should i keep my baby?

Question

Iv just found out Im 7 weeks pregnant, and Im scared. My bf doesnt want it because he thinks he will ruin our lives and his parents will disown him. But its not that easy for me Iv just looked at abortion pictures and I think I want it, but in the long run I dont have a job atm and my bf might not stay with me and it could ruin ours lives please help i dont no what to do.

Answer 1

there are ways of working around it. It's tough, but possible. contact your local "Planned Parenthood" office, or even your ob/gyn might be able to talk to you about all of the options. Being a single parent is rough, but the best thing I ever decided to do.

Answer 2

Although people may sometimes have a hard time hearing it, sex before marriage happens. There are definately worse things could happen than a little life being brought into the world. I am pregnant now and I tell you it is such a miracle what is going on in your body. When I had my first ultrasound I really couldn't believe how someone could see what I was seeing and still not believe there is a God. I could see my 18 week old child moving all around, his mouth opening and closing and I even saw him sucking his little thumb. I know I didn't do anything but eat food to make this happen! Just remember God is in control and He has plans for this child. He loves you and will bless you if you are honest with your parents. I am the last person to judge anybody, but I've heard stories of pain and remorse and emotional scars that follow you for many years after an abortion. Just think how hard it would be to picture your first mother's day after an abortion. Or the day that would have been your child's birthday. Give your baby life. Remember to take your time in this relationship with your boyfriend-marriage doesn't make everything perfect. I have some single friends who have children and it's hard, but so very rewarding, too. Just do what you know is right with the life of this precious baby. May God bless!

Answer 3

I would definitely recommend giving it up for adoption. If you have an abortion and later regret it, there's nothing you can do. If you regret giving it up, at least you know that the baby is safe and happy and there is a possibility that you can meet the child later (or even have a relationship all along, depending on the parents). There are ways for you to pick the parents so you know someone will take good care of your child. There are many people out there who cannot have children and are desperate for one and would love to have yours.

In addition there are risks with an abortion. It is a medical/surgical procedure and there are risks associated with it just like any other procedure. Its possible to lose the ability to have a baby ever (I don't remember the exact statistics on this but it does happen, it's just not talked about much.)

At the very least I would say find a pregnancy crisis center that will tell you all your options - this probably means a place that DOES NOT perform abortions on site because then they have no financial motive to encourage you to abort, they will give you information about all your options.

Answer 4

I can only say that having a guy with you doesnt matter to be able to keep this baby. You dont have a job but you will find strenght in this baby to find one. You mom Im sure would help but if not you wouldnt be the first to be a single mom. If this is your first defenitely you should. The guy will regret it when its born, he will probably want to be there but if not this baby will be everything for you. Nothing will be important anymore,but your baby. In case you just feel you dont want it when its born then put it in adoption but I think you will keep it. You sound like you love this baby already you wont be able to give it up. And his parents dont worry that they will wont be able to resist this little one who has no fault. He cannot ruin your life. But maybe give it a meaning. You need to know that theres risks also when having abortions. You can get bacteria by having an abortion. You can die that would not ruin but finish your life. Your bf will go on with his life and you. Dont think about him think about you and that baby who has a heart beat already. Your bf is not your responsibility but your body and that baby are now.

Answer 5

First how old are you? Do you have the financial means to raise a baby/child? Don't worry about your boyfriend as it sounds like he isn't willing to support you or realize that it is your body and he is just wanting the easy out. I never would recommend abortion but adoption. There are so many loving people out there that would love to raise a baby as their own and give it all it needs.
Seven weeks is pretty far along, you need to think about what you want, most adoptive parents will pay all your expenses. Just don't pull out at the last minute and break their hearts. You need to think hard about your options, talk to someone else that has been through it. To me abortion is your choice but an easy out, that baby's heartbeat is going and it is very much a living thing.
Your body, your decision.

Answer 6

Hi Emma
It's natural for new expecting parents to feel afraid or even feel like they're not good enough to care for another life. I don't know any new parents to not feel this way, but it will all pass.
Remember this, GOD would not have allowed you to become pregnant if he didn't think you were able to care for this baby. YOU CAN!!!!! and so can your boyfriend. But if your boyfriend doesn't want any part of this pregnancy don't feel you have to make a decision based on how he feels. This is your body and GOD will judge YOU for this..........There are many programs out there to help a single unemployed mother to be. So don't think you are alone and no one will help you in this time of need. What you should do is pray and ask GOD to be there, and prepare to accept your family not responding well to this news (at first). The only thing you can do now is move forward with or without your family/boyfriend.
You now have someone that needs you and your prayers.
Please hold on and stay prayerful, GOD won't leave you like people will.....HE LOVES YOU!!!!!!!! Keep your faith and your baby.

BLESS YOU

Answer 7

First of all, anybody would be scared in your situation and just the fact that you are willing to reach out for help means that if you decide to have the baby, you will not ruin your life. It will be very difficult, but you clearly care about doing the right thing and will undoubtedly try to be the best mother you can be. It sounds like your boyfriend is completely freaked out and overwhelmed and maybe someday he will be somebody you can rely on but right now I think you need to make your decision based on the assumption that he will not hang around if you decide to keep the baby. If being a mom by yourself without him in the picture sounds like something you could not do, then maybe now is not the right time to have a child. But if you think you have enough supports in your life and the ability to commit yourself fully as a mother, then trust those instincts! Whatever you decide, you are very brave.

Answer 8

I just want you to think about this:Like in 4 or 5 years from now you may have like two kids,so if you get an abortion for this one you'll really have 3 kids.Now everytime you and your future kids are sitting at home having the best time of your life you'll be thinking about the baby you kilt.While all the rest of your kids are with you in a nice warm house your other baby will be in a cold grave.Really think this through,if you dont want to have a least put it up for adoption.

Answer 9

my sister was 17 when she got preg and my mother forced her into the decision and her b/f of having an abortion she went through with it and now she is dealing with depression and she is socially withdrawn from people. every time she sees a child that would be the same age as her baby would have been i hear her say my baby would be that big already and she has a true sadness in her eyes Dont let him make the choice for u there is adoption and they have open so u will get pic and i gaurantee that u will form a bond and end up wanting to keep this child good luck

Answer 10

Have you talked to your parents? Find out what they think. I think you should do what ever will be good for that baby. If you don't want to have an abortion you can have the baby and then bring him/her to a better home. if you have no job, then it wouldn't be fair to the baby. Make sure to look into all your options. If you do decide to keep the child then you and your bf should sit his parents down and talk to them. Come up with a plan, then show them that you really have thought about it. If they are true parents they will see how mature and responsible you and your bf are with talking to them. Good Luck!

Answer 11

First of all DO NOT DO SOMETHING BECAUSE IT'S WHAT YOU'RE BOYFRIEND WANTS. You said you saw pictures and you don't want to do it. then DON"T. There is plenty of help out there such as WIC, food stamps and your workforce center has a program that helps pay for daycare. If your bf will not stay with you because of a baby, screw him. You do not need someone like that. There are plenty of decent guys out there who will date single moms-whenever you're ready for that step. But, in the long run if an abortion is what you want because you know you will NOT be a good mother, then do it. But remember that there are other options such as adoption. There are plenty of couples who are looking to adopt and you could really make them happy. Make sure you do your research, but in the end do what is best for you, follow your heart! Good luck!