2006-07-10 13:30:58 · 21 answers · asked by Pamela W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell your family doctor what's going on and get a checkup scheduled for your husband. Maybe the doctor can scare him.
Don't expect your husband to improve much! Alcoholics have no moral compass at all, no sense of their own gluttony.
2006-07-10 13:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lost my mother to terminal cancer six years ago. The thing that helped me deal with it was my faith in God, as well as a solid theological foundation as to what I believed!
Your husband is in serious denial. Wish I could talk to him personally, but, since I can't, please tell him that I have been in his shoes, and have a brother who handled my mother's death the same way he currently is, and he was depressed the longest after she was gone. Be there for him, but, at the same time, don't allow him to have a "pity party" regarding what will soon be a loss of a loved one. If necessary, have his mother tell him this is not the way she would want him to handle the matter!! She may be the only one who can get through to him at this stage of the game.
2006-07-10 13:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother is dying. Unfortunatly, its an excuse for him to drink..(not that he needs one) but he will use it as such. Contact a local hospice. Most hospice's have a chaplin. Maybe you could get some grief counseling for the both of you. Cancer is an ugly disease and cripples the whole family. Give him some time.
Namaste
2006-07-10 13:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by classick_magick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could set your husband down first or maybe even take away the beer and all around the house from him. Then tell him about it . Like say "This is not a game of some sort" She is really about to die. I think that you need to be there with her. Maybe even go to a phycatrist.
I hope you get through this.
2006-07-10 13:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there,Done that...All you can do is wait! Love him. Just be there. Men go threw this a lot different then women. About the alcohol..That will probably get a lot worse. I hope you have some money hidden away. You'll need it.
2006-07-10 13:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join an Al-anon family group, and definitely hospice! You will need all the support you can get. Call Alcoholics Anonymous, they are in the phone book! Do not try to do this one alone!
2006-07-10 13:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasnt faced reality yet about it than he wont and unfortunantly it will hit him hard when she dies. and alcoholic and drinking are the same thing and that may be helped over time but i dont think right now is the time to do it cause he has worse problems
2006-07-10 13:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think you can MAKE a person face reality. All you can do is try to create opportunties for him to have some moments with her that you know will be important to him some day, things he doesn't understand he will need to look back on and have ... and be there for him when it all falls apart.
2006-07-10 13:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy...be open and understanding. You don't want him to drink himself to death...but he probably needs an outlet.
Lots of prayer (for you and the whole family) and just make sure to be patient.
You may need a mediator...you can probably see it spiraling out of control..
Sorry about your predicament.
2006-07-10 13:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about alcoholics anonymous. They are great people with the same problems. It has done WONDERS for my mom. Good luck!
2006-07-10 13:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by mickeycushman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋