If you click on my information, you can go to the other questions that explains everything. I confronted my bf about his intentions today. The next thing I know is he broke up with me. He did the same thing to me in February, before Valentine's Day----to save him from spending $$ I guess. He said he never loved me and it was all a lie, back in Feb. Since then I brought him to a relationship therapist that convinced him he had a F'd up idea of love, because it was sick and codependent. He said she was right. He later admitted he loved me---ALL the time. He said he was sure. Now for him to say 5 months later it was a lie makes me feel dumbfounded. We did enjoy eachother's company. He is still saying we can be friends...but he lied and used me. I still want to call him because it's that tough to find someone I enjoy spending time with, and cuddling. He didn't want to be lonely. Neither do I. How do I make sure I cut all contact permanently? Any pointers? Please be rough. I need it now.
2006-07-10 18:54:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't turn the tables on him. We spoke tonight. I told him I would not call him again. There is nothing to 'flip'. He's a liar and a manipulater. He's 26 and I'm 36. I dealt with so much crap about our ages because he said 'love conquers all'. Now I just feel like an idiot...twice. I am not going to manipulate him. I just need to stay away at all costs. I was his only friend here that he could count on, but he blew it. I want him to come back begging me so I can at least feel good about myself then. For a second, at least.
2006-07-10 19:07:28 · update #1
I'm going to die alone.
2006-07-10 19:14:18 · update #2
Baby doll, you are not going to die alone! Letting go is hard to do but it is something that you will have to do. You are miserable with him and that should tell you all you need to know. Now is the time for you to be strong which good men admire and find attractive. You need to be romanced and slow dance in the moonlight with a guy who loves to look in your eyes and hold you in his arms. It will happen.
2006-07-10 19:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that lonely, I'm sure you could go to a bar or somewhere and find some loser to spend time with! At least taking an absolute stranger you'd have maybe a 5% chance that they were a decent human being, while you know 100% that this guy is a jerk!
Why do you want to spend so much time and money (for counseling!) on a guy who's no good? There are plenty of good men out there, but they want a good woman first. What kind of woman would act like you're doing? And why would a good man want her? Work on developing your mind, thinking about good things.
Be the person you want your children's mother to be.
2006-07-10 19:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indulge is some thing else, learn some thing new, which keeps you occupied,
if you want some thing rough, try martial arts and kick boxing, might help.
but above every thing, u shud deliberately need to stop thinking about him
2006-07-10 19:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by who is this 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE EASIEST WAY IS FOR YOU TO CHANGE ALL YOUR PHONE NUMBERS - HOME, CELL ETC. WHAT YOU GOTA ALSO DO IS PLAY THE SAME GAME WITH HIM THAT HE IS PLAYIN WITH YOU, IN OTHER WORDS ITS KINDA LIKE FLIPPING THE SCRIPT ON HIM. MAKE HIM FEEL THE PAIN & EMBARRASMENT THAT HE HAS CAUSED YOU TO FEEL. TO DO THAT JUST TREAT HIM THE SAME WAY HE TREATED YOU. IT WILL BE HARD AT FIRST BUT TRUST ME ONCE YOU KEEP AT IT YOU WILL FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.
2006-07-10 19:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy_One 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong....don't even go there you'll just end up hurt and confused in the long run!!!!
2006-07-10 19:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by smithnwessonchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delete him from your addresss book
2006-07-10 19:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋