when your man does porn do you consider it cheating?
2006-07-10 14:20:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean looking at porn on the internet or magazines...not makeing porn movies
2006-07-10 18:44:13 · update #1
I think its up to you, How does it make you feel? ME personally, I figure, I have given birth to 2 of his childre, my body is wrecked and they are HIS kids too!!! If I have to live with my body the way it is SO DOES HE!!! its not exactly cheating but for me its emotional abuse!!! If I am stayng home raising the kids, Making sure he has clean clothes, make sure he has lunch for work everyday, make sure there is food on the able at night and a clean house, he damned well better be checking ME out!!
2006-07-10 14:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that it is cheating but it may still be a problem in your relationship. If it makes you feel insecure or like you are not enough for your husband, you need to tell him and he should respect your feelings.
Maybe try watching it with him sometime? Ask what it is that he likes and maybe do it with him. This may be a good opportunity for you to improve your relationship with open communication.
But if it is an obsession or addiction, you might have a problem...is it taking time away from quality time that you would otherwise be spending together? Has his interest in sex with you declined?
I think that the bottom line is don't just go posting a question on the Internet if it is upsetting you. Talk to your man and let him know what it is doing to your relationship! Don't do it in an aggressive way, don't be accusational. Just try and have an open dialog with him.
Good luck
2006-07-10 14:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by emmy_d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. Knowing that men are so visually responsive, and wishing for variety, online porn seems like the safest way to indulge those natural tendencies. I'd rather have him at home checking those girls out with me close by than out somewhere in the real world. Even well-intentioned men can give in to temptation. As much as I have worked on accepting the male drive, it's still a challenge for me. The internet seems the best(?) compromise.
2006-07-11 12:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Karen M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you mean by "does porn" as in being in a porn movie?? That would be cheating. Looking at porn is not cheating.
2006-07-10 14:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think it's cheating, but when it becomes constant or continious I think there may be a problem. My husband and I use to watch it all the time together. Then he would go on the internet. Five years later, I got sick of it, because that was the only time he only got horny and wanted sex. It became too much of a ritual.....now....we never have it.
2006-07-10 16:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by blueeyedcanadian74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does?? well hell yeah if he was doing porn hell yeah thats cheating lol.. and even if u meant just looking at it, yes i consider it emotionally cheating.. unless its something u both agreed to share in together.. if he's doing it alone, then to me thats just as disrespectful as "rubber necking " or "gawking" at another woman when ur with someone, it makes women feel less than , when men feel the need to "LOOK" at another female..
2006-07-10 14:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men are going to do what they want,regardless. It only depends on what you think and if it bothers you. Most men do. I agree with sexybrowneyes. It doesn't have to be just porn,but other women in any way. It can be disrespectful and emotional cheating.
2006-07-10 15:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i do not consider it cheating,only because its not like he is really doing it to some one else.yeah we might watch it together and try it when its done,but sometimes when it is that time of the month and you done want to do and thing at all, i would say its okay to do it by his self.that way you know he wont go looking for it else where.
2006-07-10 15:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by anjelica h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you trust him and have confidence in him it shouldn't be an issue. You can only cheat on someone with a real person. And, online sex sites just feed into the imagination- It's not real. Hope that helps.
2006-07-10 14:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by j r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my husband does not watch porn movies or look at porn magazines at any time. i am enough woman for him lol.
2006-07-10 14:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by Exotic Pink 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋