I have a good friend who is gay(i'm straight),we got pretty messed up this past weekend,and ended up sleeping together,I can't remember what happened,we have talked about it and he's ok with it,but I'm not sure.
2006-07-10 15:13:42 · 26 answers · asked by herman 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Whether your ultimate reaction to this event is positive or not will depend entirely on how comfortable you are with your sexuality. Only you will be able to determine that.
If you realize that you acted on repressed homosexual attraction and find yourself truly Gay, then great! Embrace the person that you are. You've taken the first baby step to freedom from fear and denial.
If you realize it was a one time, experimental fling and you know you are straight, then great! Again, embrace that facet of your life and use that one night as an opportunity through which you find empathy and understanding for those of us who are Gay.
Personally, regardless of how drunk or messed up I was, I'm absolutely, 100% positively certain I would know if I'd had sex with a woman! That's something no amount of anesthesia will obliterate. (No offense to my sisters. I just believe that a woman was made to be with a woman and a man with a man.) ::chuckle::
Right now, your primary concern should be:
1) Get a baseline for *all* STD's,
2) Return to your healthcare provider, clinic, etc., no later than 6 months to get retested (for HIV) and,
3) DO NOT IGNORE #'s 1 and 2!
Best Wishes!
EDIT: Responding to the concerns of one Answerer when some of us advised the Querent to get evaluated for STD's:
Yes. I would have advised the same thing if an individual posted that he (or she) had sex without the presence of full cognitive functions.
***One tends to be less cautious when impaired.***
If the Question had been heterosexually focused, the same response would have been provided.
Cheers!
2006-07-10 18:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to these idiots who say this means you're not straight anymore. Lots of people experiment. I slept with a couple men after I figured out I was a lesbian, just for the experience. Does that mean that I'm not gay anymore? Hardly. There's nothing wrong with what you did that wouldn't be wrong if a hererosexual couple did it. What does it matter that he was gay? If you and a female friend got messed up and slept together, then talked about it afterwards and were both okay with it, would that be wrong? So there's absolutely nothing about this experience that had to be a big deal. Did you enjoy it? Then consider doing it again. Weren't into it? Well, now you know. Don't worry so much!
2006-07-10 16:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by angelfish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think it's wrong.... only you can decide if it's wrong for you. From the sound of it though you don't have a problem with your friend being gay, which suggests that your question isn't asking if we think it's wrong for two guys to sleep together, but if we think it's wrong for you to sleep with another guy because you're straight. Again only you can answer that. People do all sorts of things they wouldn't normally do when they're affected by alcohol and/or drugs, so if you decide that what you did really goes against what you believe in or want for yourself.... learn your limits and stick to them in the future. Don't beat yourself up about it, what's done is done, get yourself tested for STDs to ease your mind, and use this experience as a learning curve.
2006-07-10 15:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by moo71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were THAT messed up, probably very little happened. One or both of you probably passed out and went to sleep. If you're worried about sexually transmitted diseases, go to a clinic and get check out. But beyond that, think about not getting that messed up again. You should always be responsible for your actions, and not blame them on alcohol or drugs!
2006-07-10 15:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why you guys advice this guy to go check up for STD?, just because he slept with a gay guy, doesn't mean that guy have multiple partner, don't make generalization. So if he slept with a women and you people advice him to undergo checkup for STD?
and for the question, well, if two people are ok with it, what's the problem. If you are become insecure about your sexuality because of what happened, be affirmed that it doesn't make you gay.
2006-07-11 01:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by NikeT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could never be so messed up that I wouldn't realize I was having gay sex. So maybe, your not as straight as you think you are?
2006-07-10 15:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by BlueAngel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe that might be called "rape" are you sure he was that messed up? if hes a really good friend punch him in the face so he wont forget, or if you liked it, take him out rent brokeback mountain, and get married
2006-07-10 15:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by snowadian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares
just forget about it
most women have slept with a another chick before
as long as the guy knows you are nothing more than friends
2006-07-10 15:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bleu Yeux Belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is ok with everything and expects nothing else from you, you should be ok with it also. Drunk or not, if something happened, you can atleast say you've tried both ways now, which some people think his hot
2006-07-10 17:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wrong that you got that messed up
anything that resulted from it is because of the alcohol/drugs
you are still straight, but just had a very wrong moment
2006-07-10 15:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋