I am happy within a relationship but when i encounter new interesting people i cannot resist flirting when they flirt with me which can lead to innapropriate contact, how do i avoid this.
2006-07-10 12:59:37 · 29 answers · asked by keef u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's only natural, best way is to minimise contact, flirt all u like but when u start touching, rethink!
2006-07-17 08:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Keef u,
Well, To flirt or not to flirt, or Not to flirt: That is the question.
With apologies to Shakespeare and Hamlet (Act 3, scene 1).
I would like to express my opinion on this one as I have a lot of experience here.
I am a big flirt. BUT, when I do flirt with a person, I do not have any type of clandestine, covert or any other hidden meanings or suggestions or agendas that may be applied.
I have a big heart; I flirt for the sole purpose of attempting to make a person feel better about themselves. When a woman is the recipient of my nature, she will most of the time say “Wow, someone noticed me today.” That is special to me. If I offend a person than I immediately apologize.
My heart is pure and my intentions are honorable so it is a rare time that I do need to apologize. I am also told that I am a very attractive and sweet so this as well may help a person feel good as well.
Now, when I was married and was deprived of intimacy with my spouse. I flirted for more reasons that were more self-serving than giving. We were not intimate very much at ALL. So I needed to know if there was something wrong with me. So I flirted to see if women found me desirable, as my spouse did not. Oh, I was true and loyal to my vows. But I just needed some sort of validation.
Now, my thoughts on other married persons flirting, (at least to a degree that should not happen) ties into my last paragraph. People just need some validation or confirmation that they are worth spending a few moments of their time with and being listened to without any judgments. Plus it can lead to immoral escapes as well. A person needs to be strong if they are being flirted with and the gut should be the one to consult before it goes to far.
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. That is the key. Have some boundaries.
Wow, I’m writing a book here, better stop now before your question is forgotten in the dust.
Hope this helped some,
Smiles to you,
Jeff
2006-07-10 13:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Is it that you are being overly friendly or actually flirting. Do you flirt because you are not getting that kind of attention with your significant other?
Dress a little differently or do something out of the ordinary with your significant other that would cause them to sit up and take notice. This may cause some attention to flow your way at home.
2006-07-10 13:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by cruisegrl5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny how people can be dating and still be looking for the
Mr. RIght / Fairy Princess! What if relationship wasnt supposed to last forever and once we got all the growth we could we move on. Funny also how after the sex is over and the lights come on and there's no mental stimulation we get bored. Given that is it, any wonder we flirt looking for the minds continuous desire for new stimulation..need i say more?
Check my other answers for more value ;)
2006-07-10 14:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 32 years and still flirt - it's a way of feeling that you are still attractive enough for someone to still want to flirt with you...and it has NEVER lead to 'inappropriate contact'!!!
2006-07-10 13:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by franja 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can interpret the word flirt as .......the way you would like to see your guy acting with other girls. Okay so you say you dont flirt and just laugh and joke around. So the same way you act with your guy friends would you like for your boyfriend to act with other chick friends. If so then your not flirting. But if you would not like it then maybe you need to change the way you act with other guys so it wont look like flirting.
2016-03-15 22:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u were truly happy you wud not let it lead on to any thing else. It shud be enough to know u cud if u wanted to. You need to re-assess what it is you want from your relationship. Some one will get hurt other wise. Sorry if i sound harsh, but there IS such thing as harmless flirting.
2006-07-10 13:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can still flirt, but get rid of the innapropriate contact.
basically dont do it too much.
that^ only applies if ur single. DO NOT FLIRT W/ ANYONE BUT UR SPOUSE IF UR MARRIED!!
if u really feel bad about it (ie: how can i avoid this) just play hard 2 get & ignore them. its fun 2 see the looks on their faces.
2006-07-10 13:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
flirting as i have always thought is just with words..if you are having contact that you know is inappropriate simply do not do it...when you think you might, just imagine what you would do if the person you are with walked up while you were doing that
2006-07-10 13:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kaeos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone loves to flirt. It is not that you are being unfaithful - it is simply that you are showing the opposite sex that you respect them in their beauty and charm - thats all. Nothing to worry about
2006-07-10 21:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they like the attention if flirting goes to far back off or tell them your happy with who you have.its alright to be just friends and just flirt.
2006-07-10 13:50:58 · answer #11 · answered by to_retarded_4_u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋