I just got sent home from work because another cook decided he wanted to hit on and put his hands on my wife, who is a server in the same resteraunt , i proceded to get in his face call him some names and get sent home. I am also the top bartender in the store and recognized by the owner of the frachise and the corperate president as that, so i am good at what i do and i love my job, but i soooo want to do something about what happened with my wife today. I am very angry and confused ... what should i do!?
2006-07-10 15:25:22 · 12 answers · asked by jeremy h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good judgment calls for you to do nothing right now. Never do anything when you're angry or worked up...whether it's to respond to what happened today or to complain about a traffic ticket. Waiting and calming bring benefits. Secondly, consider for a moment what you wish the end results (of your response) to be. How much of your own life and career are you willing to spend just to send a message, and maybe a violent message, to someone you plan on making responsible for even more of your troubles (the law). I don't know the answer about what to do. That's a decison you'll have to make. But whatever you ultimately choose - and I frankly encourage you to resolve it without a fight - keep in mind that you're not only talking about the other guy's future, but more importantly....you own and that of your wife. Wisdom is in giving ample thought before allowing the yourself to move forward.
2006-07-10 15:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it bother your wife? Sometimes hubby's can get a little bit protective of their wives, when really we know how to take care of ourselves. ( we do appreciate ur help though). Find out if its bothering your wife and if not, let it ride and continue to do your jobs, there will be opportunities for you to vent your anger and discust towards the guy outside of work. However, if it does bother your wife then she should be letting the bosses know of the situation and if they dont act on her complaint then you both should seek legal advice. BUT do not let it upset u to the point where ur sitting there boiling about it, there is nothing u can do at this exact moment, so sit back relax and wait till your wife gets home and she if she wants to discuss it further.
2006-07-10 15:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never work with your wife. If you're as good as you say you are, you will have no problem finding another job. Working together is too much time spent together. Did you let your wife handle it, she might be embarrassed you made such a scene. Guys used to hit on me at work, and I'd show them the finger---the ring finger--they'd get the point. Talk to your wife, then go from there. Good luck
2006-07-10 15:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife. She is the one who needs to go through the corporate steps of filing a complaint about the other employee. Corporations especially take heed in rectifying sexual harassment complaints. As for yourself, you need to apologize to your employers for allowing your temper to get the best of you and assure them you will be able to be professional about your work and not allow personal feelings to come between your job and this person. I don't blame you for what you did but allow corporate to handle the employee the way they should. With complaints like that against him he wont last very long. Corporate doesn't like potential law suits hanging over them.
2006-07-10 15:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I work at the same place, and our rule is, work is work and home is home. When I have a problem, he is not to get involved, and I do the same. If it bothered your wife, she needs to do something about it for herself or the other guys she works with will think it is ok for them to touch her as well. If you have to stand up for her, then it could cost you both jobs. Remind her she doesn't have to take that, and if the company knows what is good for there image, and their pocketbook they will defend her as they should
2006-07-10 15:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by magda_shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do anything that will make you loose your job. iam a manager of a restaurant and I would have to suggest that your wife file charges against him and he will loose his job. You are lucky that you just got sent home and congrats for all you accomplishments you have achieved at work that is awesome.
2006-07-10 15:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by aenease5974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife should file a sexual harrassment complaint against cook/restaurant owners.
2006-07-10 15:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs to file a grievance with corporate.
2006-07-10 15:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by dani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing tell your wife to go to hr and file sexual harrassment on him, you stay out of it as an employee i understand she is your wife but if you do something you will lose your job not him
2006-07-10 15:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your wife file a complaint and tell her you are sorry 4 not being ther e cause she might get mad
2006-07-10 15:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nicolette Martin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋