Will I ever find a good guy out there?

Question

I'm only 21 and will be divorced!I feel so weird...I only wonder if I could find a good guy out there that wont mind if i've been married.My husband is the biggest jerk ever!He sent me a text in the middle of the night letting me know that he had been cheating on me while helping out in N.Orleans with the guard.I was devistated...I swore my life was over...but 7 months later I know i'm better off...its just I hope I'm not damaged goods!I know this sounds extremely silly I've just been thinking about this

Answer 1

You are NOT damaged goods. Divorce is unfortunately so common, not many people bat an eye at the thought. You are so young. Why worry?!! Take this time to live the single life and find out who you really are .....AND who you TRULY need to be in a relationship. Test the waters and take this time for yourself. Yes, there are alot of great guys out there......which I was SHOCKED to find out after I divorced. I'd say that men in general, start growing up and acting more like men when they reach their 30's. So dont' worry about settling down just yet.

After I divorced (which I chose myself and felt terrible about the situation and the choices I had made) I dated a wonderful guy. When I felt it was time to tell him about the bad times that lead to my divorce, I couldn't get the words out, I felt like "damaged goods" and was ashamed to talk about it. And he told me something that woke me up....he said, "you are afraid to tell me the truth because you are working under the assumption that I myself am perfect and have never made any mistakes. Why do you assume that? Maybe I have the same track record as you and we're in the same boat. We wont' know unless we talk about it."
Think about that. There are other "damaged goods" out there as well. Everyone has baggage.

Answer 2

A good guy would not consider you "damaged goods". You have to know what you're looking for before you can find it. Though it is perfectly natural to feel like you've been violated and taken advantage-of, no good man is going to care if you've been married before. Just be honest and straightforward in future relationships, if you do find a good one and the subject comes up, just say that it will make you appreciate it more when you find the right one. Don't make a big deal about it or try to hide it at the beginning. If you don't make a big deal about it, he'll know that you've moved on and learned from it.

You are better off without a cheating spouse. It takes a lot of strength to go through what you went through. Now is the time to focus on uplifting yourself and finding yourself again.

God bless.

Answer 3

I am also 21 , I graduated from CS and I searching for a job , I wounder you will be divorced while u r 21?? how old you were when u married him?

Love based on GOD last for ever, u can read this book "Boy meets girl"

Which talks about the story of how the auther met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, Boy Meets Girl goes to the next level and urges single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Knowing that many readers will balk at the idea of premeditated courtship, Harris insists that dating should not be emotional recreation but rather a careful decision rooted in obedience to God. While the anecdotes used to reveal true-to-life scenarios about dating pitfalls are somewhat elementary (and geared to those in their 20s), Harris succeeds in hammering home the point that obedience to God's word, selfless love, community, purity, and satisfaction in God are the most important aspect of any relationship. The last section of the book is particularly practical, discussing forgiveness of past sexual sin, questions to ask before tying the knot, and how an understanding of our sinful nature can lead to conflict resolution. For Harris's mere twentysomething years of life experience, his maturity and devotion to God are sincere evidence that he has indeed practiced what he has preached, resulting in a passionate relationship with the love of his life. --Jill Heatherly

Answer 4

He cheated on you, not you on him. Any real, true man will see this. This will help you to worm out a lot of the bad ones. I haven't had such an experience, but I'm sure there are quite a nomber of guys out there who will treat you like the woman you are. You're still young and have plenty of time in life. I am sorry about your past experiences, but it will help you be stronger in the long run. Best of luck!

Answer 5

i'm particular they do, yet they attempt to repress the feeling out of worry that they seem to be a lot less of a guy. Plus, they could not experience it as a lot because the female-female concern because us ladies are a lot more suitable sensual creatures, each sometimes that is difficult now to not imagine that when they're somewhat quite.

Answer 6

Men are weird and even if you find a descent guy, you always have to be on the look out because you never know what they are capable of doing. When they think with their lower head, there is no turning back. I hate them all!!!!! but good luck.

Answer 7

There are good guys out there but you will PROBABLY not find one because we are good --really, really, amazingly good -- at hiding.

Sounds like you fell for a player with husband #1. "Why was it so easy for him to con you?" Rather than forgive him or get tough and cynical, consider a careful look at your own emotional make up to see how you fell into that! Was there a game you were taught to play that #1 epitomized?

Answer 8

in time you will find the right man. don't rush. i finally married the man that was my friend for 19 years, 4 years ago we got close. we have been married for 2 weeks. your young don't rush into a relationship. i did when i was 22 yrs old. he was my sons stepfather, he molested my son behind my back. get to know the man 1st the right guy will be there in time. good luck mom (couldn't help but put that there.)

Answer 9

I know exactly where you have been. Except for me, over 1 year later, I am still destroyed and losing ground every day.

I have a feeling you will look back a few years from now, and be very happy you are away from him.

Answer 10

yes u are better off and u will find a special someone and u will be texting your husband thanking him for letting a good thing go. I hope everything gets better and good luck.