K, i'll start here- 2 or 3 weeks ago, a family moved here and they happened to be my religion. They have a son that is two years older than me. At church, i walked up and started talking to him cuz no one else wuz. I talked to him about moving and crap cuz i had just moved here not too long ago too. Later, i introduced him to my sister (1/2 year younger than him) and the only thing she said wuz hi and kind of- answering his questions. Then he had to leave, so he did. Then it got interesting, I told my didter that I liked him, and she got all mad cuz she likes him too! Then his mom calls and talks to my mom for like, ever and when she got off, she tol.d my sister that the guy thought SHE wuz cool!!!!! NOT ME, BUT HER!!! i thought maybe he got us mixed up, but he might not of. I feel like crying and I'm shaking as I'm writing this. I feel so betrayed. I'm the one who talked to him first!! He thinks she's kool cuz she doesn' t like it here either, but guess wut She never said that, I did!
2006-07-10 12:23:53 · 34 answers · asked by tatertot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is a lot that goes into attraction, especially since you are dealing with a small time frame. People make snap judgements all the time, doesn't make them right.
In his eyes, perhaps he found her more physically attractive, or maybe he likes quiet, passive girls. There are a lot of fish in the sea I would not let this get you down.
2006-07-10 12:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh serious bummer. Ive had this happen too, not with my sister but my best friend. The guy I was seriously interested in asked her out but not me...even though I felt we got along better.
The answer is, no woman has a clue what makes a guy like her better than anyone else.
Guys are mysteries. Attraction is also very difficult to predict since its such a personal thing.
So you have to just be who you are and remind yourself that just because he liked your sis better, that doesnt mean that you aren't a great catch. You are just not HIS great catch. If he doesnt see that, then he probably wont ever feel the way you want him to feel about you.
As for you telling him he made a mistake and it was really you who said the things he liked...it wont make a difference, trust me. It will just come off like you are trying to hone in on your sister's new interest.
Im sorry things didnt work out this time..but there will be another chance to meet the guy who is really into you..not your sis.
2006-07-10 12:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by luckybluebunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself, and be happy for your sister. Even though you saw that guy first. There is no accounting for taste, and as he barely met the two of you, and didn't seem that interested in you or your questions, it seems he isn't into you.
That's life, so don't blame your sister. Sisters are for all your life, this boy, will come and go.
Who knows, after he gets to know your sister better, he may not like her at all.
So far all they have in common, is they don't like your new location. Meet other boys, and see if you can't find someone who really likes you.
2006-07-10 12:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes her because she is closer to his age. Or maybe he did get the two of you mixed up. Maybe your mom only assumed that he liked your older sis. Either way, don't feel betrayed just because you talked to him first. Talking hardly means that you get first dibs on a guy, it sounds like the two of you met him at about the same time. Hopefully your sister won't be interested and you can move on in.
2006-07-10 12:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tatertot, I do hope that it is a mix up, but lets assume the worst, just in case it isn`t, and it is your sis. he thinks he`s interested in. give him a chance to really get acquainted with the two of you, be friendly even if it hurts,,you can still be nice to her,and him, believe me, he will observe each of your character, and make his choice, but if there`s jealousy and bickering between the two of you, he just might move on to another. For now, try to keep your thoughts and feelings on a friendship basis, yes it will be hard at first, but it will work if you don`t get too anxious, being too anxious for anything can spoil everything for you. now stop shakin` put on your cool, it can work for you, "if it`s for you" and if not, you are not a loser, there`s something better for you."give it time" it won`t be the end of the world.
2006-07-10 13:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I've wondered myself why life seems so unfair, the fact is that sometimes it just is. I'm sorry but just because you talked to him first doesn't mean you bought and paid for him. He's pretty much free to like whom he chooses.
I know it doesn't seem right because you made all the effort and were really friendly and your sister just stood there but, unfortunately, that's the way it works sometimes. You learn how to handle these sorts of things over time because, believe me, this won't be the last time life will be unfair to you.
2006-07-10 12:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be okay don't worry about it we have all been through that ... just think of him as a friend and nothing else... also he probrably felt more comfortable around your sister because they are closer in age... i know that it hurts so much deep inside and you want to cry but y ou know what he is just a guy and if he couldn't see YOU instead of you sister then he is a loser... maybe he turns out to be a jerk you never know you just met him as well so try not to cry and if you feel that y ou just have to cry to let it all out then go right ahead and let the anger out and you know what works too put a pillow on your face and just scream let it all out and y ou will then feel better
don't beat yourself over that ONE guy there are so many more guys out there
ps if you feel like talking just email me @yahoo.com
2006-07-10 12:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by nikkig813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, er... I think you shouldn't get too upset about what a mom talking to another mom claims one of their kids said. We get out kids mixed up on a regular basis (many brain cells are lost when you become a parent). If he likes you, he'll like you. If he likes your sister, he'll like her. Just remember... there IS a guy out there just for you. He may just not be that guy. Take care... and be nice to your sister!
2006-07-10 12:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You JUST met him...your going crazy for nothing....all this is based on first impressions....he knows your sister about as much as he knows you....you need to kick back and give him more time to get to know the both of you......you guys might realize you don't like him as much or he might realize he doesn't like your sister or he may realize he doesn't like you....who knows.....you haven't even given anything a chance....calm down....give it time to know him better...i have no idea why you young girls meet a guy and just from that single meeting think your magically in love...give it time!
2006-07-10 12:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by 1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks she's cool, he didn't say he liked her. Anyway, he doesn't even know you guys yet! Let him get to know you before you fall for him. You may not LIKE him, you may just think he's cute, because he's new to you. I wouldn't let that bother me. To me it seems like you have other issues with your sister. Try to figure those out first, before you blame her for anything. It's not her fault if he ends up liking her, I mean, it's his choice. Just like it won't be your fault if he ends up liking you. Give it some time, it's still too soon to tell.
2006-07-10 12:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by xcelix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋