Does anyone else REALLY want another baby?

Question

Does anyone else other than me REALLY want another baby, but you have to constantly talk yourself out of it and reason WHY you shouldn't have another baby right now? (i.e. Already have two kids, both young [toddlers], hands are full, money is tight, etc.) I LOVE babies and really want another one, but I have to keep telling myself no, not yet!

Also, is having three kids much different from having two...I mean, as far as the work? I have a 2 1/2 year old and a one year old. How frazzled would I be and how shot would my nerves be? lol

Someone, please talk me down!!!

LOL---You guys are funny. :) And thank you for the wonderful advice...it worked, for now! I really should devote my attention to my two beautiful kids that I have now. Bringing a third one into the mix would be unfair...both to the baby and my older kids. You guys rock...thanks for the great advice, and for talking me down! :)

Answer 1

Ok im gonna talk you out of it.

You really shouldn't have another child right now, I mean, your other 2 are probably really young, you should give them a chance to grow up and enjoy the attention that you are able to give them.(even though it's cut in two), if you had a third, it would be cut into THIRDS! And you should give your body a nice long break and enjoy not being pregnant.

lol...you just got baby fever!

Answer 2

First of all, catch your breath! ;) I have 3 kids: age 13, 11, and 8. Three is NO more work than 2 unless they are really little the way yours are. If you want 3, have 3. I would LOVE to have another one but cant because I had ovarian cancer while pregnant with the 3rd which resulted in a hysterectomy. Make a committment to yourself that you will save $10,000 within 3 or 4 years. When you do that, have one. Your finances will be in order, the others will be big enough to help you out, and you will have a much better idea of when you need. :) Good luck!

Answer 3

ok what i would do is have a third child BUT not right now, wait till your other older one is able to go to elementry school so that way most of the day you only have two kids, it will help you slowly get used to having a third child so that way you dont feel to overwhelmed. that is only two and a half years from now, and if you look at it this way you can start trying to concieve when your 2 1/2 year old is 4, cause it takes time to get pregnant and so by time you get pregnant and have a baby your oldest will be in school, so if you look at it that way you only have to wait a year and a half before you decide to try again! no rush right! take it easy and use this time to do more things with the kids you have now, becides like you said things are tight so this will give you some more time to prepare for another child.

Answer 4

Oh honey, I am so going to talk you down!! lol........ I only have one and he's four. He is the most energetic kid I've ever seen. I can't keep up. I've thought of having more also, but just watching him has helped me to NOT have more...lol I don't know about the effects on your work load from 3 to 4, but I would say it's going to be a noticeable change. Kids are a wonderful part of life but soooo expensive. You already have two, I'd keep it at that. Two is perfect. I'd like to have another just so he wouldn't be alone if something were to happen to his father and I. I just can't bring myself to do it though. Count your blessings and just look at those beautiful little faces when their sleeping and think how in the hell could I do it with one more??? lol. I don't know if I helped but I do know how you feel. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Holy cow- I know babies are SOOOO cute, but really, snap out of it! I have 2 kids too- and I'm DONE! Do you really want to be up at night with a newborn, go through another LOOONG 9 months, give birth to another child??? Your kids will all be so close together, how will you do it? I have a hard time with my kids being 3 years apart! Do you remember the adjustment from having one kid to suddenly buying diapers for 2? Do you think your oldest will be completely potty trained in 9 months? Do you think you can afford buying diapers for 3 kids???

Did it work? I hope I didn't offend you- I'm actually a nice person!

Answer 6

Going from 2 to 3 is no a big deal. Going from 1 to 2 is a much bigger deal. If you REALLY want one, then I say go for it. If it is meant to be, God you bless you with a child.

Or, just maybe wait until the kids are a little older. I don't know how old you are right now, so I am not sure how this will work for your exact situation.

Answer 7

Yes I do the same thing. My son is only 4 months old & already I want another one! I know it's not healthy for me to get pregnant again right now, but I do want to have my children close together, so I haven't told his daddy yet, but I want to try to get pregnant again before my son is a year & 3 months old so they will be no more than 2 years apart LOL I'd love to talk you down, but I need someone ever once in a while to do the same for me :D

Answer 8

I suggest that you don't have another baby until you aren't as stressed and a little more relaxed. Having 2 toddlers can be difficult, so I would wait a year or 2 until your oldest baby can walk, talk, and is trained. I'm glad you want more kids, but don't more kids can cost more money and can cause stress, and that can affect your family. So I think waiting would be best for everyone.

Answer 9

I find your question odd because I am going through the same thing right now. My girls are 15 months and 27 months and I CONSTANTLY think about having another child. I can't for 5 years because of finances and my IUD won't allow me to have another child unless I get it taken out early. I know I'm having another child, just not for a few years. Enjoy the 2 you have right now and in the future you feel like you want another child, have at it. Good luck in whatever decision you go with.

Answer 10

Once you can handle 3, you can actually keep going from there. At that point, you learn to budget your finances, learn to budget your time, learn things that mothers do when they are happy with the children they have.

I currently have 5 children. All are gifted & talented, or in highly advanced curriculums. I love my kids, with my whole heart. We try to have as much fun in our lives as we can - and I try my best to make everything a learning experience. Sure, we have some bad days, but most of the days are wonderful. And, very memorable.

If I didn't want more children, I would have had my tubes tied. As it is, I'm now expecting twins.