how do u get over an ex-boyfriend ?

Question

ok to make the story shorter...i was with this guy for almost 2 yrs.im 22 yrs old. like 3 months ago he stop callings and seeing me ..everyone told me hes prob with someone else or too busy..but i had a feeling he was with someone else..he come over and he have sex with me then leaves...well anyways I went 2 his house to leave a note on his car and saw a pic of a girl on his dash board...omg it hurt like hell...hes coming by to get his things..should i ask him what went wrong between us or not? or rip us all his things in front of him? hes russian and im asian

THANK U SOOO MUCH EVERYONE!!!!

YES like some of u said im not goin to destroy his things...ill just give half back.lol and i want to ask him nicely why? why he didnt tell me? i had a feeling he was with someone...and yes i guess i was stupid..

theres not anymore decent guys out there who wants a relationship..all the ones ive met only wanted SEX!

Answer 1

Ok, first off you deserve more than to just have a boyfriend that comes over to have sex with you. If the relationship has developed to this level, then unfortunately he is no longer emotionally involved with you. This is not good and it means the relationship is over, especially since you found a picture of another girl.

Secondly, he was very disrespectful by not ending the relationship with you when his interests moved to another woman. This is very hurtful and disrespectful, especially adding that he still came over for the benefits. If you really want to know why, then ask him, but don't expect to get a very honest answer, especially if he's angry.

However, you should make it very clear to him that a relationship of any kind of definitely over, no fringe benefits, no booty calls. Even though you may feel lonely about this idea, he is not worth your time or your body....remember the aforementioned disrespect! Don't destroy his things, as this is only petty anger and short-lived satisfaction...plus it will no doubt make him angry, which will only make matters worse at the confrontation. However, it is perfectly acceptable to have all of this things packed in garbage bags waiting for him at the front door! ;-)

Good Luck and stay strong. You deserve better and someone better is out there waiting for you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Honey, just call it a lesson well learned. He's probably been dropping hints for a while if you stop and think about it. Get yourself back out there in the public eye and go find yourself a new man. Don't waste your time on trying to get this one back because if he did it once he'll do it again. Be the bigger person when he comes by and just tell him that you hope he's happy in his new relationship but it would have been nice if he could have been a man and told you it was over. Yes it will hurt like hell but show him that you do have respect for yourself even if he didn't. Good luck on your new life without this jerk and yes there are a few good guys out there.

Answer 4

Oh! He is finding the easiest way out of a relationship. He just go to you whenever he feels like having sex.. That's sucks!

If you want to know what went wrong btw both you u, then ask him. However, I don't think you should try to change yourself to suit him as now he is taking you as a sex outlet.

To get over him, you can start deleting all his smses and tel number from your cell phone; delete his IM from your chat. Cry to your heart's content for 1 week and thereafter, be ready to pack all unhappiness into a bag and chuck it away.

Start loving and pampering yourself. Do the things that you always wanna do. Take the breakup as a blessing in disguise. The end of a relationship is the beginning of another...

Answer 5

No need to ask what went wrong, it's obvious - he's a coward for using you and not telling you that he wanted to date other people. The problem is his, not yours. No need to take revenge or get angry in front of him because you are better than that. Just tell him goodbye without tears. When you find yourself thinking about him or wanting to talk to him, get out and go somewhere or do something. If you don't have a hobby, get one! There is something totally wrong with this guy to have treated you so poorly!

It won't be easy, but you will get over him and there are definitely good men that are out there and that will be attracted to you.

Answer 6

From what you've described, it sounds like he'd just lie to you if you asked him what went wrong with you two. Chalk this one up to experience, and good riddance to that guy. I'm not so sure about the whole "getting over" a guy thing. Guys mess us up, that's for sure...you have to get to a point where you're comfortable with yourself again. Don't let the actions of some loser dictate your actions toward him. If this were a John Hughes film, I'd probably tell you to put his things in a trashcan and light them on fire when he pulled up to get them...but...since it's REAL life...just learn from the relationship and move on.

Answer 7

Take your time! your 22, go do somethings you love, hang out with friends, read some books. Love will find you if you stay commited to being the best you can be to your self. I would keep space between you and your Ex also, its easy to get sucked back into a relationship where you know its not going to work, so be careful.

Answer 8

I would destroy his sh*t and put it all in a bag for him. In fact, I did this to a guy years ago when he started dating my friend behind my back and then left me for her. I found destroying it to be real therapudic too. You should try it. It is a great release. I don't let guys walk on me. I like to teach them not to mess with women. Men like that need to learn that women are to be respected! Oh and it doesn't matter what nationality you are. Why should that matter!? *ssh*les come in all shapes and sizes and the *ssh*le syndrom does not discriminate.

I'd also find his girlfriend and tell her what he did to you so she doesn't have to go through the same sh*t. If she doesn't respect you, then she's the weak one but at least you let her know.

Answer 9

I am curious as to why you threw in your nationalities there at the end, but anyway...You already know what went wrong. He cheated!!! Will hearing him spell it out for you make you feel any better??...ummmmm...NO!!! It does take time to let things like this go, be patient your heart will heal and hopefully the next time will be with the right guy!

Answer 10

First things first. He didn't treat you with love and it hurt, of course, but try to forgive him and let him go away, don't make any questions, I think you know the answers. Try to forget all that hurt, leave it in the past, where it belongs, this way your heart will be ready to enjoy love again with another man. You are so young, don't miss any opportunity to share love. Take care.