Another woman in the bedroom?

Question

What do I do if my hubby continues to beg and eventually insist on having one of my gfs join us in the bedroom?

Answer 1

touchy subject....i'd think if you said no once, that should be the end of it if he respects you.
get your girlfriend to dress up real slutty tie your man to the bed...dim the lights...she can kiss his neck...chest ....nipples...carress him through his boxers till he's stiff...then as she slides his boxers down tell her to laugh her @ss off and run out of the room saying "omg he's so tiny, how could i...HAHAHAHA i'm sorry i just cant...HAHAHA" and have her leave right away
i'll bet that would cure his demands.

i'm sorry for you....you do deserve more respect Sarah

Answer 2

You don't sound like you are happy about it, so it's a really bad idea. This should be something that you are both (and eventually all-three) excited about.

Do it only if you and the girlfriend really want to do it.
Be aware that it will likely change the dynamic of a relationship, you and the friend will either get much closer, or much more distant.

Also, the guy (your hubby) will be obsessed with the gf _during_ and for awhile after the encounter and likely want to do it again, or talk about it a lot.
It's new meat syndrome. Do not take it personally and do not blame your girlfriend.

In the end, if it's not just good sex all around, it's not going to be a pleasant experience. If emotions are raging against the encounter, DO NOT DO IT.
If you give in under these circumstances, it's quite possible the experience will likely haunt you and your relationship.

If you're into the idea of a threesome, why not check out a swing site for someone who is experienced and will leave less emotional residue?

If your husband 'insists' on a 3-some with your friend and you do not wish to do it - leave him. He's not showing you the respect you deserve and there are sexy and fun guys who will - the net is FULL of them.

Answer 3

I'm not married, but I know if my fiancee asked that same thing, it would be over for us. A third or fourth person will ruin a good marriage.

You might have to ask him if he's in your marriage for the long haul or what? What's next?

You could always tell him that you want to bring home another man if he keeps insisting. Make it a really hung man, and a man of a different race. He'll probably stop trying to insist on a third wheel.

Sorry about not being politically correct.

Answer 4

First of all..... whats giving him the notion that one of your gf's actually WANTS to join in ?? Also is he focussing on one gf inparticular ?? If he is , you should focus on her too . Is there something going on that you arent aware of ? Could be that he would like an affair with her or just in general but to do it with you is his way of making that ok. In addition to these thoughts I would add that if you were going to do this that you do it with someone you both agree on and isnt a close gf of yours. There is a good chance that this experience could destroy your happy home . No point in taking a friend along for the ride hon and Im not sure a good friend that values your marriage would do this . Tell him to grow the hell up!!

Answer 5

Love based on GOD last for ever, u can read this book "Boy meets girl"

Which talks about the story of how the auther met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, Boy Meets Girl goes to the next level and urges single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Knowing that many readers will balk at the idea of premeditated courtship, Harris insists that dating should not be emotional recreation but rather a careful decision rooted in obedience to God. While the anecdotes used to reveal true-to-life scenarios about dating pitfalls are somewhat elementary (and geared to those in their 20s), Harris succeeds in hammering home the point that obedience to God's word, selfless love, community, purity, and satisfaction in God are the most important aspect of any relationship. The last section of the book is particularly practical, discussing forgiveness of past sexual sin, questions to ask before tying the knot, and how an understanding of our sinful nature can lead to conflict resolution. For Harris's mere twentysomething years of life experience, his maturity and devotion to God are sincere evidence that he has indeed practiced what he has preached, resulting in a passionate relationship with the love of his life. --Jill Heatherly

Answer 6

If you are not into it, don't do it and flat out tell him it ain't happening. If you don't really mind, then consider it as you will make him one happy dude. Maybe set ground rules, like a one time only thing. If you're undecided, he will sense that and keep hounding you, so make up your mind one way or the other.

Answer 7

Don't let him. I was like him once, then a couple we knew casually went and did the same thing, and it ruined their marriage. He's asking your permission to cheat on you with you in the room. I'm sorry I ever asked my wife to do that. It's disrespectful. Stand up for yourself and don't give in. Good Luck.

Answer 8

If you arent into that then tell him you want one of his male friends to join in on a 3 some and see if he still wants to after that.

Answer 9

Seriously? I suggest that you go to your county clerk's office. Get the papers for filing divorce on your own. When he start that silliness, simpley ask IF he is prepared for divorce- IF he continues to insist. Divorce the ***.

Answer 10

Ask him on his opinion if you invited on of his guy friends into the bedroom. How would he like that and feel. Maybe that will make him realize how you are feeling.