2006-07-10 17:30:22 · 22 answers · asked by ruerue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would ignore most of the porn advice. Porn may be a good place to start becuase it "looks" good and men are into visual. But keep in mind that the chicks in the porns are trying their best to make it look good rather then feel good. And you can't see what's going on inside their mouths. Also, depends on the guy's experience. If he's not had very many good blow jobs, the porn style is going to work for him....his fantasies are based on what he's seen on the porns. But if he's ever had good blow jobs, it's probably not going to cut it for him
Couple of good points:
1. Mix it up - you don't want to go straight to sliding up and down on him or "bobbing on it" right away. Just like we girls don't want some guy just rubbing at our clits like crazy right away. You need to start out kind of teasing. Do whatever YOU enjoy for awhile. If you are into it, that is an attractive quality to men. Approach his cock with confidence. Play with it for a little while and tell him how you can't wait to suck on it.
2. Once you get him really hard...then go after the "in and out" "up and down" motion that everyone is talking about. The "bobbing." That's really what's going to get him off eventually. But what will make it intense is if you get him almost there and then go back to the teasing again. Then back to the bobbing and don't stop the second time.
3. As far as technique, It's really a combination thing that you've going to have to do - suck with your mouth and throat, rub your tongue all around his cock, and keep your lips somewhat firm around it. Doing all of this simulatneously is a skill that takes practice. Once you can do all of these at once, then try twisting your mouth as you go down and back up.
4. A tip for the gagging - most women try to take straight down the middle of their mouth and throat; this is GOING to make you gag. At some point it will touches the sides of your throat or the roof of your mouth and that's a big part of why you gag. Try moving it along either the roof of your mouth and then straight down your throat. Keep it in constant contact on purpose and you're less likely to gag.
One last thing....don't forget to lightly play with his balls while you're going down on him. Or suck on them very gently every once in awhile before you go back to bobbing. Also try different positions. Being on your knees in front of him looks good but it's harder for you and more likely to make you gag. Try having him lay down and you approaching him from the side. Or have him sit on a sofa or chair and then sit between his legs so that you can control the angle that you come at his cock.
Hope this was helpful. I could say more but i'm sick of typing.
2006-07-10 18:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by dmb_fanatic2000 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! You realize something that most women have no idea how bad they are at... First thing...why do you think you're bad at it? If he enjoys oral sex and doesn't have any hang-ups about a woman going down on him (some guys do...) the best way to get into pleasing him is to ask him to masturbate for you to completion & watch what he does. Open lines of communication and an easy going attitude about sex in general will help a LOT. Don't pressure him to have an orgasm every time you're down there. Find out if he likes to hear you talk while you're down there...maybe he'd like it if you made noise (slurping & humming are basics) while you were blowing him? Listen to his reactions to the things you do. Moaning is good, silence isn't great, but don't freak out if he's not groaning and going crazy every second either! One thing I find a lot of women don't do very well is that they try and do an artsy-fartsy slow and steady bj. This is great at first, but you need to pick up the pace after a few minutes or it can get boring. Oh, and don't forget the balls! They're big fans of those hands, fingernails and that tongue too...
But hey, that's just me.
Good luck!
2006-07-10 17:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First just know that all men like different things so asking your partner what feels best to him will probably solve your problem. Most guys are really sensitive on the head or on their balls so you can start with either one and see what kind of response you get. Some guys like slow others like fast. I'd say get some whip cram handy or some chocolate and put it on him and actually enjoy just licking it off of him( don't worry about if you're doing well or not trust me he will just enjoy the attention ) to break the ice and help you relax and let his reactions tell you what feels best. I've found men tend to like a woman that just really gets into it like they're enjoying a dessert but that's just my husband's opinion...oh yeah don't be afraid to get a little messy either.
2006-07-10 19:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear... take comfort in the fact that a lot of women dont give good head.. they have this perceived notion that its great when they go down on a man and he instantly feels like blowing his load. its not true.
best advice? if you really want to give good satisifaction, talk to him, ask the guy what he likes. guys like women all like it differently. so what works for one man might not work on another. porn is for the pros man. do you think the guys in prono flicks really like the head they get... its a job to them... talk to your man... and if he cant tell you what he likes down there... just bite until he does... that works well to get a reaction.
2006-07-10 17:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by jaz o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest expierementing. Just try things and if he likes it he will let you do it, if he doesnt like it, then he'll tell you and you just try something else. if that doesnt work try http://www.totse.com. or http://www.orgasm.com. Look up how to give head on google. Something is bound to come up. This is the internet, the possibilities are limitless.
2006-07-10 17:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by amberpurkey2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice makes perfect.
2006-07-10 17:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those skills that people on-line cannot instruct you on, get a book or a porno and watch .. and practice along with it on some inanimate object....
2006-07-10 17:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have good books about this kind of stuff you can buy. Or rent a few porns, you can learn a lot from them and you "enjoy" yourself while watching.
2006-07-10 17:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by terrbeary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the web site, Talk Sex with Sue.
2006-07-10 17:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
practice on it! that is how i got good and my man loves it. it didnt take too long.. once you get good at it you can use your teeth too but u really gotta knw how.. my man drools... hmm maybe u should use a banana
2006-07-10 17:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by sarah e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋