*NOTE* ...going through a phase or was I born to be bisexual? I would like serious response please. This is not meant to offend anyone. If anyone is going trough something similar or would just like to express their emotions and wisdom please do so. This may sound off, but I'm truly trying to help a friend and I don't know where to begin. I'm on a quest for answers. Thank you in advance.
2006-07-10 16:42:14 · 10 answers · asked by heavenly_bluestar1 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can't help who you fall in love with. Have fun with it and whatever happens in the end will be what was supposed to happen. Maybe you'll learn something or maybe you won't but if you enjoy yourself what does it matter?
2006-07-10 17:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by kid_flav 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and only you can answer this question. You could be a very loving individual whom expresses love for the spirit and soul of another rather than a gender. Ask yourself these questions, how does she make you feel? are you at peace when you are with her? compare the feelings to when you are with a man. Is there a difference or is it all a very sweet feeling? Alot is going on these days in the way of studies of bisexual matters. What one person says of a study another dispels. Like I always say , Labels , schmabels.. If you are not hurting anyone.. then be happy that you have been blessed with love of another that is totally accepting of who you are, and enjoy your moments together. The answers will come in time.. but in the meantime don't torture yourself so.. Let it flow peacefully...
2006-07-12 05:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the sort of person who can ask yourself this question, I think it's possible that you're sometimes going to feel that you're gay, sometimes that you're straight, and sometimes that you're not attracted to anyone at all. In short, you're probably the type of person who's inclined to keep exploring who you are rather than try to define yourself for the sake of others. If so, this doesn't mean that you can't make a commitment to one person-- you just see the world, and yourself, a little differently than most.
Bisexuals are often the sort of people who like watching sports, but don't see how or why they should choose a team to root for.
If you don't act either really gay or really straight, people will sometimes be uneasy with that, and want to make you act more like one or the other. This is usually well-intentioned. In their minds, they're just helping you out.
If you know how how you feel and you want to be honest about who you are, then I hope you can feel secure for now in saying that your attractions are bisexual. At the same time, though, I know that it's probably most practical to pick an identity and stick with it-- to say "I'm gay" or "I'm straight" and then to add the caveat that sure, once in awhile you're attracted to a guy, or to a girl. I have to say, though, that anyone who tries to convince you that you don't really have the feelings you have-- even if that person has the best intentions-- is, in my opinion, being unfair to you.
2006-07-10 20:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? Why the need to label yourself? Accept yourself the way you are, whatever form that takes, and get on with your life.
If you obcess with this, it will REALLY bother your partner, for whom I gather you have feelings. Do you think a straight man would put up with your telling him that while he's "the one" for now, that there's a chance that what you really want is a woman.
Give your poor girlfriend a break and cut the drama. Cherish what y ou have now instead of worrying about what may or may not happen in the future.
2006-07-11 01:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a gay male...I don't know whether you are just going through a phase or not...you could easily be gay or bisexual or as I believe everyone is sorta on a sliding scale. But does it really matter??? if you're having a good time then just enjoy it for what it is...life is far to short to spend time wondering 'what if'...hope it all turns out for you the way it should.
2006-07-10 16:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DarthFangNutts.. here is a question for you quickly..
I am in a relationship with a woman and have been for 3 years and am totally in love! Before her I was with men, and if we ever break up, I will look in the gender of men for my next partner. I did not go looking for a female partner, it just happened, Im not going to not see her because of what other people think.... So tell me.. Am I just to ashamed to tell the word Im homosexual.. Or do you think that perhaps I went with my feelings and didnt care that it was a girl, I just want to be happy?
2006-07-10 17:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not bisexual. I don't believe in bisexual people. You're either heterosexual or you're homosexual, with neither being more right than the other.
Being bisexual is a copout because subconsciously, you're not ready to face the world and come out as being homosexual, so you're leaving the door open for going heterosexual, but in fact, you are homosexual.
If you love women, then admit your homosexuality and be free of mind and soul. You will not go to hell and you will not burn and suffer for your feelings. I don't believe in God, but if there were a God and God made "man" in his image, then why would he hate one of his creations loving another one of his creations?
Live life rich (mind and soul) and truthful to yourself.
2006-07-10 16:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer that. maybe it is a phase? do you still find men sexually attractive? alot of people are bisexual. its not a big deal. i went thru that stage in my late teens. but then i realised i only went with guys coz i felt it was the 'normal' thing to do. im definately a lesbian, and have no interest in guys at all.
2006-07-10 16:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexy yes very sexy let me get some of dat dere
2006-07-10 18:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by akshooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email me. :)
2006-07-10 16:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋