I'm kind of antisocial?

Question

I'm kind of anti social so i dont have many friends and im in highschool , do you know a way that will make me less anti social i can't talk to anybody especially boys they make me really nervous but just the cute ones whats wrong with me

Answer 1

an easy way to get more friends would be to join an after school club and start talking to the people there. Or join an afterschool sport... if you're not too athletic join a sport like track where there aren't any cuts. If you join a club like "peer counseling" it might help you gain social skills and confidence to be able to talk to people... i used to have the same problem, but just practice talking to people a lot and sooner or later you'll become good at it and build confidence and not be scared anymore :)

Answer 2

Beloved, you are not antisocial. Antisocial is a very serious phobia. You may perhaps be a bit introverted, but not even that so much, because only the "not so unattractive boys" make you really nervous. All you need is to get up every morning, look in the mirror, see the you that emanates from within, and tell that you how wonderfully kind, beautiful, interesting and happy you are. It may be difficult at first, because it is something new, but you have to begin with what is in your ability to do to help yourself. You can surely talk to yourself, if no one else right now. Do that everyday until you begin to believe it. I promise you, you will attract people TO YOU. Always remember that as a person thinks in their heart, so is that person. In other words, you are what you think and say you are. You are "GREAT" I know it. And believe me. cute guys make me a little nervous also. And I have grandchildren. You will be fine. You just have to take the first step to change. If you really want it, you will do something different to get different results. Encourage yourself!!!
And do it with words that are COMPLIMENTARY. Know this....those complimentary words are the TRUTH!!

Answer 3

Antisocial individuals are like serial killers and whatnot-- you seem anxoius, not anti. As a walking panic attack, I can say that experience is the best teacher-- the more practice, the easier it gets or the more familiar it gets. Start with casual questions to men you are just acquaintances with-- in other words, you don't care if it goes wrong (not that there is a "wrong" in this case). Start with "history" questions, ie: what did you eat for lunch today, how do you think you did on that test? Just keep asking questions until you find a common subject. Men love to talk about themselves. Take small bites of conversation, don't spill your guts to the first guy who seems interested in your line of conversation-- try to keep it balanced, back and forth, like a tennis match.

Answer 4

nothing is wrong with you. i was this same way in school and nothing ever changed really. You just have to keep reminding yourself that not everyone is watching you or listening to what you have to say. I was really self concious about everything I done, how I dressed, who I talked to, what I talked about. I was afraid people would judge me, but now I realize think who cares what other people think of me? Now, Im very opinionated and socialable. People like me, and those who don't-that's their problem.

Answer 5

absolutely nothing- ur normal. with the antisocial-ness, get out n do sumthin- like a sport or a club like drama- itll get u involved, and ull meet more ppl. w/ drama, u will get over ur nervoousness. as 4 the guys, just pretend u talk 2 them every day, or that theyre ur bro. works every time. really

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with you. More girls should be like you actually. Just wear a smile more often (not the goofy smile you have on your avatar) and people will see you as an approachable person and you will be ok.

Answer 7

well i have had a couple of friends like that and i've taken them out to eat, to partyz, the bar, where ever and just hung out with them one on one, introduce them to alot of people, and just helped them out. I've given them pointers and such, but the best thing ever is to teach them how to completly be them selfs and speak out a little more.

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