Is getting an abortion a bad thing even though it's not the right time to have a baby?

Question

Even if the person was raped or even a teen is it okay then?

Answer 1

It's a choice you have to make as an individual, and you can't let anyone else make it for you.

You should never have a baby you're not able to care for. That leaves you with two options....adoption or abortion. Neither one is easy. If you do adoption, you'll probably worry if the child is loved and cared for, and question if you made the right decision. If you decide on abortion, you'll probably feel guilt and question that decision.

You know your own heart, and you are the only own who can make this decision for you.

I don't believe that abortion is murder...nor do I believe adoption is abandonment, but you have to decide what you believe..and you need to decide it soon.

I thought about this a little more, and decided to add this in. If I were a teenager, and I got pregnant from a rape, I would have an abortion. First, while it wouldn't be the child's fault, I wouldn't want to raise the child myself or have a relative raise him/her. I'd never want the reminder anywhere in my life. Second, I'd be concerned with my state laws on adoption..it's possible that even though it was rape, the "father" may have to give up his rights for the child to be adopted. I wouldn't want to go through dealing with all of that, and I wouldn't want him to have the option of keeping the child or having it raised by someone of his choice. The idea of a child who is also part of me being raised in the same environment that gave rise to a rapist...thanks, but no thanks.

Answer 2

If it's just "not the right time", no, absolutely not. It is not that baby's fault you didn't protect yourself and does not deserve to be murdered because of it. There are so many people out there that can't have children that would be eternally grateful to take your unwanted child.

In the case of rape, it would take a phenominal person to carry a child conceived out of rape. The emotional and spiritual damage to the mother could ruin her for life. But if you can handle carrying the child, then give it up for adoption if you don't want it.

In the case of incest, abort. The health consequences for the child are huge. And then deal with the person responsible...however you see fit. I won't get into that aspect, because it wouldn't be pleasant.

But if it was just an unplanned pregnancy with no problems like the above, absolutely not. My son was a total surprise (I wasn't even supposed to be able to have kids and I had even decided I didn't want any anyway {a survival tactic on my part}) and then 13 years later...BAM! And it is no lie.....he is the best thing that has ever, ever happened to me in my life! I was still considering adoption (never, EVER abortion even though that was his father's idea) two weeks before he was born. It would have been the worst mistake I ever made. So just because it wasn't expected is no reason to end an innocent life. Someone else will be more than happy to take on your little "oops". To them it would be a gift from God!!

Answer 3

Abortion is wrong no matter what the situation is. It's so easy for anyone to say to abort a baby because of rape or any other bad experience. It's not the baby's fault, it didn't ask to be here. You are killing a human being. Abortions aren't always safe either. You can lose your chances of ever having another child again. You can also bleed to death if the abortion isn't practiced correctly. Adoption is always an option. You simply have no right to kill another human being just because. I won't judge you but God will. Think hard about this. Good luck on your decision. I hope you make the right choice.

Answer 4

Is there every a right time? It's more a matter of a womans feelings. I know some women who have done this and they all say they wonder what there life would be like today if only..... And they always know the anticipated due date and say they get depressed at that particular time of year thinking about it. Also there is the religous perspective. It's alot to think about. A woman should never be pressured into an abortion, she should do what is right for her. And keep in mind not all babies are born out of love, but that doesn't mean they can't be loved. I love law and order svu--Olivia plays the woman cop and she is product of rape yet her mother loves her just the same. To hell with the rapist, the baby is still part of the mother, and hey a mother has a lot of love to give! Don't know if this is personal to you or someone else but I hope this helps!

Answer 5

If a person was raped, there is absolutely no reason why they should be forced to carry a baby.

However, if that person was being irresponsible and got pregnant just because they didn't put on all the bells and whistles, well, that doesn't sound like a very good reason to abort.

As a matter of fact, no girl I have ever talked to who had a baby in their teenage years regretted keeping their baby. Almost all stories I have heard of abortions ended up having regret.

Plus if you're irresponsible enough to have unprotected sex, then a child may do some good in helping you grow up.

It's much better to have your child and be guilt free then to kill it and live with that decision for the rest of your life. Do the right thing, not what somebody tells you to do.

Answer 6

Abortion is wrong, even if the birth is a result of a rape, the baby is always an inoccent party and should not be punished for the rapists evil. Two wrongs don't make a right; you can't fix an evil with another evil, it is just illogical and immoral. It is NOT "totally and completely your decision" as Jen said. You have to take in the factor that there is another human being involved, you have no right to play God and be the judge, jury, and executioner of anyone's life let alone and innocent child.

Answer 7

i always say that abortion stops a beating heart. Take that however you want to take it, but abortion takes a life that otherwise would have had a chance to live. Its an innocent human life that cannot defend itself. I do not agree with abortion. Just type in abortion photos in your search engine and look at some of those pitiful photos.....its awful. There are so many families that would love to adopt a baby. Rape, teen mom, etc...doesnt matter. Abortion is legal killing of an innocent life.

Answer 8

I think abortion is ok to each their own it is your choice but it is a choice you will live with the rest of your life, It is up to you if you want to have a baby and care for a baby and feed a baby and provide for a baby if you can do all of that then you shouldn't have an abortion but if you feel like you cannot provide those things then you have the right to choose

best of luck

Answer 9

Abortion is legal. Whether or not it is a bad thing for you is up to you. Some people handle it well, others feel terribly guilty. If you feel it would compromise your religious morality, then it is probably "bad". If your beliefs are centered in a different view of the fetus and the rights of the woman, then you will probably not feel that. Abortion is never an easy or happy choice. It can be very hard on you, emotionally. But it IS LEGAL.

Answer 10

Abortion is totally and completely your choice. And believe me when I say that you don't want to be asking questions like that on here because you will only get one-sided answers! Abortion is a very big decision, and so is having a baby. Either way you go, there will be pros and cons. So, think about it carefully and make the right choice for YOU. Good luck!