Ladies, do you think it's appropriate for your man you are in a loving relationship with to still look at porn

Question

If your in a relationship with a guy would you want him looking at porn maybe just cause he thinks it's fun or because guys like to just look at naked women? I mean I understand if you had to go away for a few days or whatever and he just got the urge and needed to, but I don't understand the need or want to do it when your in a really good relationship and are satisfying him sexually. I find it inappropriate and hurtful, but I'm being told I'm jealous. I think it's ok, to want to watch it together, but I don't think he should still want to watch it otherwise. What are your feelings on this. Men, you can put your input too.

Answer 1

Pornography is wrong on so many different levels. However within a loving sexual relationship it is not only 'wrong,' it is obnoxious and horrendously insulting.

A man's bad ways have nothing to do with the actions of the woman who loves him. It is his own problem and only an irresponsible little boy would blame another for his appallingly poor behavior.

There are a lot of things in the world that are common-place and even accepted on some fronts - but public acceptance will 'never' make those things truly right. If you have high standards, stick to those standards - don't let the slackness of others bring you down to their level girl!

Answer 2

How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet

1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog ,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.

2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov

3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.

4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.

5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.

6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.


Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.

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Answer 3

A man who puts you down by telling you that you are jealous is not an understanding one. If he is insensitive and doesn't want to acknowledge your discomfort with this issue, you may want to see if he so easily dimisses your feelings about other things. Most men can look at other women and know that it has nothing to do with how they feel about their partners, but women have a difficult time understanding that men are able to do this. Men who watch porn on a regular basis can be addicted, and if he wants to watch porn and you are not comfortable with it, he should respect your feelings. If he can't give it up, he is addicted. I am concerned about his lack of respect for your feelings. He sounds immature.

Answer 4

Nope, it's not wrong of you to feel this way. Men can actually be addicted to pornography. (Women can too, but it's not nearly as common.) What's the real sh!t-kicker is when he neglects YOU to look at porn and get himself off. My husband I went round and round about this both times I was pregnant. He said it freaked him out to have sex with me with the baby "right there". I'll give him that much...even though he knew the baby would be fine, whatever...I guess it does freak some guys out. But when you're friggin' neglecting me (Wouldn't even make out, mess around, oral...NOTHING) to look at some airbrushed bimbo on the internet or in movies and get yourself off...oh HELL no. Thankfully things are fine now...after I went to therapy for it and learned that this was nothing I was doing. I was pulling my weight, doing my part, etc. Contrary to what most guys will tell you, looking at porn on a regular basis alone, without you is NOT normal and not all guys do it.

Answer 5

As a guy, I would say that you need to talk about it with your guy. Find out what he is getting there that you aren't giving him. You may find that he uses porn to "prime the pump."

If it bothers you, then you need to tell him. I would not give him an ultimatum unless you are willing to accept the consequences of the ultimatum. Keep in mind that American men tend to opt for the "or else" part of an ultimatum no matter what. [I'm not saying that it is the right choice. It is something hard wired into our brains.]

Perhaps if you let him "catch" you looking at porn, he will understand why it bothers you. My best advice is to be non-confrontational when you discuss the subject.

Good luck!

Will D
Enterprise, AL

Answer 6

I can understand how you feel here. I think watching it as in popping a DVD in is one thing, but it depends on what exactly he's doing. Men are visual by nature. So it only stands to reason that they enjoy watching. If you're watching it with him, and your relationship is solid, you shouldn't feel hurt by it. However, if he's cruising the Internet and trying to get into a free web cam thing, then I'm totally with you on that one. I guess it's more of "does it matter where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home to eat" kind of thing for me. As long as it's a magazine or a video in the house then I don't think it's anything to worry about.
However, it obviously bothers you more than it would bother me, so I suggest you tell him how you feel about it. I mean, don't rush in with ultimatums or anything, but let him know that it makes you feel less special and start a dialog about it. You guys should be able to come to something you both can live with.

Answer 7

I'm fine with it. Even in the best of relationships where the two people have evenly matched sex drives, a person can't be completely sexually satisfied all the time. I enjoy looking at porn while alone myself and we watch together and I don't mind if he looks at it without me. I think sex is completely natural and see no need to make a big deal of it.

Answer 8

From a Christian perspective (and as a man who used to be addicted to pornography but who now has 20+ years of marriage under my belt with no addiction at all for just as long), I'd tell you that what your man is going through is both common and worrisome.

By and large the addiction to pornography is so captivating because it effects a man on a number of levels (physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually). Masturbating while looking at the pornography only deepens the bonds because it creates a mental, emotional, and physical connection that is remembered long after the exact image may have been forgotten.

Quite frankly, I had to come to terms with the fact that looking at pornography was a form of immaturity (I've been told the same by hundreds of men -- concerning their own addictions -- over the past two decades). Since I didn't want to be controlled by something as immature as pornography (substituting images for a real, sensual relationship is anything but mature) and because I wanted to please God, I sought help, was honest about my problem, and overcame it relatively quickly.

Am I still tempted? Sometimes but not often. Filters, accountability, and not wanting to devalue the tender nature of my wife has kept me clean.

Lonnie Honeycutt, C.N.C.
http://www.betterlifetoday.com

Answer 9

Ask him to tell you why he feels the need to look at it when he has you. Mature men know how to be discrete. Boys are sloppy in relationships and don't consider the feelings of the women. grab a Playgirl and flash the centerfold at him. Sit in the room and comment about the different body parts of the models. Girl, I mean describe the body in detail! Not just the member, but the abs and biceps. maybe he will get the message and be a bit more sensitive to your feelings...maybe.

Answer 10

it truly is widespread to computer screen porn. it truly is widespread to masturbate. i'm getting this from my acquaintances each and each and every of the time- they experience that if their guy is watching porn, it means that they don't look relaxing him. quite, it truly is often no longer the case. it is like putting forward that of a lady has a vibrator or different sex toy it means that her guy (or female) isn't relaxing her. no longer authentic. Masturbation is widespread, and porn, on condition that it does no longer change into an dependancy, is fantastic. see you later as he's not dishonest on you, I fail to ascertain the priority. I understand objecting to porn on moral grounds, yet in case you guy or female needs to computer screen it, you quite can't tell them no longer to only because you do not agree. you could talk about it, positive, yet in element of undeniable reality that if someone needs to computer screen porn and masturbate, they're going to.