What's the key to having a long, happy, successful marriage?

Answer 1

Marriage is a life long journey of discovering yourself and your ability to become part of an us. Being a part of an us isn't always easy. There are going to be times when you feel like you can't take another second of being with your partner. And, there are going to be times when you feel like you couldn't imagine being a single second apart. Hopefully, with the following rules for marriage you'll find yourself loving every minute!

1. Openly love your partner.
Most marriages fail because one partner feels the other isn't affectionate enough towards them. This leads the particular person to believe that they don't love them the way they used to. The fact of the matter is that often times we've spent so much time together, we don't really realize our physical affection may have waned. It is important to make sure you keep showing affection. Don't stop holding hands. Play footsie under the table. Not only will you make love an integral part of your relationship, but if you have children you'll be teaching them how important affection is to a relationship.

2. Handle your upsets.
The longer you let a rift occur in your marriage the more each partner will begin to separate and disassociate with the other. This is even, and sometimes especially, true for unspoken problems as well. Do not let a problem go unspoken. If you're the type of person that holds things in, don't. How can you and your partner handle the problem if they don't even know about it? If you're the type of person that needs to feel right about every argument, don't. How can it be more important for only one person to be right than the couple as a whole? By handling a problem and coming up with a solution together you gain as a couple, and individually.

3. Respect your partner as they are.
When you first met you probably thought your partner was capable of doing anything, including roping the moon. As time goes on you realize that they are fallible, just like the rest of us. Realizing that your partner is human shouldn't be a cause to nag, change or treat your partner differently. They are still the same person, just as you are. The next time you're thinking of what you don't like, think about how you might have changed in your partner's eyes and work on that instead.

4. Be aware of each other's limits.
Nothing can get a person riled up faster than feeling like they are being pushed into a corner. This doesn't mean that you are the cause, but as their life mate it is your responsibility to be their support team. If you see your partner is getting too stressed about something like work, help ease it by taking them out to dinner. If you know they are facing a hard time, make an effort to ease their situation by doing things together that remind them they have someone they can trust and lean on.

5. Talk about anything and everything.
I can't emphasis enough how important talking is. If you're not talking to each other, who are you talking to? Who more than anyone should know what is going on in your life? There is only one person to whom you have pledged your life and affection. If you can't find the time or place to talk do what my love and I do, go for a long car drive and just talk until you feel better about things. Since you're in the car you don't have any outside distractions like kids, the phone ringing, the dog barking, etc. to divert from your communication.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think the key to a happy successful marriage is a good communication with each other, that way you both can understand each other well, and trust is also a big factor, without trust it can ruin your marriage, because one will be wondering what he or she is doing why the other is not home from work, and it also can cause you to want to check phone bills to see which number the other one is calling, a marriage can really fall apart because of the trust issue, so i think the best thing to do to keep the marriage long, successful and happy is to try and understand each other well, know what each other really want, Communication is the Key.

Answer 4

to respect each other and let each other breath. Meaning of that now, each of us are different but in a relationship you have common ground and separate space 10 minuets alone each day or different Friends no matter what the Small difference are remaining in love some times hurts if you can't let go of these small things sometimes one of you may need 10 minuets alone after work just to breath or maybe one of you has a Friend that the other partner doesn't like but you must over look the friend to see the love that you have for your mate if not the relationship will sink. Just let each-other breath never go to bed angry and always love each other through money sickness and bad health. alot of good relationships end to soon because people give up on there partner always know that the are trying (I hope) to love you and get what you need for you and your family. Love peace and Grease.

Answer 5

Im not married soo i wouldnt know...
but i think respect..appriaciation..and a loving attitude is key!!
and across being best friends. I think communication is a factor too..and doing things with your partner that u both enjoy..working has a team..doing little things and saying thank you is good. i think watching your words is good too..being sure not to hurt your partners feelings.Finding solutions together also helps.I think loving your husband..honering your husband having him the head of the household. Planning activitys together is great too!!Two are always better than one!!And i think thanking your husband too everyday for just doing his dutys has a husband like working and providing for the family is good!!And being quick to saying im sorry.Enjoying intimacy together trying new things..helps. but the most is praying for your husband is sooo important!!

Answer 6

I don't think that exist!!! Marriage is like a battle you have to win everyday...The work never ends, (like not in a wrong way) I'm not saying that Marriage is BAD..NOOOOOOOOOO! But the key is....
1-Respect
2-TRUST
3+SEX
4-LOVE
5-LAUGH and ADVENTURE
Marriage will never be perfect....(it would be kinda of boring....
But don't ever lose sight of this 5 TIPS AND U WILL BE OK!

Answer 7

There are so many answers I could give. (I'll just give 3 though).

First of all, be fair. No name-calling. No insults. No mud-slinging. Don't bring up stuff from the past if it's been forgiven. DO have respect for each other. DO try to speak out of love. It's hard to fight for long when your partner says, "You're the best thing that's ever happened to me". When you speak out of love and respect, fights tend to die out and they simply become disagreements.

DATE NIGHT! Spending time alone is so essential. Find time to fall in love again and again.

And last of all, when problems arise you need to communicate with your partner. Work through your problems and discuss them. Do your best not to fight. Try to speak with love, not with insults. Stick it out and agree with your partner that you both want to happily grow old together. (Unless you're in a dangerous situation. That's when you'd need to get out of the relationship).

Answer 8

first of all TRUST. being married for 10 yrs Ive come to learn that in a marriage its not i its we. there is alot of compromising and meeting in the middle. sometimes you have to work on a marriage. devotion to each other, honesty, and compassion, always make time for each other and if you have kids remember you were husband and wife before mom and dad. know what makes each of you happy don't just think of yourself and what makes you happy think of the other one too. we've been married for 10 yrs and have 4 children and every sat. night we go out on a date just me and him and it really has improved our marriage( you have to make time for each other)

Answer 9

To trust one another. Take time for one another every night, even if it is only for 15 minutes so you can talk about your day. Make sure to have a date night at least once every two weeks. Love each other deeply.

Answer 10

Love, patience, courage, compromise, communication, a healthy sex life, laughter, compassion and friendship and a really good divorce attorney waiting in the wings that your husband knows will take him for everything he's got if he doesnt treat u right lol..