I married someone that takes care of the family, is very into work and provide to the kids, but yet this man has no desire to have sexual intercouse or even kissing.I feel like a senior that all I have left is a friend, rather than a husband.I want to bad to get divorced.
we spoke about this matter several times but there is no change.He will never change , right?
2006-07-10 18:11:36 · 14 answers · asked by foxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sex once a month after I beg a few times.
2006-07-10 18:45:46 · update #1
From your mastery of the English language, I assume that you are either a mail-order bride, or that you tricked him into marrying you (perhaps so you could get a green card).
You did not mention if your kids are his or not. If they are, it sounds as if thing could have been different at one time. Could the change be something that you are doing? Have you already had an affair, and has your husband possibly found out?
At the very least, look into going back to high school, and possible making a career for yourself in the event that you choose to change things.
2006-07-10 19:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jim T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow he sounds like a father most women would want. there are probably plenty of reasons why he doesn't show intimate feelings. you shouldn't jump to conclusions if you don't know all the facts. it is very strange to hear that aobut a guy, but it can also b that he can't perform intercourse and isn't tellin you. Grl, you don't want to put ur children in the middle of this by gettin a divorce. Talk to him again, tell him to be 100% honest with you, stick it out for the kids, and in the end if you feel like you cant handle it, then maybe reconsider divorce. but don't make tha ur first option, because it may be that he has a good explanation for his actions..
2006-07-11 01:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by baby_kakes1987 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is all about compromise... you have to have a trade off between few things.... no one is perfect.... everyone lacks something or the other.... for e.g. your husband.... even though he is a gem of a guy, i am not able to understand why he is not interested in sex.... which is very very likely for guys.....
one explanation is that he may have become a Gay.... but anyways, thats not the point of discussion...
mitr says.... you have to trade off between few things... if you want sexual satisfaction, then you have to give a divorce to your hubby and but then your children will lose a great father....
if you want a future for you chidren, then you should cirb your feelings and try for different other alternatives of sex... like masturbation........
BUT DON"T think of having an affair.... cos then ultimately you will have divorce... cos anyway, the guy will be more satisfying than your hubby....
mitr says... don't hang in middle... take a decision and be on either side of the road... you will never face an accident... good luck lady.........
2006-07-11 01:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it boils down to it are you happy? If you arent happy, then I think that you should, Im going through a divorce right now, and eventually you'll get enough to leave, I wish I would have left before I despised him. And that wouldnt be good for you since you two have kids together.
2006-07-11 02:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest marital counselling. There could be issues that have stopped his desires that he can't tell you about (medical, psychological, etc). Don't have an affair as that will definitely be the end of your marriage.
Also, perhaps if he knows how unhappy you are and knows you are contemplating divorce, he will realise that he has to change...
2006-07-11 01:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kazzini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise. ... have an affair. That will keep you sexually satisfied.
Your husband sounds good. It is a big thing in todays world to provide well for the family and he is doing that.
Plus I can safely bet that if he is not even hugging you then he himself is having an affair.
2006-07-11 01:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by leonid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no hope . But most likely you married him because he is a good provider and takes care of you well, so I feel you are obligated to stay.
2006-07-11 01:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by trollmannen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that your husband has erectile difficulties, and is too embarrased to say anything? I would check into all aspects before considering divorce.
2006-07-11 01:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by chattingnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't just about sex!!! You are so selfish, he provides well for you and your family, but you are so self-centered you can only think of yourself. You make me want to vomit.
2006-07-11 01:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like this before you got married? If so then why did you marry him?
2006-07-19 03:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋