I Need Help...... Please I'm only 16.....?

Question

Ok so here's the thing. I feel horrible so if you're going to answer be easy. I'm 16. My boyfriend is 23. I'm sexually active adn my parents don't know I'm dating him or that I'm sexually active. Now I think I might be pregnant. I feel I can't tell my parents because I don't want them to disown me (which is what will happen). I don't know what to do or even if I'm pregnant. My breasts hurt, I'm really tired, I have a headache all the time, I feel sick to my stomache and even threw up a few times. I would be about a month- month adn a half. My boyfriend 100% supports me adn I know he'll be there and if worse comes to worse I can go live with him. but I need help. What should I do????????!!!!!!!!!!

Ok. I should've been more clear. My parents will definalty Disown me. I plan to keep the baby if I'm pregnant. My boyfriend adn I love each other (age is just a number). My boyfriend lives in Reno, NV, I just moved to Fremont California two weeks ago from Reno. My boyfriend doesnt even know i think i am. But i think im pregnant. Please someone help me. If you're somone I can talk abck and forth about this with please just email me directly at [e-mail] I really need the help and someone to talk to that isn't going to make me feel like dirt.

ok while i appreciate most of your answers the deal is this. my parents disowned my brother for having a kid at 18 so im scared to death. my brother and sister may or may not be there for me but they are the ones i am most worried about losing. ive already told my best friend and him, his mom, and his cousin are there for me. i can live with my bf if needed. i need to know how to tell my parents so that i dont risk of getting phisically hurt when i tell them if im pregnant. please help and for you guys that wnat to be kept posted.....please email me at the above address. and for the ppl who say i was the one who had unprotected sex.......the condum broke so i wasnt being stupid...

Answer 1

You are too young and your boy friend could be in trouble-statutory rape, is the term I believe in your country.

The best solution would be an abortion, you may later on regret that you gave birth to the child, and hence maybe ruin your life as well as that of the child.

The other thing is come clean with your parents and I am sure that they will not treat you as they did your brother. You are only 16, and a girl.

All the best in life!
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Answer 2

Why did you not take some other form of birth control knowing the fact you are sexually active in which you should not be because sex is for adults not teens and preteens. Did you not learn that condoms should not be used as the only form of birth control. And knowing what happened with your brother it should have kept you away from getting pregnant. What you should do is tell your parents because they will know sooner or later. If they disown you then oh well because you should have thought about that while you were laying up with your boyfriend playing adult. If you are not scared to engage in sex then do not be scared when a baby pops up or you catch some kind of STD.

Answer 3

Well you need to get your bf to buy you a home pregnancy test or you can go to a free clinic and have a test if you are pregnant you need to talk with him and your parents I know that will be hard but they love you and might surprise you If you are not pregnant make an appointment and get a reliable form of birth control as soon as possible. Also you need to think about what you are doing with a 23 yr old you have so much to look forward to and a baby is not what you want at this age. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

Well, you need to contact Planned Parenthood in your area. Get tested.

Find out if you're pregnant or not. You could just be so worried you're showing symptoms.

Get tested.

Next, decide what you want to do. Do you want an abortion? Do you think your parents will disown you? If so, could you live with grandparents, uncles and aunts, other relatives?

Don't get down on yourself. You're human, and your a kid. Everyone gets curious about sex. Almost everyone loses their virginity by the age of 16 these days.

So, get informed. Get tested. Then make your decisions.

Good luck.

Answer 5

OK I understand a Lil bit better now this is a tough one. First we have to know definitely take a pregnancy test. If positive tell your boyfriend first and see all the options you guys have. It's obvious you want to keep the baby so it's imperative your boyfriend be on board with this with telling your parents. Maybe moving in with him is a good idea. Physical harm from your parents is not accepted especially if you're pregnant so maybe leaving for a couple of days and telling them via phone, e-mail or family member might be the best way to go. Hopefully they calm down and realize that stress is bad for you and the baby. Well keep us posted OK and good luck!

Answer 6

Aww. Well I've had this happen to me. Just recently in fact. Except the guy I was with didn't care about me as much as your boyfriend seems to. Anyway, yes, you're going to have to tell your parents eventually but if they have any bit of heart they will still love you. They may be angry at first but you're still their child. What I did is, I didn't tell my mom even though it would bother me until I was totally sure if I was pregnant or not. I suggest getting a home pregnancy test. That's the advice I had gotten. If it's positive than go to the doctors to make sure. I hope I helped. Good luck.

Answer 7

for starters you should have kept your pants on. 2ndly take the test. 3rdly do you understand that what you did was illegal in most if not all states since you are a minor and he isn't so even if you are not pregnant please do not have sex any more until your are 18 and if you are than please for your sake and his be open with your parents that you are and work with them so that you both can stay out of as much trouble as possible (you might want to consider marriage especially if you are going to move in with him otherwise he CAN and most likely WILL go to jail for statutory rape you will likely have to have your parent(s) sign for you but it might be best) and if you cannot talk to your parents than find a teacher or counselor or some in your church (if you attend and if you don't maybe you should) or at least a church or maybe a friends parent or an older sibling or relative. youv'e started in the right direction by comming here now contuine, and please let us know how it turns out

I hope you can learn to talk with your parents and above all else DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION. YOU WILL DIFFENLY REGRET IT. well maybe not but of the many women i know of who have said that they wished they wouldn't of and some have even killed themselves because they could not live with the pain of taking their unborn childs life. and if you are not pregnant than good it will give you time to plan for a child when you are ready. Be careful from now on and girl you are really to young to be haveing sex or for that mater even touching a guy. And if anything I said offends you I'm sorry but I belive you needed to hear or at least read it.

PS I wish you great luck with your life and hope you will think about your actions from now on.

Answer 8

DO NOT ABORT!!!! i'll say it again DO NOT ABORT!!!!

http://www.rockforlife.org/html/know_abortion.html

this website will tell u some things that will happen 2 u and ur baby if u abort! its REALLY DANGEROUS!!!!

i kno that u think that ur parents will "disown" u but if they truly love u then they shouldnt... and @ least u will have ur b/f... it sounds like ur pregnant... take a pregnancy test!

find a human resorce center near ur home... they will give u all the help u need... 4 now u should tell ur parents that ur goin out w/ this guy... so they dont hear that and that ur pregnant all @ the same time... bein sexually active outside of marriage isnt safe... so God made consequences... such as STD's and pregnancy... so just DO NOT ABORT!

Answer 9

if you are not pregnant you need to go on birth control and be on that for at least a month and then use condoms too, not just one or the other, as tempting as it is. also if the wrong person finds out about your realtionship he could go to jail for a very long time. if i were you and i was not pregnant and i really cared about my bf i would leave him. i bet you are great but not worth jail time. noone is. if you are pregnant he may end up in jail anyways if your parents find out and press charges. that is the bitter truth, i'm not gonna sugarcoat it. you should have been more careful. if i was in your situation i would consider adoption. i would never consider abortion no matter how desperate i was. i was lucky, i had a supportive familly that wanted to help me out. you don't. do you want to raise your baby in that kind of situatuon? with bad grandparents and a father in jail? or give it to someone that can offer it a wonderful life? i'm sorry to hear you may be pregnant but hey it happens to the best of us. good luck, you will need it.

Answer 10

Don't shoot to extremes at the first sign of trouble, ive learned that the hard way. What I mean is not to go directly towards one decision that you might really regret...like leaving your parents at 16. I'm only a couple years older then you, but I can tell you that you might want to consider going to a clinic or getting tested to find out okay? They got maternity tests at all grocery stores and drug stores, and you won't be questioned about it. Get tested before you start going off the wall. If the answer its 'yes', you are pregnant, then I consider abortion or other alternatives for birth. I really want to help so keep me posted if I can do anything.

Answer 11

Try going to a doctor and seeing what your options are. You need to weigh your options very carefully and decide what is going to be best for you, your family and your baby. Your boyfriend may not always be there, but if your family loves you they will support you through whatever. You should seek out advice and support from the people who are closest to you, not strangers online. If you are pregnant, there are places in your neighborhood that can help you through this traumatically growing ordeal, such as planned parenthood, I've also heard about some organizations that are affiliated with churches and synigauges that will be able to help you through, but whatever your ultimate goal is, good luck.