When i was in high school,college i got bullied by few.I wasnt pretty & nor tall.That time i had 2 ops.A family friend son who was best friend treated me good.He was there through everything.I had total transformation,i got makeover.Im pretty im told ive grown taller.Im nice person which he saw i dont care about others. All this we fell in love.He says if we meet he wants us to have physical relationship as he cant commit now.I feel hes testing me.If he was there for me through everything didnt ask this of me 5yrs back why would he now?What are reasons u think hes testing me(dont say he wants sex/move on since hes testing me)
2006-07-10 12:42:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He wanted to have physical relationship then hes only one who found me desirable he wants the same today but he does love me yet commitment scares him i understand that & im not going to do it.I just want to know why hes testing me!
2006-07-10 12:50:09 · update #1
do a test to find out if he loves or just playing once u find out either move on or stay if he loves since theres no point in waiting
2006-07-12 01:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he thinks your a great person doesn't mean that he wants to be joined with you. I have a great freind that is a man he's helped me raise my daughter he's helped me out in times of financial and emotional trouble. Our relationship is totally platonic.
Your guy may not be testing you with the "I'll take the sex but leave the relationship." He is probably saying "hey whoa I don't wanna ruin this freinship we have now". You can always be friends after sex but a bad relationship can ruin a freindship.
2006-07-10 12:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by FearlessLdr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a firm believer to wait until you are married to have sex. So I would stick to my guns and tell him, he will not get any from me right now. Your relationship will be better for it when you wait.
Now why he is testing you, I don't know. He may be testing you too see if you will jump into bed whenever. Sorry, you said you didn't want that answer.
2006-07-10 12:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some self esteem issues himself. If he won't commit then you should not either. Take it slow. No sex for a month, but "play" for that first month to see if your comfortable with one another. If it is meant to be, then nature will take its course. If not, then at least your not stuck in a relationship that doesn't work.
2006-07-10 12:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by jim w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, he might really want sex from you. After 5 years he's gotten older and his interests have changed. Maybe he really cares for you and wants to show you how feels in a physical way. I don't know how else to say it, but maybe you should think about want he wants from you and whether or not you want the same. Don't give in just because he wants it if you don't want it also!
2006-07-10 12:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by binoxi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you, he would commit. He has issues. If he really loves you he will wait for the physical until he can commit to you.
Don't be naive. He is not testing you.
I know I'm not telling you what you want to hear, but it is my interpretation of your situation. At least consider it.
2006-07-10 12:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that now you had the ops and are pretty and taller, he wants to have sex with you. But the way he is going about it, is all wrong.
You need to tell him how you feel about his suggestion. It's just not right. It seems he isn't what he was, when you needed him so much.
2006-07-10 12:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I do not know why he is doing this but if you do get into a relationship, do not move to fast and if he wants to get more phisycal and you don't feel comfortable, that is not a guy you want to be with, do you want to be with someone who can't wait till your ready?.
2006-07-10 12:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by maltese_i_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isnt testin u if he dient want to have a physical relationship with u then when u wasnt so cute n now that u r cute he said he wants to have "physical" relationship and as u said "he cant commit now" then he only WANTS SEX AND SEX ONLY. HE ISNT TESTIN U HE WANTS A BOOTY CALL. I BET HE WONT TELL HIS FRIENDS IF HE SLEEPS WITH U.
2006-07-10 12:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is testing you now, because you have self esteem and he wants to see what you will do with it. You may even scare him a little because you are now self assured and happy with being you!
2006-07-10 12:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋