I have a hard time trusting people,so it takes a while for me to. But after 6 months to a year,when people I meet get know me and me them. I start to trust them. Just when I do,things change too fast for me. The people that I know change in ways like this:
Only care about themselves (school,job and money,etc...)
Only care about the items. IE: Cars,etc...
Don't communicate as much anymore (Telephone,Snail Mail,E-mail,IMing,etc...)
Start to have additude/mentality of "only myself,I and me".
I understand I know and the world has a right to improve themselves like going to school or going to work,being a relationship,etc... But it never seems to end and keep on happening over,over again when from one group or another that I go to.
2006-07-10 15:20:54 · 10 answers · asked by Gadget 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I have a job (a pathetic one that pays $5.15 per hour,due to needed SSI and have to uphold the guidelines to it). There have been times I've been busy too but I at least was able to be communicative towards people I know,have time,etc...(not doing the things that I mentioned). Due knowing how it truely feels to be hurt,rejected,outcasted,abandoned.
For the past 8 years now,I've seen to many people become that way. But never say or do these things towards anyone else that I know (they are friends with too). Why is it people in my life are always busy for me but not towards anyone else that I know (they are friends with too) and why it never slows down there being busy?
2006-07-10 15:24:03 · update #1
I might have to take time out from my busy schedule to answer this question. :) Just kidding.
Maybe they really have things to do. Families, jobs, school, get-togethers. Maybe you are not meeting the right people. Join a club or group that has activities. If you are into sports then find people who play that sport. As you said in your opening line, it is hard for you to trust people. Maybe you still have a tendency to not get too close to people. People can sense that and may not like to include you in their whatever. Try volunteering and meeting people of like interest. I know there are many maybes but if you move in the wrong circles you are always going to feel that way. Don't go looking for friends.Look to meet people. Friendship comes later on.
2006-07-10 15:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by crazyhumans2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel my best friend who I use to hang around with all the time got a girlfriend and now he hardly ever talks to me anymore and don't get me wrong I have nothing against him having a girlfriend in fact I wish I could get a girlfriend but even the few times that I got to talk to him now all he would ever talk about was how great his girlfriend was and I really didn't care how great his girlfriend was. Also my friends except for maybe one of them always seem to ditch me if they have the opportunity to hang out with a group that has jocks or people they consider cool and I don't get it I will be nice to them all the time and treat them with respect and they always ditch me for someone else and this has happened tons of times to me and I don't understand why.
2006-07-11 01:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by loot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care who you are, all relationships ebb and flow...and you must flow with it. Be careful not to take things too personally (I sense you are very sensitive), go on with your life, and be who you are. I have a saying that has served me well, "I don't want to be with anyone, that doesn't want to be with me." Think highly of yourself and others will, too. I don't mean in the "false cocky" way...but more of a "I know who I am" way. I think all of us have felt the sting of not being high on someones priority list..so create your own. Decide if you want to be around them. You do the choosing. I am now surrounded by people I value. It eliminated all the "fluff" in my life; and paved the way for me to meet new people. Learn to trust your own judgment and instincts....the rest will follow. I hope this helps you some.
2006-07-10 22:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have entangled themselves with the various options available for spending their spare time and thus lost the spare time to other activities hitherto not done. Everybody is busy, thoughout the day, week, year so much so they have no time for friends or relatives.
VR
2006-07-24 02:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by sarayu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are busy because they are shallow. Some say they are trying to improve themselves, but in reality they either want more stuff, or they are invovled in the latest trend in a pathetic attempt to be like everyone else.
2006-07-10 22:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by Paul's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are busy for the bread and butter to win no matter who you are if you know that you can survive with plain bread you would not do the hassling and busseling . look at the Charlie Chaplin movie of civilization some people call it the alienation
2006-07-24 05:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by ncegrad87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world is a fast moving society right now.
Oops, sorry I gotta go can't write anymore.
2006-07-23 10:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Theresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the way of the world, and its only going to get faster. Work all your life, get more crap, die. Sad but true.
2006-07-22 01:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by cognitively_dislocated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the way society is.....
2006-07-22 07:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Redknight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to "GET BUSY"!
2006-07-24 23:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋