Do to curcimstances i think she told me a date two weeks later the the real date. I will still get a paternity test when the child is born, but would like to know the chances sooner. Can i talk to her doctor?
2006-07-10 14:21:05 · 21 answers · asked by Chris B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the reason i ask is she told me dec. 17 but then talks about trying to concieve early, and a diffrence in the date could mean it;s not my kid. So right now i just want to know if it is or not. so i can do the right thing
2006-07-10 18:46:22 · update #1
No. Under HIPAA law, you cannot talk to her doctor unless she signs a form giving you permission to do so. And she doesn't have to sign the form if she doesn't want to.
2006-07-10 18:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot get any information from the doctor directly. This would be breaking patient confidentiality rules.
My suggestion to you is, to go along with her to the next doctor's visit. Show some support. Her body is working twice as hard to not only take care of herself, but to take care of a growing child. Where have you been? How have you helped her? How are you making sure that the baby is going to come into this world, happy & healthy? You're worried about a date?!
During pregnancy, a woman's due date will change. The first due date is just a guess. Later on, as the baby progresses and grows (obviously thanks to only her, and not you), ultrasounds are performed, measurements are taken, and then the doctor can have a more accurate expected date of arrival. Ultrasounds, even by the most advanced machines, can still be off by as much as a week. And not only that, but that is still all guesses. Only God knows the exact date of a baby's arrival. Rarely is a woman giving birth on her actual due date, without some sort of induction.
My advice to you is - to show some support. I don't care if I don't get rated best answer for this. Because frankly, you're more concerned with a paternity action, than your own child's well-being. And that makes me so ill. Apparently you haven't looked at the costs of things that a baby requires, from the moment that they are born. Diapers & wipes don't come cheap. Bottles, formula, clothing, socks, bibs, ointments, soap, towels, washcloths, carseats, bassinets, cribs, changing stations, strollers, high chairs, diaper bags, and yes even some toys when the baby is a few months old. Babies aren't cheap!
Right now, she's going through a lot - her body's going through a lot, her emotions are under duress, her entire life is getting ready to change - and the one person that she confides in is the father of her unborn child. If she thought the baby was someone else's - wouldn't she be looking for support from someone more caring?
Just remember - any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a Dad. They have that saying for a reason. You should decide NOW - how you want your child to think of you. A child will look at their baby pictures, and say "hey, mom? How come my father's not in any of these?"
2006-07-10 22:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask all you want but her Doctor won't tell you a thing. Doctor-patient privilege. It's against the law for any health care professional to discuss or disclose any persons information with another.
2006-07-10 21:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by kween_of_denyl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask until you turn blue. The fact of the matter is, you are not his patient...your ex-girlfriend is, and her doctor won't tell you anything because of the doctor/patient confidentiality privilege.
2006-07-10 21:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are no longer the girls partner you cannot ask anything about her health from her doctor. can you remember when she first told you about the pregnancy? pregnancy usually lasts nine months and 2 weeks from the date she last had a period , counting from the first day of the period .see if you can ask one of her girl friends .
2006-07-10 21:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2006-07-10 21:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not do anything like that ever? coz what if she was right? and she comes to know that you have not trusted her?.it will create a huge problem in your future life.it is better to ask her several times in case of doubts than to ask the doctor.
2006-07-10 21:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant talk to her doctore unless of course your real sneaky and ask to go with her for the next check up then once your in the room with both of them slam her with the question
2006-07-10 21:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by starjessiegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASk to see an ultrasound pic it has the EDD estimated date of delivery on it...Then count backwards from there...
2006-07-10 21:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your best friend is proected by the laws set forth by HIPPA (health information privacy and portability act) everything that goes on between her and her doctor stays that way.... thats exactly why those laws are in place
2006-07-10 21:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by brett_day2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋