I've had plenty of sexual relationsips and none of them resulted in a orgasm, my current boyfriend has tried different things but still I can not get off. I like rough sex or in a position that is the deepest penetration but still I can't get off, what is wrong with me??? I need to know
2006-07-10 17:45:28 · 21 answers · asked by Danielle L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all - experiment yourself - no-one knows your body like you - enjoy it! A lot of women can only orgasm by having their clit stimulated - however, if you and your partner can find your g-spot then be prepared to gush like nothing before! Its all about taking your time by yourself and also include your partner to find out what makes you tick!!
2006-07-10 21:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you can orgasm by yourself first. When you know your body then you will be able to understand all of its needs and wants.
When this is the case, make sure that you are very very horny, almost at orgasm before you have penetration. Thats where all the beauty of foreplay comes in. Oral from your bf can help or manual from him or yourself untill your really close then just go for it. Some people also get turned on by watching porn beforehand, its really all about whatever turns you on. As long as you actually do get turned on the the how isn't so important, just relax and focus on the feelings till you know its getting time to do the deed. I actually have met several women who couldnt have a vaginal orgasm untill they tried this and it worked.
Hope you have a good orgasm soon, everyone deserves a good one.
2006-07-11 04:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Hotnbothered 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothings wrong with you... It just takes time, and or a different person... its something you learn - you need to relax - you probably get halfway there, but get too stressed wanting it to happen.... "RELAX!" Stop sex for a week - then just have a few hours of kissing and messing around - no sex though.. Then a few days later start going a bit further - try doing it, but not expecting anything....
A lot of women can get an orgasm from oral sex - try that...
But most of all - Have Fun!!!!!
2006-07-17 08:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off take that "whats wrong with me" attitude out of you head....i know easier said than done but if you think its your fault and are thinking about it....it will not happen.
Relaxing is good advice but the trick is making yourself comfortable....Are you and your partner willing to focus on you?
Have you ever had an orgasm?
Ask your self what you feel during sex. Are you nervous, guilty, ashamed? I have found that a blanket covering both of you is a security that relaxes the mind. It allows you to not feel so self conscious.
In my opinion 65% of sex is mental....if that is not being met you will not reach your climax.
2006-07-10 18:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by jedidaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go to orgasm all the time to enjoy sex! But I agree you will when you will be 100% relaxed! It takes time to know each others body.
Take the pressure off you... nothing is wrong with you! the more you'll want to go to orgasm the less you will!
2006-07-11 01:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by black_fairy282 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate. Maybe it will help to know you are hardly alone on this one. I think it has to do with built up anxiety about the whole subject. I've been that way for so long I've almost given up and then when I do try I feel too pressured and then it just never happens. I think everyone is right when they say to relax. You, and I, need to lose the self-imposed expectations that get your mind saying, "this time it's going to work....or is it?... WHY IS IT NOT HAPPENING?!)
2006-07-10 18:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by lollykins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-17 13:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you find its rough sex and deep that turns us on but in the end its deep , slow movement almost a tease that makes you come .
have you explored your own body on your own with a toy as this gives you the time to feel for areas etc that really hit the spot i never used to orgasm without clitoral attention , now i can but i know what my body wants and make sure i get it . its well worth your effort and its good to have experience with your self.
2006-07-10 20:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by j.j. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women cant come through penetration, and if hes no good at oral u hav a problem try pleasuring ureself if u dont know how 2 push ure buttons how will he?
2006-07-18 07:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by cas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you make yourself orgasm?
A lot of guys don't know the key is the clitoris and not the vagina. Not having any sexual dysfuntions, proper stimulation of the clitoris, rough or soft and intervals of both, should result in your having an orgasm.
2006-07-10 17:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Average Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋