Why do people put so much emphasis on looks when looking for love?

Question

When looking for love you look for a soul mate-- what does that have to do with appearance?

Answer 1

Because if you marry that person you will presumably spent at least the next 60 years of your life with them and it would be nice to be attracted to that person for the rest of your life.

Answer 2

I have read from some research that suggests that attraction to good looks may be more instinctual than previously thought. If you follow that logic that when looking for love, the ultimate goal is to procreate and assure the survival of your genetic material, you will therefore instinctually be attracted to someone by there good looks. Most will agree that being overweight is not the most attractive feature. Maybe it is not that we perceive such a person as fat, but that we perceive them as unhealthy, unsuitable with which to procreate and therefore do not find this attractive. Long term attraction or what some call true love is a whole other story.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Since we can't see the personality of the guy we just laid eyes on in the coffee shop, we have to have something else to go on.
According to Darwin, it's all about ensuring the continuation of good genes, so subconsciously, women will pick the man who can ensure her kids won't get picked on for being ugly.
Also, research has shown that women look for the physical attributes that denote ability to protect [like broad shoulders and muscles] and men look for those that denote sucessful child rearing [substantial breasts and hips].
Forgetting Darwin and scientific research though, you might have to kiss, make love to and see this person's face every morning so ahem...some level of physical attraction is necessary !

Answer 5

There are many aspects to a good healthy relationship, one of which is sex and sexual appeal, without being able to share physical intimacy with each other people would have a serious part of that relationship missing. And whether we like it or not physical appearance plays a role in whether or not we want to spend the rest of our lives sleeping with that person.

Answer 6

It's genetic. I wish it weren't that way too but it is. We are programmed to find certain faces and body types attractive.

I have had really nice people attracted to me and I just could not feel the same way even thought they were nice and had decent personalities.

Don't worry though...I have also been on the other side of that.

Life ain't fair. Don't know what else to tell ya.

Answer 7

Because looks are an indicator of one's fertility; a large-breasted female with curvy hips and a feminine face gives off an unconscious message to any male that the probability of successfully reproducing with her is very high. Conversely, an old, ugly, fat women gives off an unconscious message to any male that the probability is very low.

Answer 8

The underlying biological purpose of attraction and love is reproduction. Our perception of beauty doesn't actually exist. The only thing that separates "beautiful" people from "ugly" people, when you really think about it, is a simple lack of ugly.

Warts, moles, flabby desheveled bodies, wrinkles, oversized crooked noses, pock marks, a lack of facial symetry, age, and other outward signs of poor health causes people to be perceived as less attractive.

Answer 9

You did not say what type of people do such. Wise people do not choose commercial vehicles and aircrafts based on their looks. Neither do wise people choose mates, needed to accompany one through the bumpy roads of life based on looks.
Boaz.

Answer 10

society has made us think that it is important. if you really love yourself, no matter who you meet you will know whether they are the right ones or not. your heart should tell you all you need to know. those that really worry about looks are so vain and have no self confidence that that is all they have to worry about. looks are not everything, it is if someone makes you feel whole and if you can feel that you don't want to miss anything in life and want them to be there to enjoy and grow with you.