My husband is 28 years old, 6'0, 305 pounds, smokes a pack 1/2 a day. He is a paramedic working 3 jobs. He sits in an ambulance ALL DAY! and when he is home he is sleeping or laying on the couch. He has bad knees so he can't walk for long, or ride bikes with us. I go to the gym and he laughs. I really need some help. I do the cooking however I work all day. So if I am cooking I cook something very easy as he doesn't eat till later on at night. I will warn you all I am not a good cook and when I try to cook something other than chicken nuggets and mac n cheese I get the YUCK face from all. Its very upsetting. I love him to death and I really need some advice before something happens to him. Worse is he is in the medical field and stubborn as anything. Please I love him. He is my soulmate and best friend and want him to be around for a long time. He means the world to me! Any websites with easy recipes. Thanks for all that respond.
2006-07-10 14:28:54 · 10 answers · asked by Stacy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell him how you feel. then find a way to help work with him on making him healthy and making your relationship better. what ever you do don't threaten to leave him or anything like that those things never work the way people want just try to help him and tell him that you love him instead of telling him whats wrong that's hes doing
2006-07-10 14:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by The ones you fear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how much time you have to spare but if you do have some time I would suggest a cooking class. There are plenty of dishes that are weight conscious and taste good. Chicken nuggets and mac n cheese are definitely not helping your husband. Whatever you do don't nag him to loose weight or do anything. This will not produce any results. Try to find something that is fun that doesn't require a lot of energy. That way he will be getting some exercise without really realizing that he is getting any. Then you can work your way up slowly from that. The more you sit the more you don't want to do any form of exercise. Exercise comes in so many forms - go bowling one night or mini golf - anything to be standing up and moving around.
A website with really easy receipes is www.bettycrocker.com. You do sound supportive for him and it's obvious that you love him. I wish you all the best.
2006-07-10 21:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfsong88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be in the medical field, but when was the last time he had a check-up? Is there something physically wrong with him? Is he depressed, so over-eating and smoking? Have you tried couple counseling? Sometimes an outsider can help get your point across without your having to nag him. Does he have family nearby who may be willing to take him fishing or someplace that involves -- at first -- minimum exercises but which can be built up -- longer walks to the fishing spot, for example? Loving him obviously isn't enough. You need some outside help.
2006-07-10 21:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by CarolO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious and you want to save his life do the following:
1. Tell him no more of your vagina until he drops some weight.
2. Tell him his has 6 months to lose 20 pounds or he's gone.
3. Tell him you love him but you can't live with a person you don't respect.
4. Tell him its going to be rough living without him, but if he wants to kill himself slowly, you don't want to be around to watch.
If this doesn't knock some sense into him, then he loves food more than he love you. Then you'll have a choice to make.
TX Guy
2006-07-10 21:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he loves you as much, play that card, It is easy, so easy that you'll feel bad, for a second, Tell him that you are afraid about him, if he dies what will be of you, that you will follow him right away, sometimes you can sleep, but you don't want to worry him, ha works too hard he doesn't need more worries, yada,yada, yada. you get the idea, and I'm sure that is the way you feel
2006-07-10 21:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by class4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess whenever you do cook, make salad...chicken salad, etc. You really can't mess up salad, and dressing is really tasty fat-free....and I'm a Marie's Bleu Cheese fan...
You'll get better advice from others who answer, but i think it should start at home.
2006-07-10 21:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone do anything they don't want to do. Once you tell him how you feel and if he loves himself and you then he will take action. If he doesn't, you have to ask yourself...is the fact that you are in love with him enough reason to put up with his crappy habits? The ball is in your court. I wish you much luck!
2006-07-10 21:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by bebelucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help those that are not ready to help themselves. You can make suggestions and say that you are worried about him, but with him he already knows the dangers of his life style. I am sorry but unless he is ready to change you will have a slim chance of changing him
2006-07-10 21:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told him all of this...??? What does he say when you express your concern? maybe you can appeal to his medical knowledge but just so you know, most people in health care, don't take care of themselves...cause we see all the crap that goes on in the world and have a bit of a fatalistic attitude...
I would tell him you're are very unhappy and consider leaving him...
2006-07-10 21:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by jonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should try to learn how to cook more healthier foods and show u will do it with him.
2006-07-10 21:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by pinkranger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋