Me and my fiance have been together for about 2 yrs now and we are engaged to get married in Dec. well I think Iam pregnant. the thing is Iam also on the pill and hes in the Navy and he is gone at the moment and we have discussed that we dont want to have kids in the near future. should I wait to know for sure if Iam. or tell him that I might be. I dont want to worry him and have him scared enough as he is..since he just left for deployment. Iam kinda stuck here!
2006-07-10 18:56:15 · 15 answers · asked by Kerry 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The only reason we are waiting on having kids is because hes in the Navy and he wants to wait until hes out which will be in about a year and 1/2. but I know he will be happy about me being pregnant I just dont want to stress him just yet because he is deployed and everything.
2006-07-10 19:27:23 · update #1
wait until you know for sure... don't worry him about it if you are unsure.
2006-07-10 19:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by champ sauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are pregnant then I would go out and get a test and find out as soon as you can and then share the news with him. Even though you talked about waiting to have children doesn't mean this isn't going to be a happy time for you and if you are pregnant then you shouldn't be stressing yourself out. So since you two are in Love and getting married I would find out fast and tell him, if you can't find out fast then I would let him know that you are late and think you are pregnant.
HOpe all turns out well with you! Take care of yourself if you are pregnant and Congrats if you are! Also Congrats on the upcoming wedding. :)
2006-07-11 02:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till youve missed your period by a few days and take a preg test. they have them for a dollar now at dollar tree dollar general ect. and the cheap ones do work im pregnant and thats what I used if it shows up neg. take another test a week later to be sure. It might be better not to worry him but if you cant stand the suspense and decide to tell him in a way thats only fair too. why should you be left to do all the worrying? Good Luck!
2006-07-11 02:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you know for sure. My husband is in Iraq right now, so I understand your concerns. Until you know a positive yes or no, it will just be something to distract him from his job. Once you know for sure, then tell him. Timing isn't always perfect, but you'll both love the child irregardless. At least if it happens now, you can have the baby on the Navy's dime!
2006-07-11 02:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stop taking your birthcontrol and take a test and find out first. If you tell him you think you are it will bother him and be a weight on his mind. If he loves you he will be happy even though he really doesn't want kids. Remember everything happens for a reason. If you are I am sure this child will be everything to him. Everything will be ok and good luck. (armygirl2675@yahoo)
2006-07-11 02:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Armygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would make the guy suffer with me thru the what ifs but if he is away and can't really do anything to comfort you I would wait and find out first.
2006-07-11 02:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by gnomes31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally i think you should talk to him and tell him when you find out if you are pregnant so that you know before you tell him anything. then the 2 of you can work it out as couples should.
2006-07-11 02:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by mistress_tiana_soprano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find out for sure first, then there is no reason to stress him out for no reason. and trust me a unplanned baby can be way better then a planned baby. so if your worried that he will be mad or unhappy, he might at first, but he'll get over it!!
2006-07-11 02:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also vote for doing a test, first, then discussing it with him.
"paper clip" - I find your response very interesting, especially in light of this exchange:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=At9tK8tW79qeKTSDgetceJTsy6IX?qid=20060705143809AAxXIY2
I would suggest abstinence from giving judgmental responses - if you are trying to be funny, it is not coming across that way.
2006-07-11 02:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he truely loves you he will want to know what is going on with you!!! I would suggest telling him that you are late so that he has a little bit of warning, incase you are!!! If you love someone you aren't ment to keep things from them!!!
2006-07-11 02:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by bec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until u know for sure and tell him then go from there it will all work its self out good luck
2006-07-19 12:52:37 · answer #11 · answered by Sarah127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋