Ok have to repost...........Please read.?

Question

Ok I know you all are sick of the same questions but I'm getting sick of the same answers. You all don't read the whole question. I'm scared....Yes.......You would be too if you were 16 and thought you were pregnant. but i WANT the kid. So please read my first posts adn then post on here your answers without telling me im too young, you hope im not, and go get a test. Im taking a test thursday, im not too young, im ready, and i want this kid, im scared adn confused because of my family, if you want to know more about that part email me if not just posts your opinions and help please

Answer 1

May be people are not giving you the answer you want to hear so you keep asking the same question over and over again.. You don't have to wait until Thursday. You can buy a pregnancy test at the drug store. why do you want the kid. Does the father of the kid want it too. At 16 you may be emotionally and economically unable to handle the responsibility of raising a child. what about school. How does your family feel about this kid you may have. Can they afford to feed another mouth.
You probably did not think of these things at the time if you had consensual sex. When you had unprotected sex were you under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Answer 2

That is great, you want the kid. You think you are old enough, that once again is great cause let me tell you honey I have 3 kids 2 at the age you are right now and you think you are ready? WRONG you are never ready being a first time mom, this is something that is gonna be the hardest thing in your life( but most rewarding) If you want to be a good mom then forget the late nights, the partys, and sleep cause you will have to take care of a kid and when you get a break you will be in school studying your butt off to try to get a good enough job to suport that kid. Welfare will not cut it. I tryed that. When you child comes up and says that all the other kids in school have extra money to go out on and you don't have it you will understand. Kids cost alot and at 16 you can not make enough I do not care how smart you think you are or how good of a job you think you can get. You are gonna mess not only your life but the babys life up to and I know you are saying that is not gonna happen to me, I know I can do better than that, cause I was there once and said those same things.You better start using your head and stop thinking with ur hormones. Grow up, then think about babys after you have a good education and good job, and most important a good MAN not teenage boy!!!! Think what you want but be forwarned you have no clue what you are getting yourself into. And that my girl is the cold hard trueth rather you want to hear it or not.

Answer 3

Thanks for reposting. Hopefully, the answers are a bit better this time.

For starters, it sounds like you're already taking the first step, getting tested. If you aren't pregnant, then all this is moot, but still, better to be prepared.

Ultimately, if you are pregnant, then it's completely your choice what to do. It would be wonderful if your family and the baby's father are as excited as you are. Every child should be so lucky. Unfortunately, this may not be the case. Even though you are sure of your decision, there may be those who do not support it. Since you really want to keep the child, then you'll find a way to make it work. The best thing you can do is be honest with your family AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Seriously. Don't put it off even a day longer than you have to. Chances are, if people are shocked or upset initally, it may lessen with time when they see how committed you are. If you tell your family right away, then when you get further in your pregnancy they may be willing to support you more, whereas if you only tell them when you begin to show, they may not be there when you need them. Ultimately, it sounds as if you are ready for this child regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Answer 4

1st thing you need to do is take a deep breath and relax. If you are pregnant the stress will only make you feel worse. I was a young mother too so I know how scared you are. My advise is just take it one day at a time. See what the test is on Thursday. If it is negative then no worries - if it is positive then you have to create a plan. No one can tell you what to do with this baby and don't worry because if you really want this child, young or not, you will be a good mother. Your parents might freak out and "disown" you but at least you have a place to go ( your boyfriends) so that is one less thing to be concerned about. The father of my child's parents threw him out when I got pregnant but, once the thought of a grand kid sunk in they were begging us to come back into their lives. It was about 3 months that they didn't talk to us. Hopefully, that will be your case too. Either way your main priority is to this child. But, I will not lie to you things will be hard at first. Just have faith, cus' things always have a way of working out.

Answer 5

Maybe you're giving off the wrong vibe posting questions about your possible pregnancy while under the guise of "BadBabygirl"? It suggests either guilt or deviance - both of which are things a pregnant teen who wants to have a baby would hopefully not exude too much.

I'm not sure what opinions you're looking for - asking for opinions is pretty much a request to be judged. I'm fairly certain you DON'T want to be judged, if I read your blurb correctly.

Teenagers CAN be decent parents, so I won't chastise you for it all. Just please be a smarter parent than the ones I've been encountering. Promise to make sure your child grows up loved, guarded, nourished and educated and people will never question your parenting abilities.

...upon reading your first post/question - there's nothing you can do other than telling your parents once the test has been taken. The past can't be undone, and if you want your parents to be a part of your future, they have to be included, with the information.


And if you're looking for honest opinions (trying to judge as little as possible), I'd recommend not having the baby. As much as you WANT it, and COULD fully take care of it, and WOULD have a support structure for it - the odds are certainly against you when it comes to having a full and happy life for yourself. Do yourself a favor and wait until you can guarantee not ONLY a happy and full life for your future child, but also one for yourself by waiting until the right time when you're adequately prepared and ready to make those necessary sacrifices.

Answer 6

Honey for one thing..........please calm down. Your sence of urgency has been heard by me. Let me say a few things here, and I promise you I will not be judgemental, just opinionated on a couple of issues since you are only 16.

The test is Thursday so wait to see before you get unglued over this, OK?

For your own peace of mind please do a "home pregnancy test" they are very reliable and most are 99.7% accurate.

I understand that you are worried about what your parents will think. You have already proven your level of maturity by accepting the consequinces of your actions.

You seem to be a very family oriented person. You acknowledge and respect your parents feelings.

And for those hapless few on here that have chosen to belittle your choice to keep the baby in spite of your age and all the personal reprocussions you have stated would happen? I would say at least the question was not "how do I get a fast abortion"? Hence you have chosen to take on the obligations of a baby.

I say good for you.

As for your parents dis-owning you? I would say deal with that when it comes about. For now you say you want the baby? And that you have a place to go in the event that your parents do not support you? Then get that all lined up.

Now as far as the 23 year old boyfriend and Father to your baby? You say the relationship is fine and he wants the baby and you? Your next step is to have him prove this.

A 7 year age gap may not matter when 2 people are in their 20's and 30's. But a person of 16 and a sexual partner of 23 is against the law no matter how you look at it, in love or not!

Be careful of the reasons you have chosen to have this baby. Maybe your values, family issues or the thought of losing this guy are compeling you to make such decisions?

Your parents may disown you seems to be most prevailant to you right now? Then perhaps that shows some level of uncertainty as to rather this guy WILL take care of you and the baby?

Just an interjection there, not a redicule. Just evaluate all that you have to concider is all I am saying to you.

If this guy really Loves you then he will make it happen. You will not have to ask or speculate.

Your parents may seem like a no-win situation right now. But the future events of how this guy responds to your pregnancy is all in how your parenat will accept the situation.

This guy absolutely has to convence your parents that he Loves you and wants the baby. No if, and's or but's.

You will have to tell them evenutally. But wait until you know for sure.

Good luck to you............

Answer 7

I knew someone who was 14 when she got pregnant. Her family wanted her to have an abortion. They even went to the clinic. At the last minute she refused to have that abortion. Her daughter is now six. Her family can not imagine life with out this little girl. Though she was lucky because her mother took over the care for the child and allowed her daughter to continue on with her life. The little girl knows who her real mother is but she actually feels her grandmother is her mother. She is very loved and a happy child. It is a big decision some people may be against your decision but will come around after you have the baby. Make sure you have a network of help, you will need it. If you find you can not handle it after you have the baby make sure you seek help in the community. Often times there are groups who help new mothers in need. This is only if your family does not come around. I would bet though once they see the baby they will fall in love with it.

Answer 8

.Honey i know you said you didn't want to hear that you're to young but you are, you're not ready at the age of 16 to take responsibility of another person, what about school and a career. and most importantly financial matters. if your family is very against you having this child, and you are left to support the child on you own, it will be difficult. When you know for sure if you are or aren't' then tell your family. if they are upset,but still will support you, or at least help you out a lot, then you should have this baby esp since i can tell you love it already. if not ..then maybe it's best that you give the child up for adoption of or give someone in your family custody of the child until you are able to support it financially. Good luck

Answer 9

Take an EPT test or contact a local health clinic, Planned Parenthood, Pregnancy Counseling Center etc.


Young, Raymond MD - Women's Health Specialists
[phone] 2299 Mowry Ave # 3c
Fremont, CA Map 0.5

Tri-City Health Ctr
[phone] 39500 Liberty St
Fremont, CA Map 0.5

Aretha's Babies
[phone] 25798 Bel Aire Dr
Hayward, CA Map 8.3

Greenspane, Ronald - Axis Community Health
[phone] 4361 Railroad Ave
Pleasanton, CA Map 9.9

Fair
[phone] Web Site PO Box 51436
Palo Alto, CA Map 10.3

Mayview Community Health Ctr
[phone] 100 Moffett Blvd # 101
Mountain View, CA Map 11.7

Planned Parenthood
[phone] 225 San Antonio Rd
Mountain View, CA Map 12.0

Mayfield Community Clinic
[phone] 270 Grant Ave
Palo Alto, CA Map 12.0

Birthright Of San Lorenzo
[phone] 1048 Grant Ave
San Lorenzo, CA Map 12.1

Planned Parenthood
[phone] 604 E Evelyn Ave
Sunnyvale, CA Map 12.3

Community Pregnancy Ctr
[phone] 836 W El Camino Real
Mountain View, CA Map 12.5

California Cryobank
[phone] 700 Welch Rd # 103
Palo Alto, CA Map 12.8

Birthright
[phone] 1520 Catalina Ct # C
Livermore, CA Map 13.6

Teen Pregnancy Coalition Of
[phone] Web Site 703 Woodside Rd # 7
Redwood City, CA Map 14.1

First Resort Pregnancy Conslnt
[phone] Web Site 801 Brewster Ave # 210
Redwood City, CA Map 14.1

Alameda Pregnancy Counseling
[phone] 2175 The Alameda # 207
San Jose, CA Map 14.5

Birth Right
[phone] 2071 Alameda Way # A
San Jose, CA Map 14.6

Planned Parenthood
[phone] 1746 The Alameda
San Jose, CA Map 15.1

Answer 10

i like you got pregnant at sixteen had baby right after i turned 17...You can be ready for a baby at 16 if not you will learn. I wanted to keep my baby too. I was scared about telling my family too because i came from a Christan family..It was definitely a shock to them but after the first week everything was OK if the baby is already there, there is nothing anyone can do about it now but to accept it.. You will be fine i am now 24 and my baby is almost 8 and we have done just fine. i don't regret it at all. timing might have been the best for me but life goes on......I wish you all the happiness and joy in the world.