could impede your judgement for something that is necessary to worry about. Good luck. Be happy.
2006-07-10 19:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by twentyeight7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on what the age of consent is on your State. maximum US States that's 18. the significant question is what does a 17 12 months previous female ought to furnish an just about 25 12 months previous guy?
2016-10-14 08:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with the age difference. I do have a problem with promiscuity in general. There are very good reasons God directs us not to have premarital sex. Among them is the heart knowledge that since you showed the restraint it takes to hold off until marriage is a good indication you have the restraint not to cheat on her and that she has the restraint not to cheat on you. Much more to list than can be expressed here on this topic.
2006-07-10 19:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong, because you did not rape her, or molest her, or abuse her. You loved her, and sex is a very natural thing to do when the people are in love. However, you are the only one that knows if she was physically ready to enjoy it as much as you did.
2006-07-19 10:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by sheba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always "mature" for my age. AT age 16 I dated guys in their 20's. My parents had to have been morons if they didn't realize I was sexually active. It sounds as if you really love your wife and she is fortunate/
2006-07-10 19:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by amazonactivist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand her parents to an extent. i know how i'd feel if she was my daughter. you just want to protect them. but after this many years of you both together maybe they should be thankful that you didn't take advantage of her and that you still love her.
2006-07-10 19:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sort of wrong cause u didn;t tell her parents plus ur age is so far from each others.
2006-07-10 19:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by London girls other account 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late to worry about it now, just let sleeping dogs lie and dont cry over spilled milk.
eight years together says all you need to say...
2006-07-10 20:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋