We are 14&15. We both want sex. He publicizes it. I don't normally. He is always asking if I want to really bad. I tell him "I don't know". We are friends from school. We kiss and french all the time after school. We've touched before. We sat together on the bus. I loved it when we fell asleep so I could say we sleapt together. He tells his friends everything. I don't want them to know. I don't want to lose my good reputation and virginity. What do I do I want sex?
2006-07-10 14:18:42 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your reputation is more important than losing your virginity hon.
And chances are if he tells his friends everything, you had better believe they would be the first to know.
Keep your virginity for as long as possible, it is so sacred. And you wont realize how much, until it's gone.
If he really did love you and care about you, he would stop naggin you, and have that much more respect for you if you wait.
Please make the right decision. There are way too many risks involved.
2006-07-10 14:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberlynne 2 · 10⤊ 4⤋
You may not understand now but you're are still to young to make that sort of decision. It's clear to me that you'll lose your precious virginity and reputation. If this boy really loves you he would be willing to wait. Focus on school. I obviously faced the same pressure when I was younger. I lost my virginity last year at the age of 21 when I had a clear idea of what i want. I'm so glad i waited, it was a beautiful experience my fiancee was also a virgin at the time. Most high school relationships don't go on to marriage. i don't know what you want but i have a feeling you would want to have sex with someone that will be there till death.
2006-07-10 20:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by sweetarchitecture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you the same thing I was told when I was your age - wait until you are older. Your virginity is something that you can never get back. When it's gone it's gone so make sure that you are with the right person for the right reasons. You'll never forget your first time. Most guys at that age want to brag to their friends and believe me your reputation will get tarnished. Ask yourself why you want to have sex. Is it because your friends are or you're curious? For my first time I made him wait 2 years and I was 18 - I wish I had waited even longer. If he can't understand that it is special for you and that you want to only share it with him and not have him tell people or if he doesn't want to wait then he is not the right person for you to loose your virginity to. Don't ever do something that you aren't ready to do or don't want to do because you are afraid of loosing him. Guys respect you a lot more when you stand up for yourself even if it means standing up against them. Just don't be in a rush to do things - you have plenty of time to do so. Enjoy your friends while you can.
2006-07-10 14:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfsong88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex. He doesn't sound like he truly cares about you. And even if he did, having sex at such a young age is something you will truly regret when you're older. You have to understand that boys in high school are SO not worth it! Save your virginity for a MAN, not a boy! Someone who truly loves you and you love him. Don't let a stupid boy pressure you.
If you're really that horny, then just get a vibrator and masturbate! It's fun, it's safe, and it's a guarranteed good time because no one knows what you like better than yourself! :-D
2006-07-10 14:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by red_rose6886 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is over-rated at your age. OK, you are thinking what?! Take it from me, you will have the rest of your life to worry about sex. However, it only takes one mistake to change your life forever. There are worse things in life than getting pregnant, like AIDS, Warts and a number of other STD's.
Furthermore, you don't sound ready to have sex. So, if your boyfriend cared about you, than he would not be pressuring you to go further than you want. Also, he would not be broadcasting you personal life to his friends. Don't think about different types of sex as not counting either...any type of penetration between bodies (not french kissing) is a form of sex and STD'S can be exchanged and AIDS can be caught. Just wait to have sex because you cannot undo your first time. There is a great website for people your age called go ask alice.
2006-07-10 14:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Fantasy Sarongs 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are a bit too young....sex is s o much more than an action...it involves a lot of emotions an responsibility, and by the way that describes the two of you, I can tell you're not ready. Plus it might be illegal in your to have sex, in my state you must be 16.
If he really "loves" you he would wait. Don't do anything stupid, chances are you'll regret it.
2006-07-10 14:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful Insanity 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your not ready and that if you did have sex, you would totally regret it. 14 is too young take the chance of getting pregnant. Tell you boyfriend to stop pressuring you! If he can't, then break it off. If he truly wants to have a relationship with you (and not just sex, so that he can tell his friends all about it) he will understand and lay off.
2006-07-10 14:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jennilee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I suggest not having sex because he probably only wants to do it for curiousity's sake. If you're uncomforitable about it, don't do it. I made the mistake of having sex when I was 14. Once you lose your virginity you can never have it back and it sucks when all the guys you wanna date haven't lost theirs and you have. It makes you feel bad about yourself.
2006-07-10 15:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Risa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either have sex or you don't. Believe me you have plenty of time for that considering you are so young. When you lose it, you are going to wish you had it back at some point and time. I wouldn't rush it if I were you. Be proud because virgins are rare now and days.
2006-07-10 14:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by sweetfeet 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously you don't want sex because you don't want to lose your virginity! And no matter what he tells you, he will tell everyone! He's probably trying to talk you into it, so that he can tell everyone, and brag about it. Or he'll trash you to his friends and the whole school. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. Find a boy who wants to take things slower, one who respects you! You'll thank yourself later!
2006-07-10 14:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You eaither do it, or you don't.. I think IMO you should wait, you are too young. Sex is a special thing to share with someone you love. While you may love this boyfriend, You'll also love others. There's plenty of other stuff you can do other than sex.
2006-07-10 14:20:53 · answer #11 · answered by Rainbow_Crayon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋