After 31 years of absence, Sandra came back and spent the weekend with me. During that weekend, she said many times she loves me deeply and wants to marry me. Should I believe her and buy her an engagement ring again, like I did 31 years ago?
2006-07-10 13:58:32 · 20 answers · asked by DTL37091 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you have to move along with your life.
2006-07-10 14:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
31 years is a long time.
I am assuming you are somewhere around 50 years old, give or take a few years. I'd say after 31 years you certainly needn't rush anything.
Take some time to see if a relationship that goes beyond a few words you probably are very happy to hear can grow into something truly meaningful. Skip the engagement ring if you already got her one. If she no longer has it that's not a problem.
Take the time to get to know each other well enough to see if there is something that can be the foundation for a marriage.
Words are cheap. I can tell any woman I want to that I love her deeply and want to marry her. That doesn't mean I do, and that doesn't mean Sandra does either. She may believe it now.
If this is the kind of relationship that can grow into a marriage it will work out as well a year or two from now as it would today. Give it some time.
2006-07-23 17:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there more to the story? Why did she leave the first time? Why did she come back?
Have you both been married in between?
This is too vague a question to be answered in any helpful way.
If you haven't seen each other for such a long time, I would be wary of anyone saying that they love you after spending a weekend with you.
She may be going through a tough time emotionally, or she may be trying to use you for something. No matter what the motivation, the best idea is to take things slowly, trust your gut and get your friends and family involved. If you are too invested in this woman to watch out for your own interests, they may be able to help you.
2006-07-24 13:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by cleopat7323 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to answer, first I would take one step at a time, going back to dating again. trying to feel out the situation. I do believe in true love and it could be just that. But depending on the circumstance i just would not hop into buying an engagement ring
2006-07-24 17:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why rush into any marriage? especially after that long of time? i mean , havent you changed in 31 yrs? im sure she has too. thats like marrying a total stranger. give it time. get 2 know eachother. and then if its the right thing for you to do, you will know.
2006-07-24 17:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to take some time to see how things go. After a few months...you'll see how things will be. Right now you are in the "honeymoon PEriod" of this relationship...wait for that to end and see if you want to marry then. We know what she wants, butwhat do you want?
2006-07-21 07:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by Wild seed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you might wait to see what she wants before you have a wedding, Sorry but after 31 years I would want to know if she had been in a coma for 3o of thrm, if not how many times has she been married ? etc. etc.
2006-07-24 17:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by magpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not being rude or nothing, is this question for real? is the 31yrs a typo??.. sounds to me like you better watch your wallet and anything else thats not anchored down. anyone who uses the word love after 31 yrs with no contact is not after love, something else is on the menu and id bet its not a cheeseburger
2006-07-23 18:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it !!!! how can she say she loves you after not seeing each other for 31 yrs!!!!! give it some time like a yr at least before you buy a ring
2006-07-10 14:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. No rings or proposals until you don't need to ask this question. When you are sure she loves you, then think about more.
2006-07-21 07:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by kittylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooooooo
never buy 2 rings to the same women
2006-07-10 14:51:21 · answer #11 · answered by dandon198 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋