Help my wife is playing games help me we are seperated?

Question

Well me and my wife have been seperated for the last month. Its the most difficult thing Ive been through and i regret all the pain I caused my wife. She has been keeping in touch, gets jealous when i talk about girls just in general. Ive never touched or been out with another girl, besides a friend date. Weve met twice since the seperation. The first time she ask me if ive been hanging out with buddies or girls. I said buddies and ask her the same. She said just friends. It was really awkward and business like. Last Friday we met again, and it was much different. We laughed, told jokes and she gave away all the signs that someone is in to u. She played with her bracelets nervously, played with her hair, was googling over me, and leaning towards me. She said though that if we get back together i MAY have to accept the fact she has been seeing other people. We said it was nice seeing u and we smiled at eachother like when we first went out. Why would she say the guy thing who does that?

Answer 1

she's probably reeling. I've been in her place - totally out of control, my husband was the one who needed to get away - when you feel powerless like that and are as sad as I would imagine her to be, you say things in the hopes that the other person will worry that they're about to lose you.

Just take it slowly, that's the best advice I can give. Follow your heart and tell her that's exactly what you're doing. I wish you the best. I always hope a marriage can survive rather than dissolve, because it doesn't get any easier if you plan on ever having a relationship again (assuiming you're married to a moderately reasonable human being).

Good luck.

Answer 2

Keep in touch with her but really, take your time. She may be feeling flirty or she may feel a bit guilty. Who knows. She is telling you that there is someone else in the picture though, so you need to decide for yourself, is your relationship worth saving? Why did you break up? Think about it. Take your take, talk to a specialist, listen to your own gut feelings. If something inside is giving you a nagging feeling that something isn't right, it probably isn't. Don't jump right back just because she thinks you should. You should think you should, and feel good about it. Still, if neither of you have learned anything from this separation, and if neither of you has grown in any way, then you will break up again as nothing will have been solved.

Good luck with this.

Answer 3

You can ask this question until you are blue in the face.... But your the one who has to live with the decision you make. When in doubt trust your gutss. Do what they tell you. No one else can answer this question for you. You know your wife better than anyone else. You have to just take the time to own up to the problems that you two are having.

You both need to either pee or get off the pot.. Talk to her.... If its over, then it is already over. Ask her directly and to the point, what she wants? Tell her that it is not fair for her to string you along. Tell her that honesty would be appreciated, just be able to accept the facts once she gives them to you. Emotionally prepare for the worse....

Don't raise your voice, or make her feel threatened or guilty. Just calmly talk to her.

Answer 4

shes not playing games shes playing you and will keep on as long as u let her. best thing to do is to get over it and kick her to the curb its hard but best good luck took me almost 2 years to do it but finally got tired of the !@#$%

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you guys could use some counseling to hold your marriage together.

Answer 6

Consult a hitman, it's your best hope of moving on cleanly.

Answer 7

sounds like she is trying to hurt you back. why don't you suggest you stop seeing each other. life is too short.

Answer 8

move on