Do you ever approach another ethnic group just to socialize? Or do you only have lunch with your kind/color?

Question

I have encounter many situations whereby I go into a dinner party of strangers because it is a social gathering of strangers for a benefit. I notice that, it is often me (asian guy) going to make the first contact with other ethnic groups to small talk. When I am by myself standing with a glass of wine, just waiting and observing the room, only other asians will initiate to come talk to me, even if we never met. But never has been the occasion whereby a white man or woman would approace me for small talk. The only time when a white person will come to talk with me is when they need something from me. I think this show many things about white people, they show themselves as being phobic outside of their white racist ways. Or they may be afraid that by talking outside of their white group, they may be seen as polluting their image, so they will never talk to us colored people. FYI, I think white people are the insecure types, needing to protect their "image" over substance.

Answer 1

I'm white and 2 of my best friends are black and hispanic. We are on the board of the PTA together and do most things together. I think it is not so much color as personality. I would not come up to you as a stranger and try and talk to you because I am a bit shy with strangers, but if you were a parent in one of my kids class, or in a group (like PTA, Boy Scouts, soccer dad) i would feel comfortable talking to you because I would know we had a similar interest. Also as a married woman it is a little akward to approach a strange man....
If the Asian ppl are coming over to talk to you then they are also staying within their own race group.

Answer 2

I guess I understand what you're saying because at school there are ethnic cliques so to speak. I mean theres a group of popular white kids, there's an asian clique, and an african american clique. I'm both asian and white and feel comfortable around everyone and everyone on the most part is the same way to me. I think this situation is just because white people might feel uncomfortable with other races because they don't know a lot about their cultures (even though this shouldn't matter) and so they feel more comfortable talking to people of the same race. It has to do with the whole being scared of the unknown which can include other races.

Answer 3

I always like having friends of other ethnicities. I love learning about other people's backgrounds and opinions, regardless of what race they are. And if I have more white friends than friends of other races, it's only because there aren't that many people of other races at my school.

Honestly, though, I don't think it's only a white thing. I've noticed that the exchange students at my school stick with the other exchange students of their own race, even though there are plenty of other people to make friends with. All the Asians eat lunch together, as well as the Africans. If you're saying that white people stick with white people because they're insecure, then I say that we're not the only ones.

Answer 4

I socialize with all cultures and races because we live on a tiny planet and as we globalize, we come more in contact with a variety of people. I am of mixed race and I have friends who are Black, Asian, Caucasian, and of course, all mixed up! I love to learn about different people and where they come from and so forth. But that is just me.

All white people (or white Americans) are not racist. Think about the situation you are in at your diner party or benefit - a bunch of people who may be strangers. People are very shy and it takes a lot for them to just come up to someone and make small talk. People are drawn to people who seem familiar to them...hence Asian people coming up to you and others staying in their respective racial groups.

Some people are scared...if you are Asian or of another culture, Americans get nervous about if there are special norms they need to follow and how they should approach you (yep..it happens) and they don't want to offend or seem gauche.

The next time you go to one of these things, take a friend along (if you want to) - White, Black, Red, Purple...whatever, so that you
are at least not alone and maybe a couple of people will be less intimidated and come up to you and chat.

:-)

Answer 5

I find the same thing in similar situations. (I am white). I have been totally excluded in restaurants and work situations where I was in the minority or close to it. I belong to a Diversity group through work, and believe it or not it is nearly the same thing (as I am the only white male member). I think that innocently, most people are comfortable among their own, in terms of physical appearance, etc. What looks like racism is sometimes just people being small minded and having tiny comfort zones.

Answer 6

What the hell? Do you really think all white people are like that? I, as a white person, interact with all different races. I have black friends, white friends, even asian friends. I am not afraid to speak to any race in any social gathering. Hope this opens your mind about white people.

Answer 7

well, I'm sorry to hear that i am white and don't really care about racial back ground. individuals i may hold a grudge against but, only if they really wronged me. i walk up to other please forgive the term races or ethnic groups and chat quite a bit i find different cultures and people very interesting and as for my image i haven't cared about how other think of me for a long time so, sorry n/a. have a good day though.

Answer 8

I ALWAYS have lunch with my own kind/color. Because I always have lunch alone. HA HA HA HAR HAR HAW HAW HAW HAR HAR.

Actually, I think it's because Asian men have small endowments, and white women don't like that. White men are too polite to talk to you, because they know that you will feel insecure because their male organs are quite a bit larger than yours. Also, they're probably afraid you'll pull a karate move or some crap on them.

As for Asian women, many are cute, so white guys have no problem talking to them.

Answer 9

Yuo should aproach an ethnic group and try to learn more abou them and stuff. Just be calm and cool about the whole situaton as your going it.

Answer 10

I like to learn about other people culture and the different ways of life so yeah I do it all the time.