Is it common for men to steal womens panties??

Question

i have found atleast 4 pairs of womens underwear in my house in the last 3 months and i know its not cause he is cheating because i know whose underwear they are i have also found pictures of my female friends and family made into collages right along with the panties....how common is it for a married man to steal other womens underwear...im not bad looking i am 25 years old and 110 lbs we have a fairly active sex life and he has never asked anything odd or freakish of me he is not the player type and is fairly shy but we have been together for 11 years..he says it has nothing to do with me but he cant seem to tell me why?? please help before i file for divorce i am extremely hurt by all of this!!!

the underwear were not given to him by the women and he is 27 years old we have been dating for 11 years we have been married for 3 years and he recently within the last year has developed a methamphetamine habit...please help!!!!!

Answer 1

First, he's not particularly successful at his career, right? It's O.K.... he may pay the bills, but he's not a great success in the workplace. Second, the sex between you two is relatively "normal", as you see it. At most 2-3 times a week, probably quite less. Even then it is almost always in the dark. Very little verbal communication by him during the act...

He can't tell you why. For the same reason he steals the panties, makes the collages and doesn't act on them. For the same reason he hasn't asked anything odd, or freaky...
He's not exactly sick (though it's headed there). He's repressed. Severely. Sex WILL find an outlet. When it can't express in a healthy way, it comes out in another.
Couple his repression with very low self esteem (the lack of great success at work) and he feels totally inadequate as an actual lover. Sex with you hurts his self esteem. It doesn't help it...
Since he feels incompetent in his real sexual life, he builds a fantasy one he is competent in.
He can't share his fantasies and his "super-lover" image he's created... that the panties, etc. are based on, because that would expose the feelings of inadequacy he's trying desperately to hide.

No, this is not normal, and his sickness is progressing. What you're seeing is the way child molesters and rapists are created.

Honestly, if it's been 11 years of marriage... little chance he'll recover without some serious, professional help. Even then the chances are he'll simply hide his sickness deeper... You have poor chances of a successful marriage. If you have daughters... well... you're watching how a child molester is created...

Answer 2

Well in single men it's not uncommon. It's a major fantasy/turn on to have something that's been close to a woman's privates. Especially a woman that you know and are close to. However since you are married... and you've found collages of pictures of your friends and family along side them I'd say he has a major problem and panties probably isn't all he's stealing if you get my drift. No, it's not you or anything you did or your looks or anything you didn't do in the sex department so please don't let the incident deflate your self-esteem but I would severely question his commitment to the relationship. I would definitely say he's at least having fantasies about these other women. And another thing... how in the world does he get into a position to steal your friends panties? I can't blame you for being hurt. I would be too and I would not engage in this behavior at all if I was in a committed relationship. Email me if you want to talk... let me know how it plays out. Good luck with it!

Answer 3

whew, talk about the kink, you never mentioned how old he is? you have been together 11 years, you met when you was 14? so thats how they do it in kentucky? I am understanding he is stealing panties from your friends? it may not have anything to do with your looks, I am not into that kind of kink so I am guessing here but maybe your friends are teasing him in an unexpected way or he is interpreting it that way. I don't understand why he would steal their panties unless he is making a voodoo doll. I am trying to think why a male mind would do something like that. maybe that's his way of getting close to their goodies without actually cheating. do the owners of the underwear know he took and has them? I am sure there are worse stories out there but that has got to be on the edge of being embarrassing worrying what your friends would think if they found out he took their panties. were they dirty or clean? he musta wanted to get caught or he would have found a better hiding place, maybe he wanted easy access to them for masturbating. I don't know if I helped you or confused you more here, I am trying to get my mind around what would motivate someone to do that, but with no experience on the subject, I am guessing like you are, good luck, maybe a panty sniffer will run across your question and give you a heads up.

Answer 4

the scent of a woman or the thought of having more wome n there of keep his man hood intact. He is faithful, yet he wishes more. The best thing you can do is work something else into the realtionship. Then again some men just like other womens panties. Its like dogs and scents. There is this one guy on here that loves panties he is a friend of mine and he has a pole with panties from nearly every girl he has had sex with (its allot). I have another friend that just wanted a pair of my panties warn he wanted to smell my croucth girl go figure. Men are weird. i find it sexy when I guy wants to smell my panties.

Answer 5

It is known as a sexual fetish...

It is not very common and some guys just collect those, to show them as trophies to their friends, some others as a real fetish...

Fetish means -
Sexual fetishism is a form of paraphilia where the object of affection is a specific inanimate object or part of a person's body. It was first described in these terms by Alfred Binet in his Le fétichisme dans l’amour, though the concept and certainly the activity is quite ancient. The term arose from "fetish", a term used in anthropology for an object believed to have supernatural powers.

Answer 6

wow....being a man a little older i have never ripped off any of my wife's friends panties.....i not saying that in any fantasy i wouldn't have minded getting into some but have never crossed that line....men are very visual so i guess it depends on what he did with them before you found them...and i believe you know what i mean....i don't think this a divorce worthy but it's probably a fetish....do any of the other women know that there panties have become artwork??? i hope that i have helped you....

Answer 7

He definitely has some problems. Before you file for divorce, maybe try counseling. Not so much for you but he really needs it. The best thing to do is not tell anyone and embarass him. Just keep it to yourself, even if you do get divorced. Otherwise it will just be worse.

Answer 8

I hope that is not normal. I would hate for my hubby to steal other women's underwear. But maybe it is more then I know, but mine doesn't do it.

I would not go filing for divorce just yet, but I'd try to other things, like couseling and stuff. I mean you married him for better and for worse. But he does have some explaining to do and fast! Hope this helps!

Answer 9

Girl I dont know. He would have to have an answer for me. Have you asked the owners of the panties how he might have gotten them? It just seems wierd to me. Maybe he doesnt ask u to do all the freaky things because he has too much respect for you. But regardless it's still wierd. Turn his *** out one good time, and see what happens.

Good Luck to you

Answer 10

UMmmm.. Sassy Says... Is this a joke? B-cus if it isnt I would get off the computer right now and start packing all of your stuff... Including your panties and run far far away! This is just odd.. sure makes me feel better Thank You!