The other day I was looking for a picture of me and my boyfriend on our home computer. I came across his porn pictures and there were two pics of my former college roommate (we are still close and keep in touch). I was shocked. These pics were ones that she had posted online on her website and were not nude, but on was her laying down looking away from the camera on her side and her clevage was showing, the other she was laying on her back looking at the camera very sexually and her nipples were almost exposed. This girl is pretty and very well endowed. It hurts cuz he saved them on the computer in a folder I know he looks at very often. Now it gets me thinking about how he really looked at her when he would stay with me in my dorm and she sleep in the same bedroom cuz we shared a bedroom. What should I do?
2006-07-10 16:50:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should just come out and ask him about it. Don't get confrontational with him jst casually ask him.
2006-07-10 16:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. If you or he is 25 or younger don't make a big deal about it. You are both too young for a serious relationship. Have fun. You date too.
2 If you are older then just simply go about your ways too since he is doing the same. Ease up a little and don't summon to his every needs as much or ask as much as you do now and see what happens. If he asks then say something about ur concern or realization about his pictures and chatmates. Tell him how u feel about it and that you want something different or similiar. No need to be so direct and angry just be cool and fun. Friends are supposed to be fun and reliable and honest right? boy-friend.
2006-07-10 23:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by djprall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. What are you? His freakin' overbearing mother for Chrissakes? So he had a little puppy-love crush on your old roommate, big harry deal. He also has porn pictures? Guess what honey? Your man likes women! (gasp!) Yep, it's a full blown case of heterosexuality if you ask me.
This is good practice for you. Because, you better figure out a way to talk these things through if they bother you before you marry someone otherwise, start looking early for a divorce attorney.
And DON'T download pictures of hot men. That is childish, and you are trying to be an adult here. That advice is from 7th graders.
2006-07-11 00:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because you and he are not married...don't get so bent out of shape. Simply because you haven't seen all the men you've yet to meet as well.
You never know you may be tempted to keep a good looking male specimen on the computer. Chill your Bill is still your meal.
2006-07-10 23:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is this, bring the matter into conversation as simple, casual and relax as you can. Maybe over dinner, driving to the market, etc: "Honey have you heard from [Jenny], lately? It's because I saw the pics she post on her web site and I was wondering if you got news from her, maybe she send an e-mail to you" Depending on his reaction take the conversation to the following level.
2006-07-10 23:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lil' Gay Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Do it now. He'll say its because he wanted a photo of your friend because it remids him of YOUR time together. Bull! He's drooling. Drop him. Its normal for people to look at attractive people, but not to bring them home.
2006-07-10 23:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Splendid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be wicked about it, but you could let him know that him having these kinds of pictures hurts you and makes you feel bad about yourself, and make you question your relationship. If he cares at all about you, he will have no problem getting rid of the pictures.
2006-07-10 23:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by justjaime25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and him need t have a serious talk........he probably think you don't think much of the pictures becuz you haven't said anything........and first of all sometime things like that can be a sign and cheating and unwanted desire of someone just sexually....don't let love blind you....take your respect demmend it....stand up for your self esteem.......stand up for your pure heart of love girl......don't sit and be quiet say somthing............and try not to be so nice about the situation
2006-07-11 00:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by SHEILA D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him whats up with that, but before you do download some pictures of some serious hotties of your own. make one the background on your desktop, when he asks why then say well i thought if you could keep pics of (whatever her name is) then i could have him :)
2006-07-10 23:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice to you is, delete that picture from the folder he has saved it, without his knowledge, do not tell your boyfriend that you have erase it, to avoid confrontation and problems later
2006-07-10 23:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by misshyong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋