I have been married to a wonderful guy for 5 years. He is currently in Europe on business and won't return to the states till next week.
Last night I got a phone call from my ex-fiance who is in the Marines. He is in town for a few days and wants to see me. We talked on the phone for 3 hours late into the morning and he convinced me to meet him tomorrow for lunch. I know, if I do, lunch is going to turn into breakfast. I could never say no to him. I love my husband dearly but having sex with James is like being in a great porn movie. He can work it nonstop for hours.
Ladies, if you were me, would you throw caution to the wind and meet him or cancel?
My husband is wonderful and attentive but he can't make me scream the way James did.
By the way, James dumped me for his career in the Marines. I didn't want him to re-enlist but he decided to do so anyway.
I would have definitely married him otherwise.
We have mutual friends and I do fear someone will tell my husband.
2006-07-10 13:08:21 · 17 answers · asked by hotsista0201 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is how people get killed.
2006-07-10 13:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 3⤋
Tsk. Tsk. Tsk.
You are one sad woman.
I am with the rest of the people that say you shouldn't cheat on your husband.
This guy made his choice when he chose the military over you.
You need to stay far away from him. I don't care if he makes you scream his name in 20 different languages. He is not worth it.
And I don't believe you would have to worry about friends telling on you. I bet James will find a way to tell your husband.
I suggest (like some of the other responses) that you go buy some sex toys and teach your husband how to make you feel like you are in a "great porn movie".
If nothing else, think about what John s said.
2006-07-10 20:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would not be going to meet this guy. the reason is cause you are married and your husband, being the good guy that he is does not deserve it at all, and sex is not everything in marriage, i mean so what if james is better than your husband what should count to you is how your husband treats you and how much you love him, why would you betray a man so loving? the least you can do is get a divorce and leave your husband so that he can move on if it is that important for you to be with a guy that just might not marry you anyways, maybe he has changed and will have sex with you but maybe that is all he wants. i would not do any of this, i would stay with the man you are with and continue to love him.
2006-07-10 20:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay to have sex with someone other than your partner, but *not* okay to be dishonest or lie to your partner.
Do you suppose that your husband is having sex with some cute woman while he is in europe? How would you feel if you foind out that he did, and then lied to you when you asked him?
Get your husbands permission first, or don't go there. We know that if you have lunch with your ex, you will be in bed with him.
What would happen next? Husband comes home, you feel guilty, the ex calls next time he is in town, then you are sneaking away. You are on the slippery slope, and headed the wrong direction.
Get your husbands permission, or don't go there. If you can't ask him, or won't, then don't go there.
The *only* way your marriage will last is if you and your husband can learn to always be honest and always tell the truth to one another. Almost everyhing else can be overlooked but lying.
2006-07-10 20:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Atom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sorry but if you are tempted by having sex with another man because he can "make you scream" then you arent really happily married. IF you are considering sleeping with another man because your husband is out of town then maybe theres a deeper issue. Just because its convenient- does not make it right! I"m not going to say dont do it- because you sound like you plan to do it anyways. Dont let "fear" stop you- if you do it you deserve to get caught and deal with the consequences of your actions. And consider the guilt you would feel knowing you betrayed the man you DID marry!!!
2006-07-10 20:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman, you are stupid to think about this. This WILL break up your "happy" marriage. Obviously you aren't that happily married to cheat on your husband. I would kick you out.in a NY minute if I knew you were headed that direction.
Don't be an a**. You're gonna lose it all if you do.
2006-07-10 20:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did your wedding vows say? You want to lose what you have? Take it from somene that was married till the day my husband died.it is not worth it. I had the same chance but I was with the one I chose and there is know going back if you want your marriage to work.
2006-07-10 20:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way. Take your wonderful attentive husband to the "toy" store and show and tell him how to make you scream better than James did
2006-07-10 20:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by huh? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Let's just say I kind of just had a similar situation and I have been married for 26 yrs. The guilt for me was too much. I had to break it off.
2006-07-10 20:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If you do, it will be a powertrip for your ex bf. He will know he has you and it won't be a turn-on for him. If you say"no", that will re-inforce what he missed out on...YOU! Plus it will give you a rush knowing that he wants you, but can't have you. Use that sexual knowledge to blow your husband's mind!
2006-07-10 20:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dazed and Condused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be willing to give up your "wonderful guy of 5 years" for a few hours of sex?!?
Never had an orgasm worth that.
DON'T
2006-07-10 20:15:09 · answer #11 · answered by Lindy357 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋