My parents keep on giving me hints that they want me to have "the talk" i dont think i am ready for it. it is like i want to here it but then i get all grossed out about it! (and once my parents get started they never will stop) my parents keep on getting books on sex or it is a story about love and sex. what should i do? should i tell them that i am ready for "the talk" or not.(when ever they talk about it i get all squirmy or if my friend brings it up somthing i want to know mor) i know that this is really strange but i would rather hear it from my friends than my parents because i get to squirmy around them. please give me you best answer. (please dont give an answer like...... YAY 2 points!) thanks
2006-07-10 13:12:31 · 13 answers · asked by kat_cat_dog 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i am 12 years old
2006-07-10 13:14:51 · update #1
tell them that u feel uncomfortable talkin about that with them... but if u ask a friend they might not know and guide u through the wrong direction...
2006-07-10 13:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by pifas_tcolot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember feeling the way that you do, now. It is embaressing to talk to your parents about sex, and it is a lot easier to talk to your peers. However, the information that you would get from your parents would more than likely be more accurate than what you would get from your friends. If you could only have heard some of the things I heard from my friends on that subject! LOL. And, I believed them. Anyhoo.....if you know that they want to talk about it, why don't you just approach them about it and get it over with. You could take charge of the conversation and say that you would feel more comfortable if you were just allowed to ask questions, instead of them giving you an essay on every aspect. And, also know that we have all been there, before and just think about how much you can laugh about it in future years.
Good luck. :)
2006-07-10 20:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by southerngirl627 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all listen to your parents not your friends. Friends do not know any better. You are 12 which means you are a child not a grown woman. Listen to your parents and get the right information you will be glad you did when you back on this 10-20 years from now.
2006-07-11 08:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, they only want you to know before you are in a situation where you need that information. Your friends don't know the whole truth and that will only hurt them and you in the long run. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, talk to your parents. Tell them that you appreciate their help but that you're not ready for the talk yet. Once you think or feel you might start "experimenting" talk to them. They only want what's best for you!
2006-07-10 20:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all realize that they want the best for you and are just trying to help you not make the wrong decision. trust me sex can change your whole life. be thankful you have parents that care and are trying to look out for you. you need to tell you parents how you feel, tell them it makes you uncomfortable and you would rather not have that kind of talk with them. ensure them that you are a smart kid and you know how to be safe. thank them and tell them that if you are ever confused or need some advice you know that they are there for you.
2006-07-10 21:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by blackrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the right information from the right people. It may be weird or gross coming from your parents but they are telling you out of concern and love for you and are giving you valid information. If you rely on your friends you may get some incorrect information that causes harm to you. Many girls have become pregnant or gotten an STD from doing something their friends had told them couldn't cause either.
2006-07-10 20:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want, talk to your friends about it. I'm around your age, and I know how you feel. It's easier to talk to friends and then talk to parents. When talking to a friend, try to talk to a friend of the same gender and a friend from the opposite gender. "The Talk" is, in my personal oppinion, kind of fun to get from a guy friend (since I'm a girl).
2006-07-10 20:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had never gotten "The Talk". My mom just gave me a book and said "here" Then I read it and I know more than my friends do, which is pretty sad cause we learn about reproduction is health class.
2006-07-10 23:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by Risa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with your parents. I think it is great that they want to talk to you and be open. But you also need to tell them that when you are ready to talk about it, that you will talk to them.
2006-07-10 20:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents know you are still uncomfortable talking about sex with them. tell them to let you come to them with questions on your own time.... that way you can prepare your self for what they have to say. yes kids don't like talking to there parents about sex, but let them.
2006-07-10 20:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by LASHANNA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋