She left me for a man and we also have a 3 year old son together.
2006-07-10 14:38:56 · 19 answers · asked by crazysexywhtgrl21 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sounds bad.
I don't know the whole story, but that sounds bad.
2006-07-10 14:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by olelefthander 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is too bad being that you two have a child together, but break-ups happen every day. Was your girlfriend bi? That would explain the next realtionship she had could have been with a girl or guy. You're hurting right now so you should talk to a friend about this, not post it as a question on yahoo answers. You will still have to see her cause of your son. Try not to bring that hurt up in front of the child, he might not understand about break-ups and blame himself. Talk to him about it without saying anything bad about your ex-girlfriend.
2006-07-10 16:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm wish I could help but really there's not enough info in your question to offer much advice..... are you suggesting that she did something wrong because she left you, or because she left you for a man, or because of something you haven't told us??
I hope that you can work things out so that everyone's happy, but if you don't end up back together, for your son's sake you should really try to remain friendly with your girlfriend. Not sure if you are playing a blame game or not, but if you are it's not a healthy way to deal with the situation. If your girl left you for a man, she obviously has been denying something in herself and it seems to you as well. You need to let her do what's right for her, and for the sake of your son, I sincerely hope she isn't acting purely for selfish reasons. Did she take the boy with her??
2006-07-10 15:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by moo71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she thinks she did nothing wrong? how so? does she think she did nothing wrong by leaving you to start a relationship with a man? i'm kinda confused by the whole she thinks she did nothing wrong.
there a lot of factors that may have come into play why she left you for a man. one could be her bisexuality, another could be she had outside pressure to follow a more "acceptible" lifestyle, another could be that she felt maybe she was missing something, or want to see what life is like with a man.
is it right to hurt you and your son? no. is it right that she left you for a man? can't say yes or no to that since i don't really know her or what happened in her life that lead to her decision.
the most important thing is that you do what is best for you and your son. if she wants to be with whomever she wants, so be it. you just find love and happiness in your son, and if she comes back and wants to be with you, and you want her back-then so e it. if she comes back and you don't want her-so be it. but no matter what, you do what is best for you!!
good luck to you!
2006-07-10 15:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Krazie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this is a phase that she is going through. Had you considered the possibility that she could be bisexual beforehand? Three years is a long time to be in a relationship without every bringing up the subject of men, were there any for warning? Had you two had any type of communications about bisexuality?
2006-07-10 14:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by ucyimadiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm sorry your life isn't going so well. Break-ups almost always suck. But you want her to be happy, don't you? She may be bisexual, or she may not be lesbian at all. Maybe she discovered that it wasn't where her head was really at for now.
Who carried the child? You I presume. I guess the only advice I have is to get past it and get on with your life. Easier said than done, I know. But your son needs you to be strong.
2006-07-10 14:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the guy she left you for the father??? If he is maybe she wants to give him a chance at being apart of the childs life. Since I'm not sure if he's the dad or not this answer might not be worth crap but either way I hopr things work out for you.
2006-07-10 14:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl friend may be a little confused about her sexuality, give her a chance if you are meant to be together she will come back however if not than that was the way it was meant to be .For you well it just means that there is someone else out there waiting for you to find them. Good luck ,
2006-07-10 14:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is horrible and i am so sorry you have to deal with that. People can be so cold and screwed up, and to worsen things it is people like her that flip back and forth from men to woman that make people think that who we are is a choice. That is so wrong and she will pay for it in karma, you just keep your head up, and realize that things can only get as bad as you allow them to. It might hurt and be scary as hell right now, but there is someone else out there for you, that wouldn't dream of hurting you like that. stay strong, not only for yourself but for your child because he needs you a lot more then you need her.
good luck
im sorry that people do things like this
2006-07-10 15:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Advice Whore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God stop looking for someone to blame. Who cares she screwing some guy, didn't you guys break up? Did she commit a crime by wanting a penis near her? Its okay to be gay and its okay not to be gay, and its okay to jump back and forth across the fence. Furthermore, if she left you for anyone male or female you didn't need her cheating azz anyway. If she got with a guy after you guys broke up, that is no concern of yours because your not sleeping with her anymore. I get sick of us bisexuals being regarded as some sort of "traders" for sleeping with guys. The truth of the matter is: Its our bodies and we will do with them what we damn well please....so there.
2006-07-17 09:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey S@@T happens people fall out of love. Pay your child support and stay an active part of your son's life. In fact you might want to get yourself a lawyer and sue for joint custody.
2006-07-11 01:39:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋