Is it wrong to ask a spouse for a kiss now and then before going to work? And most of the time she brushes me away or forgets? I've been married for 10 years and the love seems lost these last few months. I've talked to her about our affection but she doesn't seem to pay much attention...I'm headed for the door.... and Yes I do brush and use mouth wash!!
2006-07-10 12:33:30 · 11 answers · asked by Drago 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've given everything she needs or wants, that includes kids, home, car and my paycheck. Just a kiss, or a some time away from the kids, I'm still asking her time to time a little affection, waiting, listening, ...an open mind...we both love our kids if nothing else.
2006-07-11 02:57:06 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with kissing. There should always be a kiss before and after work just like before bed. That just shows the love and affection towards one another.
2006-07-10 13:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by evie_cooper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that a kiss is not too much to ask for but I also know that a lot of women place affection higher on the love scale even than sex. To a woman a kiss communicates a lot of love. If she has some hurt feelings and resentment or does not feel like she is cared for or supported by you, it may be coming out in her lack of affection. Spend some time talking with her with an open mind and no yelling or arguing. Remember that things can be perceived differently by different people so gently explain your side if she took something the wrong way. After 10 years though it might be that there is so much stuff built up that you have to seek counseling to work through it all. Don't think it will just go away on it's own though because a woman never forgets, but she can forgive if you help her find out what's bothering her and if you change the things that are necessary to change.
2006-07-10 20:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by tallgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question: do u rember to give her a kiss or hug or thank her for the little things?
if u answered no to that question it could be that she is upset w/ the way that u have been treating her and u need to show her more love
if u answered yes to that question you need to ask yourself another question: On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest, How serious is forgeting of a kiss?
If u say that is 7 or higher u ask her what is wrong and then discuss w/ about meeting w/ a marriage consuler....6 or lower u still need to ask her what is wrong but it could be she is having a bad month and u need to cheer her up or since it has been 10 years she feels it is a routine and u need to spice things up...
:) Good Luck :)
2006-07-10 19:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lorraine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like there's something else on her mind.
Maybe it's not the relationship but some other issue that's bothering her and got her preoccupied. Problems at work, money stress, stress about something else... maybe the answer is to slow down and spend some quality time together.
Go out to dinner and really talk, find out what's up with her, give her the opportunity to find out what's going on with you.
And honestly, sometimes my partner of 14 years forgets the kisses. We have two kids and busy lives... and get preoccupied. So I just go "yo, smootch me, baby," and plant one on her.
Good luck.
2006-07-10 19:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by lotusice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you! I have the same problem only in reverse. My husband is so unaffectionate lately and yes I use mouth wash and brush my teeth too. I'm not the supermodel I used to be and we have been married for 26 yrs. but come on, there is still fire in my furnace. If you have any suggestions for me I would appreciate them. I think I have tried everything.
2006-07-10 19:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing something romantic for her. Have you sat down and asked her how her day was? Or called her just to say that you love her? Do little random things.
2006-07-10 19:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by TJ B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One must feel affection for another individual in order to demonstrate affection for that individual.
2006-07-10 19:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Eileen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with that. when ever me or my spouse is leaving the house, who ever is leaving looks for the other person to give them a kiss. it feels weird if we dont do it.
2006-07-10 19:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, affection is very important in a relationship! If you have talked about it what's her problem.
2006-07-10 19:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by crazy86404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes too busy doing breakfst , well talk to her and ask whats going on? and try taking her out for dinner maybe u 2 should ake time for both. if you got kids..
2006-07-10 19:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anaira9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋