we have only been married for 5 months. i recently found out that i'm pregnant. after i told him he start acting really weird, not talking showing voilent behavior, he almost hit me saturday night. i found out today that last girl he was with was pregnant, he ended up beating her. she lost the baby. i have a 5 year old and a 3 year old we are all very scared. i need some advice.
2006-07-10 16:25:13 · 16 answers · asked by Heather D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG
I am so sorry you had to find this out about someone you obviously fell in love with. Reality is reality. He is an abuser.
He literally killed his own baby when he beat up his past girlfriend. I get the chills right now just thinking about it.
Don't be afraid to leave. Be afraid to stay. Don't wait until he hits you or one of your kids.
For your life and the lives of now three children you need to get away, even if it means leaving in the middle of the night. Contact a local womans group that helps women in domestic violence situations. They will help you with a plan.
Can you imagine living with this fear for much longer.
Be brave. People here are rooting for you and your kids.
Make sure he can't check what you do on the computer. Get rid of your history each time you are online.
2006-07-10 17:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, he doesn't sound safe. You should do it when he's not there or have some friends come over and help you move. He obviously has issues he has to work through. But you have 2 children and 1 on the way. If you feel he could hurt them in anyway. The only solution is to get out of there.
2006-07-10 23:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar situation and I gave him the benefit of the doubt thinking sometimes people change and what I had learned of his past was just that, his past, plus I was pregnant. Well one day I got a call at work and he had punched our 8 week old daughter in the head because he couldn't get her to stop crying, the doctor said he could have killed her. Needless to say I took my daughter and left him, but I should have never let that happen in the first place.
2006-07-10 23:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk and give it a short time if how ever you feel it going badly leave at once a life of beating is just not worth it, I question the fact that you have not mentioned the word/feeling of Love is there any? is it misplaced? perhaps there was not any in the first place
Take these questions into account when making your decision, and remember to pray for help too
2006-07-10 23:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Pastelero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave. If hes violent you cant afford anything like that.
This happened to my daughter she told him he flipped and went on a crazy rampage which ended him in Jail. Needless to say he has never seen the child and the child is 8 and has a good father now. Leave and file, then keep him away sounds like he didnt want a child and Im sure hed only hurt it. Thats something you dont need to worry about.
Sorry about your situation.
Que
2006-07-10 23:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Quelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself and your children and go, if you feel safer go to a batters women hide out and get a divorce, before it is too late for you. You at least got to keep your children safe they have no choices is situations like that, what might they witness. Do the right thing, you know what it is, it's can also be called a mothers instinct.
2006-07-10 23:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you found out about his prior relationship. You
need to protect yourself and those children. I know it's
a hard thing to do being pregnant and having 2 other children, but get away from him now!!!!! Trying to get away from him may provoke violent behavior so please
get some help and do it as safe as possible.
2006-07-11 00:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not look safe for you and your two kids. Check what is actually want from the family. Does he want any baby, maybe he is man who don't like one. He he love you he will not lay a hand on you or the kids, if he does, leave him to stop the nightmare.
2006-07-10 23:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone should ever feel physically in danger in a relationship, it is the one place you should always feel 100% safe.. you need to rectify that. Only you can decide if that means leaving
2006-07-10 23:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to have to say I think you should. If he's angry about being a father again, things aren't going to get any better with a newborn in the picture.
2006-07-10 23:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by freespiritpassingthrough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋