ok i am a 16 year old and my parnets have been divorced since i was 3 or so. recently my dad remarried to this woman i relaly dont like but i put up with her because of my dad but even more recnetly he accused me of defacing some of her property which is something i would never do and i got pissed and since then we have been at odds. i really dont like this woman but her parents are nice but i dont feel any kinship to them. they had thier anniversery this past friday the grandparntes that is. do i have a resposiblity to call them and wish them a happy anniversery or buy them a present?
2006-07-10 19:19:45 · 11 answers · asked by penguinxcrossing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In this case I would not call it an obligation really, but more like a nicety. If they have been kind to you in the past and have treated you with respect, then yes, I would send them a card with a little note congradulating them. It doesn't mean you are trying to get Kudo pnts with the step-mother either. It just means that you respect your dad and this is now part of his family, they have been kind to you even if the step mother has not. Don't let your feelings for her ruin your relationship with your father or the other new extended members of your family.
2006-07-10 19:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Fancygal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when i was 4.. my father remarried when i was 7 .. my biological grandparents all passed away by the time i was 6 and i was always sad because all my friends were always going to see their grandparents for holidays and such.. during my teenage years i could barely stand my step mother mostly because my mother didnt like her so i felt i had to be loyal to my mother.. but my step grandmother was a plus.. she welcomed me with open arms into her family and i finally had what i wanted a grandparent again.. I didnt see her alot.. but when i did, she was the most wonderful sweetest woman i had ever known.. she didnt buy me things, she didnt need to all i wanted was a grandparents love which she gave me, and she passed away in my early 20's but i'll treasure her and the love she always gave me for the rest of my life.. Dont shy away from people that want to make you a part of their family..people wanting to reach out and love you and create the "kinship" with you is a good thing, it has to start somewhere..having more people to love you in your life is a good thing always knowing theres someone u can turn to.. do u realize how many people wish they had that in their life??.. give them a chance.. you may find later in life that you love them.. family is family ..and if you let your heart love people then step becomes only a word.. I now love my step mother even though i hated her when i was 16 she is my best friend and my "mom" .. i love her just as much as i do my biological mom, because she raised me just like i was her daughter.. and at important times in my life, she was there when my mom should of been but wasnt.. Dont be so closed hearted, give people a chance to love you.. I think, if u think u should wish them a happy anniversary u should.. and if your asking this question i think deep inside you feel that u should so do it, what will it hurt.. absolutely nothing..
2006-07-11 02:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by preciosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a responsiblity to do it.
But it would be a nice thing to do.
If you like them, why not send a card, or maybe just a phone call?
This is going to be a difficult time for you, there's no way around that. But instead of saying "what do I have to do" maybe you could thing "what can I try to do to make this bad situation a little bit better for people?"
2006-07-11 02:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel in your heart. If those people are nice and you wish them well, then give them a call (no need for a present). It doesn't make sense not to call them just because of their daughter's behaviour.
Also, if you can, try to talk openly with this woman and explain to her what your feelings are.
2006-07-11 02:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by arkiso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take them to be your grand parents. there are good and bad times even between real relations so don t take bad things happening to you as they are happening only to you life is mixed with ups and downs so take moms relation ship also positively here you may have to sacrifice a lot being selfish wont help you family support is must so go on and take evrything positively
2006-07-11 02:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by midas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, besides only being 16, it's their job to get a present not yours. However, since you like them, it would be nice if you got them a card.
2006-07-11 02:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you do not have too but it would be nice to at least call them and wish them a happy anniversary.. and maybe sooner or later Ur dad and her will brake up or she will become nice..lol i had 5 step moms from my dad... trust me i know what you are going threw.
2006-07-11 02:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really, but if you like them it would only be polite. Call them as you would a friend and send a card
2006-07-11 02:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call them. Since you like them. They would be thrilled to death. Go see them when you can. . Your father would appreciate it also.. Pem
2006-07-11 02:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you do not have an obligation, but if you like them it would make you look good to atleast call them.
2006-07-11 02:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by droopydawg001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋